All of the sickness none of the glow

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I know there's probably other ranty threads that I can add to but I can't find one and I just need to let off steam.
I'm 8 weeks pregnant after 9 months of trying and one previous MMC. And I want to be really happy I'm pregnant, I really do. But I have never been so sick in my life. I've been in hospital twice (once for suspected ectopic, one for HG), I'm on anti sickness tablets, I'm SO TIRED, I can't eat properly, eating about 1000 calories a day in biscuits and toast, and still piling on weight and bloated to f so nothing fits, my skin is spotty, my hair is greasier than normal, I am so bitchy and moody (I called my DP a twt for eating the last slice of bread yesterday). I haven't walked my dog in a week (which I love doing but I honestly haven't been out of bed long enough to put on actual clothes) I've had to ring in sick 2 weeks out of the last 8 because of the sickness, I've had to tell people earlier than I wanted out of necessity of needing their help, rather than the joyful YEY WE'RE PREGNANT announcement I wanted. And yesterday I had THE WORST heartburn for about 8 hours straight. I thought my throat was burning from the acid I'd thrown up.
I'm fed up, and feeling very woe is me RN. I know I'm not alone. Everyone around me tells me scoffing that I "better get used to it" not realising that them saying that makes me want to burst into tears because if I have to live like this for the next 7 months I don't know how I'm going to cope.
Rant over. And breathe. 😂

Hi I feel your pain. I am 12 weeks now and still not glowing. I’m suffering with HG too although it seems to be easing slightly. What tablets are you on? There are a fair few you can try if these are not working. Come and join us on the hyperemesis forum. It’s a great source of advice and support.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3196238-Hyperemesis-Support

Aww you poor thing, early pregnancy is really hard and you sound like you are getting it worse than most. It will get easier from about 12 weeks onwards, I don't think anyone 'glows' before then !

It's really tough, and especially so when you have been trying for a while first and had a miscarriage and just want to be thrilled! As much as you are pleased to be pregnant, going through HG is hellish (as said above come and join us on the hyperemesis support forum), people saying you better get used to it have no idea how terrible it is, or they definitely wouldn't be telling you that!!
Take as much time off work as you need, I worked through fairly awful nausea and vomiting with my first pregnancy, but have been off for 8 weeks now in this pregnancy with HG, it really is in a different league.
Be kind to yourself, I too would have been fuming if the last piece of bread had been eaten, those windows of opportunity for eating something have to be taken immediately!!
There is also lots of great advice on the Pregnancy Sickness Support website, they are also very knowledgeable and lovely to speak to on the phone - my husband cried down the phone to them twice when I was at my worst!
8 weeks seems to be when the sickness really starts peaking so it is no wonder you feel so terrible - eat what you can to get through it. Please join the support forum, we all know how dreadful you feel!

I completely had a “what have I done!” moment in the first trimester. I was nauseous all day, couldn’t eat much and was so exhausted I could barely move. Something that I’d been excited about felt like it turned into a nightmare. I was terrified that I’d feel like that for the whole pregnancy. We did the parent announcements when I could barely get dressed and I know I looked dreadful! Not at all what I had planned!

However, after 10 weeks I got a bit more energy, found what foods agreed with me and it slowly started getting better. By 12 weeks the sickness was only every so often and getting better by the day.

I’m 17 weeks now and feeling pretty much back to normal. I’m finding the second trimester to be more aches and pains than feeling sick and miserable!

I read that this part is the worst because the baby is getting all of it’s nutrients from the tiny yolk sac. When the placenta starts taking over you start feeling better.

At this stage, you’re doing everything right. Eat what you can, sleep and rest when you need it and shelve anything that isn’t essential (if dp is still alive and the dog gets fed I’d call that a win!).

I was exactly the same as you in the first trimester! It does improve, I promise.

I’m in the third now and my skin cleared up, the oiliness cleared up, the sickness went away and I have much more energy. It all came back around the 16 week mark for me, fingers crossed it’s the same for you! The first few weeks were hellish, I feel your pain.

Are you taking an anti acid drug alongside the anti emetics? It can help.

Sympathies. Fellow HG sufferer and it’s just totally miserable.

Oh and if you're not on one already ask your doctor about an antacid like ranitidine or omeprazole - can really help!

Early pregnancy is such a horrible time. You're desperate to be excited but unsure of the future. And the symptoms are awful. Vomiting, nausea, reflux, constipation, mood swings, exhaustion. The only positive is that it will go away at some point! I'm nearly 13 weeks and having as many good days as bad days. In my first pregnancy I was 'normal' again by 16 weeks. Are you taking omeprazole or something similar. I find this really helps with the nausea/vomiting/reflux side of things.

Oh OP, I don't think I have it as bad as you and I feel rotten.

10 weeks of queasiness and exhaustion. Plus a nice spattering of acne, constipation and headaches.

I demand my glow! The worst thing is no one knows I'm pregnant so I ant even openly moan about it! Roll on 2nd trimester.

Thank you for the replies and for the reminders that I'm not alone/insane/this won't last forever. I'm just a bit down today I think. I've been very weepy whenever I talk about how I feel. I feel like I should be more grateful to be pregnant - I don't know. It's a weird feeling. I think I'd be a good poster for contraception right now I'm a mess ha!

I feel you OP.

I wrote a very similar post a couple of days ago. Just for a moan really. It's awful isn't it? I'm 8+1 and apparently this is around the time sickness peaks so even though we feel like utter dog sh*te now, hopefully it will start to get better soon!

I also feel your pain. I'm 9 weeks and also have HG for the second time. I know it can get worse (it did last time at 10 weeks) and I'm terrified. Already am struggling to function and eat and drink. Feel constantly nauseous and no glow and loads of spots and chapped and dry skin. Sick of puking and sick of being miserable and not having any life and clinging to the hope I will be better when I wake up. Repeat. Last time I was lots better at 20 weeks so I'm hoping that's the same if not before.

Hope you feel better soon.

So sorry to all of you who are struggling

Definitely no glow here either! If anything I feel like I've aged ten years in the last few weeks.
I'm 9 weeks and the 24/7 nausea and exhaustion is really getting me down.
I work full time in a very busy job where I'm on my feet and interacting with people all day. I usually love it but at the moment it feels completely overwhelming- I could actually cry thinking about going back tomorrow. The only thing that helps me feel even remotely less sick is lying still and I can't do that with a job and a four year old.
I can't plan anything, socialise or take DD anywhere fun. It's so miserable. Desperately hoping it gets better.

I hope we feel better soon.

@MinisterforCheekyFuckery I'm with you about wanted to cry at the thought of work tomorrow. It's really making me anxious. I can't get through a full day of doing barely anything I don't know how I'm going to cope with doing work.
But I've only got another 4 weeks of paid sick leave so I really need to weigh up sick time because it might be the case that I'm going to feel like this for another 10 weeks. URGH