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Disapointed after sweep

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Ragdolly81 · 14/03/2018 12:24

So am 39+4 and had a sweep yesterday at 2:30 due to bad braxton hicks and spd, and got loads of contractions proper ones so strong I couldn't walk or talk this went on for 6 hours every 10 mins along with nausea and then they stopped nothing since. My Braxton hicks are back and I have bad lower back pain and loose bowels (sorry tmi) but feel deflated now was really hoping it was all going to get moving. Is there anyway to get them started again. I have no partner due to domestic abuse so sex is not a option unfortunately. Been bouncing on birthing ball scrubbing the house like mad walking loads and going up and down the stairs as much as the spd will allow me

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Loosemoose28 · 14/03/2018 14:11

Try opposite you have just done.

Go have a duvet afternoon on the sofa, close the curtains, my friend swears a sad film made her go in labour twice (The Notebook/ Titanic for her).

Equally as I am sure you know these babies of ours appear when they mean too x x

TwittleBee · 14/03/2018 15:06

I second what PP said; on our NCT class we were taught how relaxation is key to start labour but then once in labour its the exercise that helps speed things up.

Grab yourself some Clary Sage oil and have a good bath (at a safe temperature for baby) with the stuff and possibly a massage with it afterwards.

If you haven't a partner to have sex with you could always masturbate? The waves of orgasm can help kick off uterus contraction (apparently)

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Ragdolly81 · 14/03/2018 15:33

Thanks I know they appear when they want was just hoping not to go over with this one as I am struggling with all the pains and chasing a very energetic 5 year old around lol I will try the relaxing later tonight might put green mile on always makes me cry haha. Thanks for the tips

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Springflower3 · 14/03/2018 15:36

Where you any way dilated when she done the sweep? Don’t be disheartened, my consultant said that if nothing happens before 48 hours then the sweep wasn’t successful! I had mine on the Thursday.... that night was the same as you painful bh.... then they stopped and by the sat I had myself convinced it didn’t work.... Sunday afternoon my wee man appeared in to the world! Fingers crossed for you!! X

TwittleBee · 14/03/2018 15:44

There isn't that much conclusive evidence on sweeps either btw!

My waters had broke and I was only showing very early stages of labour so to move things up my MW gave me a sweep when I was 2cm (without my consent I might add btw! she claimed she was only going to see how dilated I was). Went through all the pain etc you described and by time it died down 6 hours later I wasn't any further dilated. It wasn't for a further day and a half that DS was finally born.

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Ragdolly81 · 14/03/2018 16:10

I am 3 cm dilated and she is engaged just being stubborn and holding on tight. I have had braxton hicks since 22 weeks so when got the real thing got excited now I am back to braxton again. And omg by back side feels like I have been riding a horse for a week so much pain and pressure lol

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TwittleBee · 14/03/2018 16:21

You're certainly in early stages of labour then!

Froglette16 · 14/03/2018 16:36

I had a sweep on Friday, waters broke Monday night. Baby born just after midnight on Wednesday. Relax and give it a bit of time. X

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Ragdolly81 · 14/03/2018 16:46

I feel like I have been early stages for months lol just hope I go soon she is my 4th but I am more scared this time than I have ever been. Feel daft not remembering all the signs and what to expect. But don't want to bother the hospital with questions either as I keep thinking I should know this by now

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userabcname · 14/03/2018 16:51

Oh OP I hope baby makes an appearance soon! I remember the exhaustion and pain of late pregnancy well! I went for a sweep at 40w and she couldn't even do it as my cervix was too high and "firmly shut"...3 days later my waters broke! So there's no knowing! Fingers crossed for you.

TwittleBee · 14/03/2018 16:53

Bless you! Yup that's certainly how you feel in late pregnancy. I'm just relieved that DS came at 37 wks so never had the waiting game haha.

Maybe schedule yourself a special treat evening later where you spoil yourself and just relax. I know that's easier said than done though

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Ragdolly81 · 14/03/2018 17:03

I plan on sending the kids to there dads as he knows how bad I am at the moment he isn't dad to this little one that won't come greet us so he has offered to take the older kids to give me a rest. Then I intend to have a nice relaxing bath curl up in bed with a movie and some ice as I can't get enough of ice lately. Just hope so me time will get things going again. Thank you everyone its nice to know other ppl understand I am not close with my mum or anything so feel kind of alone in all this

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TwittleBee · 14/03/2018 18:36

Oh I feel for you! I know it isn't the same thing as having people there for you in real life but you always have lot on here. Finger crossed for you it gets going soon and is all good xx

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Ragdolly81 · 14/03/2018 18:52

Thanks I do appreciate all the kind words and help everyone gives on here makes me feel better and not so alone. Everyone is so lovely on here feels like a extra support network its wonderful

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JennyBlueWren · 15/03/2018 10:13

In sympathy with you. I had my sweep yesterday but she said I wasn't really ready for it and although there was always a chance I probably won't go naturally. Being induced on Saturday as baby's growing too big. Feel the discomfort of it (and trip to the next village) was for nothing.

