Controversial did anyone drink in pregnancy??

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Not saying I would was just wondering did anyone?

Just to be clear - you are right that drinking no alcohol is safer than drinking some alcohol.

But drinking some alcohol has not been shown to be unsafe (just marginally less safe than drinking none).

So there really shouldn't be any judgement in either direction - I highly doubt the people in this thread are drinking at unsafe levels.

Reasons for drinking? What reasons are there- other than "I wanted to"??
There are lots of reasons NOT to but I'm uncertain what the positives are to drinking during pregnancy.

To be fair, on this thread those who didn't drink when pregnant have been accused of being less educated/informed than those that did. That IS hilarious.

Just to be clear - you are right that drinking no alcohol is safer than drinking some alcohol

Nimble. Yep. And that's all you need to say really.

No, it's not.

Why abstain from safe behaviour?

I just don't understand the judgment.

If someone is doing something that they want to do, which doesn't cause any harm - what's the problem?

You shouldn't be criticised for not drinking (similarly, it's not worthy of a halo) and you shouldn't be criticising other people why choose differently.

Both behaviours are safe, so it's personal choice

To be fair, on this thread those who didn't drink when pregnant have been accused of being less educated/informed than those that did. That IS hilarious

No those that are judging other people's choices are being accused of being less informed. You aren't doing much to disabuse that view.

Still not hilarious either.

I am clearly "strange". Ho hum. I'll live with that to be honest.

No, you're not 'strange', Snoreyhell.

You're amazing - way better than everyone else. Certainly you're a much better person - and mother - than many of us on this thread.

Oh, and you also love your children much more than the rest of us.

That's what you want to hear, isn't it?

I certainly don't think I'm perfect Dowager but I do think I made the best choices I could for my children, as I continue to do now.

I think I was OTT in both my pregnancies. I didn't drink alcohol or tea, coffee or coke due to the caffeine.

I don't think you'll find I said you were perfect. Just much better than the rest of us.

Because you are, aren't you?

I think I made better choices than those women who chose to drink or smoke etc in pregnancy.

No, I didn't drink any at all. It just wasn't something I felt I wanted to risk. I wouldn't judge someone else though, it was what I felt comfortable with for my babies.

DullAndOld Your FAS face comment is vile. You should be ashamed of yourself.

When I was pregnant, it was accepted you could have the odd glass of wine.

Welllll Snorey we don't know what all of your choices were so we can't decide on that can we?

I may have had a glass of wine every couple of weeks but my children are also being raised in a home owners by their affluent, married university educated parents. Research suggests this will lead to better outcomes for them.

(Yes I am aware I sound like a complete wanker. Just making a point.)

I had the odd small glass during both pregnancies. Currently ebf my 3 month old and have had a fair few large glasses since he was born!

But you didn't make a better choice (on the drinking, not the smoking).

You made a different choice. Because there is nothing wrong with moderate drinking during pregnancy.

We will all make different choices. Doesn't mean one is better than the other

Because there is nothing wrong with moderate drinking during pregnancy. I disagree.

my children are also being raised in a home owners by their affluent, married university educated parents. Research suggests this will lead to better outcomes for them

Mine too, and I didn't drink. I'm not sure I understand your point to be honest.

I stopped drinking with my first two DC and resumed normal drinking with my subsequent six DC. There's been absolutely no difference in their outcomes (the youngest is sixteen, the oldest twenty seven). I never binge drank because that's not my thing, I merely drank wine as I would have done had I not been pregnant (to be fair I was pregnant most of the time).

Snorey the positive to drinking moderate amounts - so one or two glasses a night - are that it's relaxing, which is a positive all of its own.

*I think I made better choices than those women who chose to drink or smoke etc in pregnancy.

Well done.

My point is that there are so many variables in pregnancy that saying "you are making better choices in pregnancy" (than other women who are making a choice that has no risk associated with it) is a nonsense.

We would need to look at all of the choices that you had made in your life to make a ruling on that statement.

If the choice was no alcohol vs half a bottle of vodka a night, I would agree with you. However there is zero evidence to suggest that the choice between no alcohol vs one glass of wine a fortnight is a better one.

You may disagree, but you have no evidence for it

In any event, can you accept that plenty of women do with no harm to their babies? That whilst you have chosen not to, can you accept that others have?

And that that's their decision to make. That doesn't make you better than them. Just different.

For example - I am choosing to use cloth nappies. I could get all sanctimonious about it - but what's it to you?

Why so judgey? There are bigger arguments to be had

In fact there IS evidence to suggest that children of mothers who consumed alcohol lightly ( 1-2 drinks per week) in their 2nd and 3rd trimesters had better overall cognitive performance and fewer behavioral and attention problems than children whose mothers abstained from drinking during pregnancy.

So if I was going to be a dick about it I could say that I have made better choices than you.