How do people function in pregnancy???? Rant

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Sorry just here for a rant really.
38 + 5 days pregnant and pretty sure I'm close to becoming immobile... getting up of the sofa is a humongous effort as is simply rolling over in bed, if I even eat a little meal I feel like I'm suffocating yet I can't stop eating everything around me!? I'm also walking slower than my 90 year old nan and it's still painful down below and feels like the baby will fall out not to mention the never ending rib poking, stomach cramps, back aches etc, someone else please tell me they feel like this. I know its normal and its nearly the end but I just don't know how people cope with going up to 40 weeks +. Pretty sure baby isn't coming out because he knows it's cold

Loving the references to gin and wine xxx

34 weeks but induction due at 39 weeks if baby has not put in an appearance before then.

Yep...not feeling great and get your point lovely about becoming immobile, looking at how I am now...I fear this may happen to me and also about problems with eating but wanting to keep eating. Feeling tired and irritable (largely due to getting up in the night for a wee for the billionth time)
Sick of being told that I look massive...or have you got twins in there?
No-one in real life to hold a pity party with as my friends all have older children 8+ and have no intentions of ever becoming pregnant again (this is dc3 for me and I'm in my early 40's. so a late baby) they have clearly forgotten what it is like (as you do) and make comments like - "hasn't the time flown?" (meaning my pregnancy) no, not for me it hasn't.
It's half term and usually I love the school holidays but really struggling this time...dc1 (11) is no problem but dc2 is going around and generally trashing the house (instead of trashing pre-school) because we are staying in a lot instead of getting out and I am struggling to pick up after her so the muddles are piling up whilst dh is trying to keep the household on a generally even keel after he comes home from work.
Food doesn't taste properly either. So that's eating, sleeping and mobility all affected...and yet I have been told once or twice to make the most of it! Gahhh...I'm having a bad day today and this thread is really helping me to realise that I am not alone x

Let me set the scene for you. I pull up at the side of the road on a horrible, pissing it down day for my Midwife appointment. Pretty keen to actually talk to someone today regarding everything pregnancy related as my consultant appointment last week was cancelled. (Turned up to the appointment 30 mins from my home with my 1yo with me for said appointment to find out it was cancelled, no one bothered to let me know).
So anyway. Today. Walking into the children's centre where my mw appointment is, and ooooo good the gates open today so I could have drove in. I didn't. Because it never usually is, so I've parked 10 minutes away. (2 minutes for a Normal person, 10 if you're as pregnant as me). Get into the warm, dry building to the be greeted with the receptionists confused face. She checks the system, ask me repeatedly if I'm sure the appointment was supposed to be for today (I'm not a dipshit thank you I know it's today) so I even show her my notes where the mw has written today's date and time! "Oh. We haven't got an appointment booked for you" ooooooo gooooooooood

Oh no, New...Sympathies xxx. I would have been fuming! I've got this feeling that I need a good cry and then I will feel better but no tears will come (yet) x

@newmum7369 your words really inspired me and moved me too. 37 weeks today and I am feeling good physically, though lazy and tired obviously! but my insecurities about the way I look, (my face and general size) get worse by the week.

But if someone said 'your having a baby in 3 weeks' I'd probably start freaking out too

But I also have been pregnant for 2 years so have gone slightly mad too

@Twitchett22 I don't think in the last few weeks it's frowned upon to have a glass of wine if your keen. I will definitely be having a large one tomorrow (it'l taste like vinegar but dam i I will drink one)

@Lavenderdays we are all here for you! and we will be until we get those babies out of everyone! It's going to be so amazing and exciting when the first one arrives on the March thread (plus it'll make another day go by a little faster for us all )

I hear you. I'm 27 weeks pregnant with DC2 and DESPISE being pregnant. I had a homebirth with DC1 with no drugs, and can confirm that for me at least, pushing a 9 pounder out of my fanny with no drugs is a million times easier than being pregnant.

