Worried the genders wrong

[Jords0105]

Hi guys we went private and found the gender out yesterday but we left it a surprise to find out with my family so we didn't see the genitals on the scan. What would you say the gender was from these pictures?

I can't tell, no idea which bit is which!

Yes flomper I know it doesn't work like that but I was unsure how to do it, no need for the attitude majority of you guys are acting like school children!

the three button at the botyom of every post, then report.

You should really have asked the sonographer as then you coukd have judged how sure they were. They normally only tell you if theyre pretty certain. Are you saying you asked them to write it down or something because you wanted to find out with your family present? I would worry then that theyd written the wrong thing down in distraction if you hadn't actually heard them say it. But I think gender reveals (should be sex anyway) are silly.

Did they tell you it was a girl OP?

Sorry OP, I was wrong, have obviously been spending too much time on here.

What were you told at the scan OP?

This is one of her meanest threads I have ever read (meaning those responding not the op).
Op that looks like a little boy to me, congratulations. Is this what you were told?
Also those picking on op for saying gender, get a grip and stop splitting hairs.
If gender is according to the oxford dictionary, a word referring to ‘either of the two sexes’ then if your baby has a penis, you can expect his gender will be male.
Unless the child later is in the small minority who decides to self identify as otherwise, then this may change, but really a pregnant woman carrying a biological male has every reason to expect his gender will be male.
Also, for the poster who says gender reveal parties are silly, who are you to pass judgement on how someone else celebrates their pregnancy.
Just plain meaness And bullying on this thread.

I cannot work out the scan photo at all. What am I looking at?

How can anyone even tell what the scan shows, and I’ve had 3 children

It looks to me like a potty shot, Babies bum, legs and penis in between. That’s what I can see anyways, to my untrained eye that’s what it looks like.

Shipshapeit
You literally took the words right out of my mouth. Everything you have commented on, I picked up on myself.
Couldn’t believe it when I read this thread.
And the whole gender/sex correction thing really annoys me. People come here for advice and a chat. Not to be made to feel silly and corrected for a choice of words. Or to hear someone’s opinion on something that isn’t related to their original post. Pathetic!!!

Thankyou so much guys you's have made me feel so much better, by the sounds of it I guess it was a silly question and I'm just reassured everyone can see he's a boy too, clearly just me over thinking! Thanks again, best get thinking of boy names!

Some people on here are just assholes to be honest. Simple. Congratulations OP! I can understand why you asked as I've known a few scans be wrong think it's mainly girls that have ended up been boys though. Hope you have a healthy rest of pregnancy x

Is the little horseshoe shape the baby's bum and legs?

Thankyou Leanne! And yes addy x

Were you told girl OP?

You know now I’m looking again it is a little ambiguous.
Is it a scan before 20 weeks?
What were you told op?

The correct word to use is sex - ‘gender’ is a social construct.

Congratulations 😊💐💐💐

I was told boy and the scan was at 17 weeks my 20 week scan is April 19th so I guess I'll just wait for confirmation then. Obviously I know the sonographer has more knowledge than me I just didn't think the potty shots looked like a boy but ah!

When I had my private scan the sonographer told me it was a boy. I was looking at the screen and said, "oh really? How sure are you??" (politely of course) and she replied "well what else do you think that could be??" pointing at his penis. It could have been anything as far as I was concerned but she genuinely looked at me like I was daft! So I understand haha.

The sonographer will be right, but the bonus of the early scan is that you can have double confirmation at 20 weeks.
Ilikebread, if gender is a social construct, and ‘either of the two sexes’ according to the Oxford English Dictionary, Then the op is perfectly entitled to use the word gender.
If a woman is carrying a biological male, then considering it will be her choice to bond with the baby through pregnancy as a male, dress him as a male when he is born and socialise him as a male in his early years, then why not use the word gender.
As only a tiny percentage of people identify as a different gender to their biological sex, it is perfectly reasonable for a pregnant woman who knows she is carrying a specific sex, to assume that she will have a child of this gender for The rest of their life.
Telling women that they can’t refer to their unborn baby by their gender is both patronising and offensive.

Totally agree Shipshapeit

I agree that unkind tones are unecessary but gender/sex isn’t about choice if words; they mean different things. They’re not interchangeable.

Sex is the right word.

It isn’t patronising and offensive to say the word is sex, not gender. Gender being a social construct means it isn’t a thing that you can atttibute to an unborn child. It is either, at this point (and all points in the fortune tbh) biologically male or female. Most people don’t identify as any gender; they just ‘are’. I’m female, a woman. I’m not ‘identifying’ when I say that, just saying biological fact.

Vodka but if you are intending to bring up your male baby, dress him in boys clothes and socialise him like a boy, until he is old enough to make the decision for himself, then why not say gender?
What exactly is wrong with it?