feeling very low!

[bumbly]

it may seem trivial to so many here so apologies but I can't help it..

have had a pretty up and down preg with various problems and now am entering the home straight ie the third trimester

one thing i have been looking forward to (and I am not normally a shopper girlie girl) is to shop for the new arrival to take my mind off all my worries as well..but also cuz i believe it is totally natural to want to buy new cute baby clothes for your arrival

however my mother in law keeps telling me over and over and over again that i shouldn't be buying anything...
that i will get loads from others.

i don't have many friends as all (4 close ones) are abroad and thus have no idea whom she is on about.

sure i may get "some" clothes from her friends - but surely i need some starter clothes for the hospital..and whatever i get given will be later on...but also i am not the type to wait on others' gifts...i need to prepare now.

...but why would she want to ruin my one fun bit of the pregnancy? why? why is she so against me to buy my own things for my own kid? telling me every time i see/speak to her the same mantra.

anyone else experience the same? i am totally flabbergasted and at a loss for words...

really got me down - as being told this every day!

low! and feeling like my pregnancy is prettty much forever ruined! no joy in it!

she, MIL, is at it again.....

my husband never got round to writing a letter...various reasons - partly unfortunately cuz he is so scared of his parents and partly cuz he thinks it will make no difference...so still been stressing about this...

anyway we were at dinner together yesterday evening

I am 8 weeks away from popping my first LO, moving house at the same time, not yet finished the redec of new place, struggling to get all ready and she asks on the 1st of June.....

What am I doing for xmas day???

"I replied really haven't thought about it - perhaps want to spend first xmas alone with my hubby and LO..perhaps get people over 26th..not sure really..bit early to think about it.."

and says in a strop - "right only boring people spend 25th xmas alone I may have to go to Spain"

HOW THE 4%*%&%^ DO I DEAL WITH A PERSON WHO ACTS LIKE A 5 YEAR CHILD?

She has always obsessed about xmas for years asking us in the summer what we are doing - so she can tell her friends she is having people over etc and then on the day she says xmas is so overrated and watches telly when we go over...

but to blackmail me even now so close to due date...

and the story doesn't end here..but that was the worst of it yesterday

am really feeling end of my tether after so many years with them...it will be a nightmare with the LO I know....

I am a pretty normal professional person who in the years has dealt with all sorts of characters..but this really baffles me...

bumbly, I can't advise on dealing with your MIL but hope you find a way forward.

Try to focus on your preparations, do you have any baby/pregnancy books and magazines? The magazines are particularly good for helping to dream about the shopping you might do, with adverts and coupons for lots of the main shops.

Enjoy the shopping, whether or not you need it.

And on meeting more people here, baby should give you a good opportunity, it's true. I've found a brilliant drop in in my area and I've talked more to neighbours including some for the first time since Danny was born. There are things like the NCT, your council may fund some services and groups, mumsnet like many websites with a social dimension has spaces where face to face meetups are planned, and so do lots of those other sites - Cow and Gate has something where new mums can register their details to try and make contact with eg someone else with a 4 week old baby within a 2 mile radius. I'm planning to look back in when I have time left from mumsnet and my real life appts and form filling...

Must go and see baby and dp upstairs now.