I'm two thirds of the way through a 9+ month pity party. Not one female in my family gives birth before 41 weeks we like to maintain the misery for as long as possible.

I've decided today that I need to bring my mat leave forward from 38 to 36 weeks. I'm barely fit to be around others now, never mind in 12 weeks

I was in work today and went to wash my cup and had to hold in the tears. I am in so much pain that every movement is agony, as is sitting still. (I have sciatica) And the worst bit.....I’m only 10 weeks, have been in this pain since 4 weeks, and my doctor said I’ll prob be like this for the remainder of the pregnancy. I don’t know how I’m supposed to continue working as normal while being in this much pain every day 😭😭😭

Nichola...that sounds awful...I have sciatica that comes and goes thankfully but it didn't kick in until 20+ weeks; it's soul destroying when you just can't get comfortable x

21 weeks atm but 2nd pregnancy. I'd forgotten how much I hated being pregnant. I have hyperemesis for the first 14 weeks which has slowly being replaced by reflux. I feel massive already although realistically I know I'll get bigger. I had spd last time so I'm waiting for that to start again. Feel bad about complaining to people but I absolutely hate it. My dd was a terrible sleeper, had reflux etc but it's was so much easier than being pregnant for me.

Serious well done to all you guys doing it already with little ones! My partner is useless at the best of times so I feel like I'm already looking after a baby . Im not even too bothered about the tiredness and it getting worse with the baby, I'm just looking foward to being able to move again!

@humphrey there is no way you should feel inadequate! Some people are just annoyingly lucky, you're already doing amazing by getting through you're 3rd pregnancy. What is hyper mobility? Sorry if I'm being stupid

@emma how far along are you?? I didn't hate it at first but I definitely jinxed myself by gloating about how great I felt in the first trimester, serves me right really!

@Lavenderdays bless you, I feel bad for complaining now, I hope it gets a little easier for you when baby is here, sounds like you're already doing amazing though.

@Nichola for you, I hope you manage to get some pain free days during your pregnancy and have someone to look after you! If not then just make sure you're not doing any more than you absolutely need to. Sorry I can't offer more help

I don't think it should be frowned upon for having a bottle glass of wine in hospital bed straight after labour. We're all nearly there now and it will be so amazing when it's all done, I'm sure there will be many more breakdowns, tears and pains between now and then but it will end eventually (poor elephants have to be pregnant for a whole year!)

I had twins. By 28 weeks I was the size of a full term Singleton pregnancy. I carried them until 38 weeks and was very big by the end!
My next pregnancy was a singleton and I found it a breeze. I admire people with triplets or more!!!

So glad I found this thread! I'm 32 weeks and really struggling! Just moving about feels like a huge effort. (Though it really doesn't help that I live abroad in an extremely cold country where it's always about -20 with a foot of snow and ice on the ground to trudge through). I have no idea how other pregnant women manage to go to the gym or exercise classes etc. It makes me feel like I must just be lazy or something. The end still feels so far away - I can't wait to be able to move around and to sleep on my back and to put my own socks on again!

I genuinely hated pregnancy so much. From the start I felt so weak and ill I thought I was dying and couldn’t work - couldn’t lift my head some days / weeks. Turned out to be twins which explained why it may have been so bad.

By week 15, the SPF started. Then the pain from my adhesions ripping basically. Then I got huge - people were making comments about “any day now” from 6 months in. I was so swollen I couldn’t wear shoes, even the massive new ones I bought. Oh and it was summer and insanely hot. Couldn’t sleep as I was in too much pain to lie down. I wa so miserable, honestly. The aftermath was even worse - my bottom half swelled up so much I got cellulitis in my knee, which was not fun.

They’re now 17 months and sometimes I miss my bump - but I will never ever do it again!

Also, to one pp - you can cope with a baby absolutely fine, I survived two at once so if I can, you can!