TwittleBee · 15/03/2018 10:39

That is frustrating for you Jenny. Hope the induction goes well if baby doesn't appear before. Be prepared that induction does take time usually.

How are you doing Ragdoll? Did you have a good night last night?Really hope you don't reply to this as you are in middle of full blown labour or even better you are snuggling up with your newly born baby!

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Ragdolly81 · 15/03/2018 11:40

Still here no sign of baby yet but now my birth partner my auntie has been diagnosed with aussie flu so I am in a bit of a panic cause I don't have a back up plan. not sure I could go through it all alone like that.
Good luck for tomorrow jenny hope all goes well for u. So exciting getting to meet ur little one so soon.

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TwittleBee · 15/03/2018 12:02

Bloody hell what bad timing!

Midwives are amazing okay? They will be so there for you so you won't be alone.

I had a student midwife in with me and she was like another birthing partner but one with actual knowledge of what was happening! She was great, super friendly and totally understood my needs better than my partner or mum!

You will have the midwives there for you too. A student midwife would be great if there is one about as they will stay with you the whole time.

Honestly you will be fine. Sending you so much love xx

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Ragdolly81 · 15/03/2018 13:13

Thank you a student midwife delivered my youngest as she was first in the room as my ex was convinced I was wrong when I said i could feel the head lol she was amazing I think students can be a great support I always let them in the room when asked if I mind. It was nice of my ex to offer to help but his partner doesn't like me as it is so don't want to make problems for him. Hopefully it will all work out and my auntie will better by then

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Ragdolly81 · 15/03/2018 13:18

Thank you I am hoping my auntie will be better by the time this little madam decides to make her appearance think I just had a bit if a panic as I got freaked out but I am ok now doesn't help I don't drive and the hospital is 40 mins away and I keep hearing the 4th baby can come quicker so everything in my head just panics haha

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TwittleBee · 15/03/2018 16:59

It is unfortunate that your ex's new partner doesn't feel secure enough in their relationship to allow him to help you out! but tbh if I was her I probably would feel strange about it too! Bless you for not wanting to cause issues between them.

I hope your auntie does suddenly get better as I would be surprised if baby wasn't here soon considering you were 3cm dilated yesterday. Sounds like you are stuck in latent labour.

They (being MWs, other health professionals, NCT course) say that active labour starts past 3cm.

How are you holding up?

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Ragdolly81 · 15/03/2018 17:05

I would be the same as her to be honest I wouldn't be to comfortable with it. I am ok had a show a couple hours ago so just a waiting game now never had a show with any of my other kids so i did get excited Haha. No pains other than my braxtons and back ache I have noticed my belly has dropped even more now so fingers crossed it wont be long. My auntie feels awful that she has got ill this close to me going but it can't be helped. Everyone on here has been so nice it has helped me stay relaxed and not stress. Just can't wait to meet my little girl although I am nervous about changing her nappy never changed a girl before haha

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JennyBlueWren · 15/03/2018 19:42

Hope it's not too long for you now... waiting is so boring! Hope your auntie recovers soon but I'm sure you won't feel too alone once you're in -I don't think last time I would have cared who handed me water and gas and air so long as they did so promptly!

My dad told me that the only important thing to remember is that if it's a boy you need to make sure the willy is down and if it's a girl you wipe front to back! He was an expert nappy changer though!

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Ragdolly81 · 15/03/2018 20:03

Haha yeah I learnt pretty quick about the wily thing with 3 boys lol there dad didn't learn so quick lol. I have never even thought about having a girl always assumed I would have a football team of boys lol. Bit freaked out about it being a girl but if she is anything like me she will be tom boyish. She will defo be well protected with 3 big brothers though. I am sure I will be fine just waiting now keep hoping it will all kick off. Lost my plug but still only braxton hicks nothing regular though bad back ache lots of pressure like I need the loo but can't go. And crying at every little thing lol.

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HumpHumpWhale · 15/03/2018 20:10

I think you're going to go quite fast once it starts for real. Good luck! I was nervous about changing a girl's nappy too, I was scared of hurting her when cleaning her, but then I thought, if I had poo all over me and couldn't do anything about it myself, I'd want someone to do a really good job of cleaning it off! You get used to it fast. My girl is 21 months, and in most ways just like her big brother. I think what babies are like is more about personality than anything else.