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AIBU to not talk to my bump?

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ScurfyTwiglet · 30/01/2018 15:28

I have been reading about how some people talk, sing etc to their bumps. I'm expecting my first baby to arrive any day soon and personally I haven't talked to my bump whatsoever throughout the pregnancy. Even thinking about it just feels weird and awkward. I don't know what he's interested in, what would I talk about, the weather? I would feel very odd having a one-way dialogue about the likelihood of precipitation with my abdomen. Is that terrible?

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JJPP123 · 30/01/2018 15:30

I didn't talk to my bump. The baby will know your voice from you going aboit your day to day life

JuliannaBixby · 30/01/2018 15:31

I've always thought it was an odd thing to do. If it matters at all that the baby needs to recognise your voice they'll hear it every day anyway.

lovelystar · 30/01/2018 15:32

The baby probably won't notice the difference between if you're talking to him or if you're talking to anyone else in day to day life. I only do it because I have no-one else to talk to and need to rant about by DP to someone

MorningstarMoon · 30/01/2018 15:34

I don't see the problem in not speaking to bump. He/She would have heard your voice going about your day to day business.

Tiredmum100 · 30/01/2018 15:35

I didn't talk to either bump. I don't feel it disadvantaged me in bonding with my to born child. If they can hear your voice anyway then they listen to it all day long. It's not as if it knows your talking to it directly. However that said, if people want to and enjoy talking to their bumps nothing wrong with that either.

Lilonetwo · 30/01/2018 15:35

I haven't ever talked to my bumps. As pp said- baby will recognise your voice from your day to day talking.

In fact when my DS was born (c section) and cried his first cry while they were cutting cord. The moment they put him on my chest and I spoke to him and he heard my voice, he settled immediately.

It was the most magical experience to be able to do soothe him like that at that time. I will never forget it.

Stringofpearls · 30/01/2018 15:36

I don't think it's unreasonable if it doesn't feel right to you. I, on the other hand, am finding it a useful alternative to talking to myself or the cat when no one else is home !

mindutopia · 30/01/2018 16:11

No, I think it's a bit odd to be honest. I'm in my 3rd pregnancy and I have truly never talked to any of them. I work during the day and have a busy home life. I'm lucky if I get to have a private conversation with my dh! I certainly don't have the time or the interest to be tallking to my bump. Not to say there's anything wrong with people who do, but it's a little strange and probably not the norm.

NoSwsForYou · 30/01/2018 16:13

I don’t think I ever spoke out loud to my bump, but I did talk a lot anyway (teacher) so figured he knew my voice anyway! I did find that I stroked it a lot unconsciously as I got bigger though

HappyLollipop · 30/01/2018 16:17

I never really spoke to my bump but my son recognised my voice straight away after the birth. They hear you day to day anyway so there's no need to talk directly to your bump.

JuliannaBixby · 30/01/2018 16:21

My friends husband read her bump a goodnight story each night

(not envy just a bit icky)

KalaLaka · 30/01/2018 16:24

I find it equally strained to find things to say to newborns.

Celebelly · 30/01/2018 16:59

Not to say there's anything wrong with people who do, but it's a little strange and probably not the norm.

Erm, you pretty much just did say that...

I don't think it's strange or abnormal to do it and it's not strange or abnormal to not do it. Just do what you want.

silkpyjamasallday · 30/01/2018 17:06

You can do whatever feels right for you, nothing unreasonable either way. I talked and sang to DD everyday, and DP did too and we would dance around singing our favourite songs to her. Just seemed right for us I remembered singing to my DB when my mum was pregnant with him and it was lovely feeling him kicking when he heard me singing.

Mustang27 · 30/01/2018 17:40

I didn't talk to either of my bumps and I have a great bond with both my children. I wouldn't worry about it.

Steeley113 · 30/01/2018 17:54

Nope never talked to my bumps, although if they’re in my ribs I may huff and puff and tell them to shift I always just talk normally to newborns too, I don’t sing nursery rhymes or any of that really. Just say oh it’s milk time or let’s change that nappy then.

bluechameleon · 30/01/2018 17:58

Definitely not this time around. I just lied and said I did when my midwife asked. I can't remember if I did when pregnant with DS- I think I might have done a bit. DS does kiss it and say hello, good night etc which is very sweet.

Hippydippydoo · 30/01/2018 18:00

Second pregnancy here...didn't talk to first bump and certainly don't have time to talk to this one. Don't sweat it.

Shutupanddance1 · 30/01/2018 18:01

Christ, I must be abnormal then .

Second pregnancy and sometimes when I have 2 minutes before bedtime I’ll say hello to my bump and usually say something when baby is dancing on my bladder

Vodkafairy75 · 30/01/2018 18:06

At my Ante Natal class last week my midwife was talking about when you talk to your bump or sing to it in the shower and I was sitting there thinking do people actually do that . No one else agreed or disagreed so not sure if the others do or don't. I also think it's a bit strange as I wouldn't know what to say to him and would feel kind of awkward chatting to my bump. Glad that it's not just me that feels like this 😂

He will have heard my voice with talking to people at work and at home, the cats and also when I politely tell him to stop kicking me as they are getting quite strong now. I'm sure he will be able to recognise my voice when he is born 😊

unicorncow · 30/01/2018 18:44

I've never heard anyone say "my mother didn't talk to me while I was in the womb, it's affected me terribly" your baby will be fine, he or she will have heard your voice throughout your pregnancy anyway :)

BigBaboonBum · 30/01/2018 18:50

I’ve always thought it was a super weird concept. I was told it’s not for babies benefit but for mothers benefit to help her realise there’s a real human inside of her and hopefully aid bonding at birth. I’ve never done it personally but I do rub my bump without thinking about it, probably because it feels so weird to have a big round belly

ClaryFray · 30/01/2018 19:11

I never did, and mine turned out fine.

PandaCat · 30/01/2018 20:24

I haven't, I didn't really with my first either. I always found talking to babies weird, so talking to a bump doesn't come naturally to me

HolyShmoly · 30/01/2018 23:00

I sometimes pass comment to mine, but I've been known to hold a full scale conversation with myself or just talk out loud a lot when I'm on my own. So I'm probably not a good standard of normal.

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