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Not heart beat at 7 weeks and 2 days

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Sophlou · 26/02/2018 21:19

Hi, I had a scan at 7 weeks and 2 days on Saturday. The ultra sound scan dated me at 6 weeks and 4 days and said there was no heart beat. I am really worried now that the babies stopped growing at 6 weeks 4days. I am certain of the date of my LMP but not sure when I ovulated/ conceived so I suppose this could account for the a few days. Has anyone got any experience of this? Do I need to prepare myself for the worst?
I would really appreciate some advice. Thanks

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SleepFreeZone · 27/02/2018 09:24

I would go to the NHS scan.

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Sophlou · 27/02/2018 09:28

Thanks everyone for all of your reply's it's really helpful to hear from people who understand

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weasledee · 27/02/2018 10:13

I went through the same last summer, I feel for you. I had to wait 10 days between scans, longest wait of my life....
I didn't have a good outcome but some people do, fingers crossed for you x

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Sophlou · 28/02/2018 15:25

Not goods news I'm afraid. They said the pregnancy had stopped at 6 weeks and still no heartbeat. They said they still need to scan in 10 days as it's protocol.

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teaandbiscuitsforme · 28/02/2018 17:09

Oh I'm so sorry op. Nobody can say anything but take good care of yourselves.

fia101 · 28/02/2018 18:05

So so sorry. Same happened to me. I was pregnant with identical twins and at scan at 13 weeks was told they hadn't developed past 8 weeks. I waited another 3 weeks til I miscarriages naturally and ended up in hospital due to how quickly I lost blood.

Look after yourself and please take it easy XX

sinceyouask · 28/02/2018 18:14

Oh love :(

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Sophlou · 28/02/2018 19:47

Thanks for your supportive messages

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Luckystar1 · 28/02/2018 19:50

So sorry OP. I’ve been there. It’s so very, very hard.

Look after yourself.

weasledee · 28/02/2018 22:05

Sorry to hear this :(
Look after yourself x

LemonMuffin837 · 28/02/2018 22:21

I had the same, had to go back a week later to find a heartbeat.
They found one, I am now 36 weeks.
Fingers crossed for you x

LemonMuffin837 · 28/02/2018 22:23

I should of read all the comments before I posted sorry to hear that OP.

Windowgazer123 · 28/02/2018 22:25

@sophlou.
I’m so sorry to hear your news. I hope you have some supportive, loving people close to you.

CatsForgotPassword · 28/02/2018 22:25

Sorry OP :( this has happened to me twice, it’s very upsetting.

coastalchick · 01/03/2018 08:16

Unfortunately this happened to me and it wasn't a good outcome. I was 7+3 last time and it was measuring 4mm (or 6 weeks), they told me I must have dates wrong but I knew I hadn't. Anyway, trusted them and carried on. Still had awful sickness and sore boobs then at 9+3 started bleeding (faint pink when wiping at first, then blood tinged mucus) and went to EPU. Scanned and had to do internal and had trouble finding it (and obv at that point it should have been totally visible on an abdominal scan and baby like) so confirmed MMC.

I don't say this to worry you, just to give you my experience as sometimes it's best to be prepared just in case. It is bloody awful.

On the positive side: this was end August. In 11 Jan I found out I was pregnant again and this time had to have a scan at 7+1 as I had such a pain in my side they thought it might be ectopic - they did an abdominal and there was a baby there measuring right for dates. Had another scan this week at 10+2 and there was a baby kicking away and moving it's little hands - again, easy to see on abdominal. I am, of course, petrified of it happening again (or of something being wrong with it) but just wanted to say, if it is the worst, it is awful and horrible to go through, I won't sugar coat it, but there is hope and this pregnancy has felt completely different from the start. If it is the worst, MC is usually a one time occurrence (most common with the first) and most women go on to have a healthy pregnancy.

I hope with all my heart that your story ends differently with your current baby. But if not, we are all here and you will get through it. Good luck. xxx

coastalchick · 01/03/2018 08:20

Oh gosh, just read page 2 - so sorry - that will teach me to read ahead in future.

As I said above, this is a terrible time. It feels hopeless and like you will never be happy again. Take time to grieve, you need to and you should. But try try try to look forwards and try again. Chances are, this was a chromosomal abnormality so nothing any of us can control - the baby probably wouldn't have survived and nature was doing the best thing. Doesn't make it any less painful, I get that of course, but it is nothing you could control.

You will have a baby - it might not feel like it now but you will. There are loads of us on here this has happened to - stats say 1 in 4 but they think it might be as high as 1 in 3. Doesn't make it any less worse or personal but you are not alone. There is a lot of support on here.

When you are ready - the board posifricinative TTC again after Miscarriage (or something like that) is really good. Those girls really do understand.

All I can do is say thinking of you and I understand. Be kind to yourself. Lots and lots of love xxx

NickyNora · 01/03/2018 08:31

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Sophlou · 01/03/2018 10:35

This limbo stage is awful I'm just waiting for something to happen. I'm at work today and I'm really worried that it will suddenly come away and I'll get in a mess I'm wearing a pad, sorry I know it's not nice but does anyone know will I get a bit of warning like spotting or could it just happen like that. I forgot to ask the EPU yesterday what I should do about work. I'm aware this could go on for a few weeks so I don't feel like I can be off work all that time .

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coastalchick · 01/03/2018 10:49

Have they given you the option of having a procedure? You can either have tablets to bring it on or surgery known as D&C. I can’t advise about whether it will just happen as with mine, I just had mucusy blood and opted for the tablets as (a) we were going on holiday a few weeks after and I didn’t want it to be happening then and (b) I wanted to be clear ASAP as I was almost 39 when this happened.

I was then signed off for 2 weeks as you do bleed for a up to s couple of weeks afterwards. x

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Sophlou · 01/03/2018 11:00

I've got an appointment in 10 days. From what I understood it could happen before then and if not they would offer me some treatment. It's just knowing what do or expect in the meantime

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Sophlou · 01/03/2018 11:03

And I'm worried about it happening all of a sudden at work but I'm not sure if it happens like that

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coastalchick · 01/03/2018 11:12

I think it can happen any time unfortunately so I’d just be prepared. Get yourself some industrial size pads (night time ones are good) to take to work and strong painkillers (co-codamol etc) just in case - not ibuprofen though as think that can make bleeding worse. With any luck it won’t happen at work but just be prepared and get yourself home if it does - you’ll need to be very near a toilet.

Also, try not to look if it comes out (unless you feel you want to). With mine (and sorry if this is TMI but wish someone had told me) it felt like jelly slipping out - it’s not very pleasant but you will feel definite relief once that has passed.

Fingers crossed it doesn’t happen and you can be managed xx

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Sophlou · 01/03/2018 11:18

Thanks I prefer to know and thanks for your honesty it's better to be prepared x

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