Trust me, it’s so much more manageable
when they’re small and stay where you put them! Make the most of them being little, not mobile and happy to be in their buggy, it doesn’t last forever! Go and get coffee lots and lots, I miss that!

I could have written this myself! 38+6 today. People keep telling me to rest but I'm so uncomfortable between the heart burn, the hip pain, the constantly feeling overfull. I can even have a nice nap because I wake up feeling like I'm going to be sick or my hips are breaking in two. I thought I'd got comfortable on the sofa but baby is taking this opportunity to dig her way out of my cervix with her tiny baby claws

Anyone else feeling like they are struggling to walk/stand?

Currently 34 weeks and feel like I am struggling to get around (I don't remember this happening so much in my previous pregnancies) but it feels as if the baby is sitting really low or something and I am almost shuffling along. Not painful as such, so I don't think it is spd related, probably the sheer size of my bump which appears to have dropped. Wondering how I am going to achieve the pre-school run over the next few weeks (max of 5 weeks as I will be induced at 39 weeks) - it's a drive and then a few minute flat walk, right now it could be a marathon. Normally, I will walk quite a long way without thinking about it, so finding this really debilitating. Is it just me...who with a few weeks to go, is wondering how they will actually manage? We are trying to protect dh's remaining leave for when the baby actually arrives, so don't really want to call on dh for this (he is brilliant when he gets home from work). Oh, if only dh didn't have to work right now; it would make life so much easier...but that isn't reality x

@lavenderdays not just you! Although I don't have a precious pregnancy to compare it too :( walking around 5 minutes I'm fine but any longer my whole pelvis/pubic area feels like it's going to open in two if that makes sense? I'm being induced at 39 weeks this Sunday so you can do it! I've just about made it xx

You’re all champs. Only 20 wks here and so not glowing ! Spotty and exhausted and already a bit meh in the joints and legs. Hated last pg, hating this one! I so remember how great the sleeping was even with a newborn ... can’t wait!

Managed to get out for a short walk today and felt so much better for it - although suffered a bit. Dh took the morning off and so we took the dcs out - I didn't realise how much I would appreciate just being able to get out of the house - it felt like a whole new world after being in with dc's over the past few days (half term) - dc 1 has had a heavy cold whilst dc2 has had a cough - a great excuse for lying low...but in all honesty I would have struggled with taking them very far.

@lavender it's amazing the wonders just going for a simple walk and getting some fresh air can do! Im.glad you all managed to spend some time together though, it sounds lovely . I'm being induced on Sunday and accepted baby will not make an appearance before then so just taking copious amounts of baths eating lots of cake to mask the boredom pain

Yep, DS was born in August and was 11lb. The last 4 weeks were the most agonising and miserable of my life. The pain from the c-section was nothing after that, and every day since has been easier, even with a baby and a 3 year old. Not long now, hang in there!

Bear, I remember carrying dd1 in a heat wave...well she was born in a heat wave in July several years ago. Likewise dd2 was an Autumn baby so once again heavily pregnant in the Summer...I am only thankful that I haven't got the heat to contend with this time.
LovelyStart...All the best for Sunday; how does it feel, knowing that your baby will be born over certain day(s)? I have an induction planned in just over 4 weeks if she doesn't make an appearance before then; I have heard inductions can be more intense because you tend to skip the run up contractions but at the same time it would make planning childcare so much easier for me. 4.5 weeks to go and counting!

So, get up to pee last night for the third time (with all the pain that rolling out of bed involves), manage to wake up toddler who starts crying until I pick her up, take her to the toilet too (hugging my head). I pee kangaroo style, then spend half an hour getting toddler back to sleep at 4am while she sings every song she knows. Finally back to bed when dh rolls over, blows me a kiss and stays asleep. But of course this morning "you should have woken me up"! How?? And before of after I peed myself? Very grumpy now, fairly sure when this baby actually gets here it will be me and dd awake 22 hours a day while he sleeps through.