People commenting on weight gain

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Sorry need to vent! I’m 23w (well I will be tomorrow) and I’ve put on 3lb which admittedly isn’t too bad but as this is my 2nd my bump is huge. 2 women at work will not let up about it at all, asking me how much weight I’ve put on (when would this ever be a normal thing to ask someone?!), telling me I’m huge, telling me when they’ve had their chocolate this Easter “I’ll be back at work as big as you!!!” Etc etc

It’s relentless, I know I’m hormonal but why do they find it necessary to constantly comment on my bloody size!

Just tell them when they are back on Monday that they look huge!

You have a baby growing inside you they will just be fat!

Hahaha, can you imagine, “crikey you’ve piled it on this weekend”!!! I just don’t understand what makes wing pregnant a green light for it.

'Well I'm pregnant, what's your excuse?' Head tilt.

Best reply I've seen on here😁

Poor you, 3lb is nothing, people are so bloody rude! People have said it to me the whole way through and I’m really not big at all. Aunties calling me ‘fatty’ and ‘are you sure there’s not two in there’ so annoying.

A lady at work kept saying things like this to me and one day I just turned around and said to her in a slightly snappy and pissed off tone ‘actually I’m not big, my last midwife appointment I was measuring exactly how I’m supposed to be for how many weeks I am so you clearly don’t know what you’re on about’ and she got the hint because stopped saying it!

hairgician I wish I was brave enough!

aspenn17 sorry you had the same, what is it with women at work?! I don’t see any of my own aunts as they’re very elderly but my husbands aunts gave me this the first time round, hopefully I won’t have to see any of them before the baby’s here this time!

We went for a work lunch for someone’s bday and they asked the waitress to take a pic, she said “ok everyone lean in so I can get you all on” and one of the women in question retorted “are you trying to say coffee is too fat to be on the picture?!”
She’d probably not even noticed I was preg at that point as I was sat down but it’s like any excuse they can find to have a quip they will 100% go for it!

I wish I'd only put on 3lb I'm 24 weeks and I daren't even go near the scales for fear of them breaking!!

I'd be saying 'I'm growing a human, what's your excuse?'

I had this.

Sit on them or eat them.

Or go complete crazy ass pregnant lady on them. Blame it on the hormones but they won't dare comment again!

Think I put on 3 lb by week 6 😂

I know I’m making it sound minimal with the 3lb gain but I really am huge my bump is absolutely ginormous!!

I had a brand new coworker say "aw, it looks like you are carrying all the way round like I did". So that made me feel good 🙄
Also the whole "look how big you are getting" is shit.
Just try and ignore them, or the comment about the midwife saying you are right on track is a good idea. I don't understand why being pregnant makes people think they can comment on and touch our bodies however they want.

I hate this! I'm almost 24 weeks and don't even have a particularly big bump yet big one woman at work has to comment on it every single time she sees me.
I don't even know her that well and if just feels really personal. I just know that whenever she walks into the room the first thing she utters is some comment about my bump. It's meant well but its driving me mad!

'I've gained a perfectly normal amount for x weeks pregnant, what's your excuse?'.

Or 'Don't know, don't care, growing a human'.

I wouldn't wish HG on anyone but one minor upside was that at 13 weeks when my mum snarked 'How much weight HAVE you put on?' I could honestly reply 'I've lost 6lb'.

• I'm a perfectly healthy weight but for some reason my mum has always tried to convince me that I should weight 7.5 stone like she did, even when pregnant, until her 40s (I'm 6'5", it's not a healthy weight for me).

Ha! 5'6"

6'5" and 7.5 stone? Even my mum wouldn't want that.

Eurgh I’m 32 weeks and the same. Huge bump but not much weight elsewhere. I’ve been getting the same comments for weeks. It’s relentless, from colleagues, friends and strangers. It makes me not want to leave the house. I’m not brave enough to tell people to mind there own business or that at least it’s because im pregnant what’s there excuse. I wish people would just keep their thoughts to themselves. I’m worried enough about how big I am without the constant reinforcement from everyone and his brother!

I’m 18w+4 and my bumps only just starting to make an appearance. I’ve always been overweight so I feel like it just looks like weight gain at the moment 😭

Purposefully have avoided telling too many people because having everyone commenting on my body for the next 4.5 months would just be too much for me but my MIL has decided she knows best and begun announcing it to the whole street regardless 😣

I’ve actually lost 13lb since we found out as I find it hard to eat anything bigger than a children’s portion now but I feel bigger than ever. So unfair haha

I would straight up tell them their comments upset you - they think they’re being funny but would probably be mortified if they knew they had hurt you.

I have no idea why pregnant women are fair game for all the comments and observations about weight gain or lack of it!

Congrats on your pregnancy! I feel you. I had to eat constantly when pregnant with DD, or I would feel nauseous. As I’d previously miscarried, I wanted to keep the pregnancy private initially, and had only told my lovely boss that I was pregnant. Although I hadn’t gained more than a few lbs, I had a colleague who was constantly making comments like ‘eating already? You’ve only just got in!’ and ‘goodness me, another snack.’ She was also extremely nosey, and asked my boss if I was pregnant after a couple of days of monitoring my snacking! Nosey cah.

Your'e not big, you're not fat and you're not overweight you're keeping a baby warm. Other peoples opinions are like dogshit.... all over the place and no bloody use whatsoever. Ignore them and enjoy being pregnant.

I hear you - the comments and....the touching. So intrusive. Next time they say something, could you just tell them the comments are making you feel down/self conscious and could they give it a rest?
It's nothing to do with you being hormonal, it's them being rude.

I'd say very loudly and very clearly 'fuck right off'

Honestly you can get away with loads when you're pregnant

I have the opposite - I'm 24w and hardly have a bump at all. I constantly have people at work asking me if I'm eating enough (although to be fair, I've had pretty awful morning sickness, so that might be genuine concern), where the baby is, and accusing me of lying about being pregnant! I wish people would just keep their bloody opinions to themselves! It's frustrating, when you'd be pulled up in front of HR for constantly making comments about someone's weight in any other circumstances.

Hopefully they'll get bored of it soon enough, OP

You have my sympathy OP. I am fairly shy and hate drawing attention to myself. I hated all the comments from work colleagues. One day I walked into the office, hadn't even got to my desk and got yet another comment on my bump, it just tipped me over the edge! I announced loudly that comments about my appearance made me really uncomfortable. Well, it worked! I got no more comments from anyone at work after that!

“Are you always so rude?” And smile.

If you're having a hormonal moment, just let the tears come. They'll all be horrified they upset you.

I feel your pain OP! I am 32 weeks. My 'favourite' comments from friends/family are those along the lines of 'Oh, you will be much bigger than I was at XX weeks' and 'Oh, I was never as big as you' and 'Why are you SO BIG, I was all bump' ... FFS!!
For the record, yes I have a bump but I am measuring fine (if not a bit small) according to my midwife and currently wear a size 10! And having looked at previous pregnancy photos of said friends/family commenting... all I can say is they must be very much in denial as to how big THEY got whilst pregnant!