People commenting on weight gain

[coffeeX10]

Sorry need to vent! I’m 23w (well I will be tomorrow) and I’ve put on 3lb which admittedly isn’t too bad but as this is my 2nd my bump is huge. 2 women at work will not let up about it at all, asking me how much weight I’ve put on (when would this ever be a normal thing to ask someone?!), telling me I’m huge, telling me when they’ve had their chocolate this Easter “I’ll be back at work as big as you!!!” Etc etc

It’s relentless, I know I’m hormonal but why do they find it necessary to constantly comment on my bloody size!

Oh and people calling me FAT. Wtaf?! I am not fat, I am pregnant!! As if you would call anyone else fat? Just because I am pregnant usual rules regards insults do not apply? SMH 🤦‍♀️

Oh I feel for you!

Two gems I’ll never forget:

“You don’t look pregnant, you just look like you’ve eaten all the pies!”; and

“Oh yes, you’ve put on quite a bit of weight haven’t you, especially on your face”.

Agree with pp that you need a spiky reply and “I’m pregnant, what’s your excuse?” is perfect

I’m back today but they’re both off, so I’m actually in for a nice day of no fat shaming!

Agreed tho normal rules need not apply when pregnant, no one ha ever touched my belly or called me fat to my face before pregnancy!

Working on what I’m going to be brave enough to say tomorrow as I know there’ll be some “wow you must have eaten a lot of eggs this weekend” joke coming along tomorrow.

Thank you all for your replies - I’m sorry we are all going through it but all the replies have made me smile

I was at my MIL's a few days ago, my FIL walked in and said wow! You've entered the gerbil stage!! 😕😠 now I'm 35 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby. I was so shocked I didn't know what to say but it has upset me.
Gained 3 stone with my first and I really did have a chubby face, legs, arms...the lot..went from a size 6 to a 10.
This pregnancy I've gained 2 stone but I don't think you can really tell and my best friend and my mum have both said the same. My mum always tells the truth so if my face was fat, she'd say but now I'm really paranoid!
Some people are just SO rude !!!!

emily my mum is also very free with the truth and wouldn’t think twice of telling me or my sister if she didn’t like our hair or whatever and she said she thinks my legs and arms look slimmer, which from how much I’ve thrown up that wouldn’t be a surprise but maybe it’s just an optical illusion from my enormous bump!

Your father in law was rude, hope your MIL told him so too!

@coffeeX10 you must be joking! She just laughed! Then pulled a face at the name we've chosen and told us it's boring and then started firing names at us!
I wouldn't worry about your 3lb gain! I've put a stone on in the last 5-6 weeks, until then I had a noticeable bump but hadn't gained much weight.
With my first, I went in to hospital weighing 10 stone, came out at 9 stone! I was amazed 😂 I just have to keep telling myself that my body is doing an amazing thing growing an actual person!

People seem to think that when a women is pregnant they can just say what they want without filters.
If you were just gaining weight they wouldn't say anything.
When I was pregnant I got told I was wide! it is bloody irritating to have people constantly comment on your changing body when pregnant.
I also had a women I didn't know say to me at 17 weeks pregnant- I wasn't as big as you at full term.
I didn't actually have a bump at this point this was just my normal weight.
She was a tiny petite person and I'm a size 16 - way to make you feel good about yourself.

You either have to choose to ignore them or say something back - either jokey or serious whichever your most comfortable with.
Sadly they will probably just keep saying things.

I didn't realise this happens here too, I thought Brits were just more polite than people in America with regards to pregnancy.

Now I see my experience has just been a rare one. Only have gotten a couple of comments about the size of my belly from co-workers, nothing from strangers. I'm at almost 38 weeks so at this point I'd find it weird if no one commented and none of the comments have been nasty.

A few more comments from family on belly size ofc but again not nasty. Only comments on any other part of my body was over Easter my MIL was quite shocked at the size of my breasts which are frankly huge.

Haven't had any unwanted belly touching but I'm not considered an approachable for hugs and such person when not pregnant so I think it's just extended to my pregnant state as well.

Sorry to hear of the rough time others have had. 😔 I would have had that experience in the US I think, because of the job I had there, but I thought things were actually different here for most women.