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Anyone had a 6 week scan so can tell people earlier?

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Febe123 · 03/02/2018 10:17

It's my first pregnancy but don't want to tell anyone till I know it's growing in the right place. I know most people don't tell there family till 12 weeks, but I always drink alcohol when visiting family and it's going to be suspicious, so I'd rather tell them early but not until I know I won't miscarry.

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TheVicarOfNibbleswicke · 03/02/2018 10:20

My sister had an early scan and still went on to miscarry. It was hard for her to tell everyone. I'd tell close family and wait to tell others.

Maincat · 03/02/2018 10:20

6 weeks will probably tell you if it's in the right place, but not much more! Mine was just showing as the sac at 6 weeks. If you want to tell people then tell them, the scan doesn't determine if you can or not!

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zaalitje · 03/02/2018 10:30

At 6 weeks you might not even have a visible heartbeat yet, should be able to confirm it's not ectopic and in right place though.

And it's no guarantee about mc sadly. I saw a heartbeat on a scan at 6+5 with a previous pregnancy and went on to lose it at 8 weeks.

Lisalou88 · 03/02/2018 10:37

I had a scan at 7 weeks and saw a nice strong heartbeat and so shared our news with all our family on Christmas Day only to discover at my 12 week scan the baby never made it passed 7+5, so although everything might be ok at the scan things could still go wrong so I will be waiting until 12 weeks in the future.

Flatwhite32 · 03/02/2018 10:38

I had an 8 week scan in my first pregnancy. Growth perfect, heartbeat perfect. Baby died at 9 weeks, but I didn't find out until the 12 week scan. Biggest shock ever, as I naively thought an early scan meant everything was ok.

I'm now 16 weeks with pregnancy 2 and worrying every single day at the unpredictability of pregnancy. However, telling people can be helpful of something does go wrong, as you'll have lots of support.

JJPP123 · 03/02/2018 10:40

Pregnanxy is never safe. When you see a heart beat it's safer but it's safer still at 12 weeks and then again at 20 etc.

I had a scan at 8 weeks and saw a very healthy heart rate. By 12 weeks the baby had died.

After the 1st trimester things are generally very likely to go well which is why people usually wait for then.

LizardMonitor · 03/02/2018 10:45

It’s a 12 week scan for a reason as lots of things can be seen and screened for then, and not before.

Until then, ‘antibiotics for a tooth abcess’, ‘stopping drinking as a work charity sponsored ‘dry Feb ‘ are your friends, and possibly holding an empty beer bottle, drinking gin-free G&T etc.

kirinm · 03/02/2018 11:13

I'm now 9w and have told quite a few people however that is because I've had many miscarriages and decided that the people I've told will also be told if I miscarry. I saw a heartbeat in my last pregnancy at 6w and miscarried at 11w. This time I've seen a heartbeat at just under 6w and am currently too nervous to go for another scan for fear it's bad news. This is unfortunately the reality of pregnancy.

I think you can tell whoever you like and as early as you like so long as you feel like you wouldn't mind them knowing if things don't work out as you hope.

Isadora2007 · 03/02/2018 11:16

It’s entirely up to you, but I think those who know would also be those who would support you should anything bad happen.

Pittcuecothecookbook · 03/02/2018 11:24

I told people between 6 and 8 weeks as I figured that even if I miscarried I would want my family and friends to know.

GraceHelen · 03/02/2018 12:19

I had a bleed and pain. Gp was worried it was an ectopic pregnancy. Had scan and everything was fine. And unusually they saw the heartbeat (apparently it's common to not be able to detect heartbeat that early). Once we knew all was well we told all the important people as were too excited to kerp it to ourselves and after fear of loss knowing all was ok we wanted to celebrate. Yes it was early yes I could still have gone on to miscarry later but if I had I'd of wanted the love and support if those people too so decided why not share our happy new.

Congratulations 💐 x

surreygirl1987 · 03/02/2018 12:50

I'm going to get a scan at 7 weeks but more for my own reassurance than for telling anyone... might get a second scan at 10 weeks though as parents are visiting that weekend so would be nice to tell them:)

Rockandrollwithit · 03/02/2018 12:52

With both of mine I told people who I would want supporting me if something did go wrong. Everyone else found out at 12 weeks.

TheCatsPaws · 03/02/2018 13:57

I’ve miscarried after healthy early scans twice. It’s not a guarantee.

Didntcomeheretofuckspiders · 03/02/2018 14:02

We told our families at 4 weeks (although we didn’t know it was quite so early then due to irregular periods). People at work found out pretty early too as I was a vomity mess! I’m 10 weeks now and if it all goes wrong and I miscarry, so be it. What difference does it really make whether or not people know? I’d tell them about that anyway.

NishB · 03/02/2018 14:49

Hey ladies....which week of our pregnancy, we need to see our GP. Actually am still 5wks... Wishing all ladies and babies...blesses of God ... xoxoxo

Lj8893 · 03/02/2018 14:56

op there is no guaranteed safe time in pregnancy. You could still miscarry at any time up till 24 weeks (after then it would be classed as a stillbirth). It wouldn't make any difference how many scans you have.

By all means organise a private scan at 6 weeks for reassurance and enjoyment but it doesn't mean you are then in a "safe zone".

You may find you want to tell your family anyway and then you will have their support if anything was to happen.

Best wishes for your pregnancy and parenthood Flowers

Nish you probably don't need to see your gp, you can just self refer to the midwifery team who will organise your 1st appointment around 8-11 weeks.

mummyhaschangedhername · 03/02/2018 15:15

Firstly congratulations. There are no guarantees in life unfortunately, knowing early doesn't mean that nothing will go wrong, simply that at the moment all is well. 6 weeks is super early and is hit and miss if you will see a heartbeat, my early ones have needed to be 7 weeks earliest to see a heartbeat.

NishB · 04/02/2018 03:54

As you all said...I've started heavy bleeding....another miscarriage for my count....

cherryontopp · 04/02/2018 09:13

So sorry OP Flowers

HolyShmoly · 04/02/2018 10:03

I had an 8 week scan and told my mum and bosses after. If anything went wrong I'd gave told them anyway and if I had gotten bad morning sickness, etc I felt better that my manager knew why I was ill. Told everyone else after my 12 week scan.
But I only had a couple social events during that time and made excuses to either not go or I couldn't drink because we were doing something early in the morning.

HoneyCake86 · 04/02/2018 15:43

Ah man i wish i didnt read this now... got mine booked for 6 +5 but now im scared even more 😣

happytobemrsg · 04/02/2018 15:47

I had a 9 week scan with DS because all my pregnancy symptoms disappeared & I freaked out (which was actually completely normal). Since we heard the heartbeat we decided to tell our friends & family early.

If I get pregnant again (hopefully TTC #2 in a few months) I only want to tell my mum & MIL purely because if I'm as tired as last time I'll need extra help with DS

Feb2018mumma · 04/02/2018 15:48

I had a 8 week scan but didn't tell everyone til 16 weeks, had hypermesis so parents knew from having to take me hosptial but no one else, at 8 weeks could see heartbeat and little baby shape which was nice :)

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