Pregnant and never been so fed up

[FirstMumToBe]

Anyone else feeling like this? I'm finally 31 weeks, and I could not be happier about my first baby being on the way, but I can't help myself from feeling fed up... there's nothing in particular I'm just feeling like shit, then I feel even worse for feeling shit because this should be a happy time.
I have got an amazing support around me, but when you can't explain why you're so upset, randomly crying or feeling down it's hard for them to understand.
I guess it's just a mixture of my emotions and hormones.

My mind is constantly playing over drive and I feel like I'm going to let everyone down, I don't even want to think about how I'm going to cope on statutory maternity leave, there is a million and one things going through my head.

22 weeks here, I feel exactly the same. I'm exhausted, in a lot of pain & my hormones are all over the place. My friends laugh it off when I'm sobbing my eyes out over absolutely nothing, which doesn't help!!

I'm going onto MA as no longer working...i'm alternating between freaking out that i'm going to be utterly skint & kicking myself because MA is more than what i'm on now!!

Lots of sympathy here OP x

I think feeling like that it fairly natural, i am 36 weeks now and i nearly cried on the phone to the NHS just now because the reception couldn't get through to the clinic (unrelated to pregnancy and not urgent). i was like wtf!

I have just left work and really struggling not to feel down about how everything is about to change and feeling like a lazy bugger because i have a whole list of stuff i wanted to do when i was off work and now im sitting around on the internet...

I'm in pain down there, apart from finishing work I am so ready for this baby to make an appearance! In the past couple of weeks I've found myself crying alot more, but this morning I just burst into uncontrollable tears for no apparent reason.
I've been attempting to get my hospital bag but can't seem to get it over and done with, it's taking me hours just to pack little bits.
My OH is so excited and I feel bad when he sees me so upset, he can't understand why and to be honest I don't know why myself!!
Hopefully it will soon pass for us @mustbemad17 @Iamnotacerealkiller x

Everyone keeps telling me it will fly by...i sometimes resist the urge to scream 'not for me it f**king won't'

I think i'm feeling cheated because my last two pregnancies were a bloody dream from start finish. This must be karma. I am a bit resentful of anyone not pregnant, which is ridiculously selfish!!

It's a good job these babies are worth it isn't it 😂

@mustbemad17 to be honest I have loved being pregnant, but it is definitely not flying by, when I think about it I'm like wow not got long let but then at the same time I'm like shit I have been pregnant foreverrrrr!!
I guess as it's my first I don't know what to expect - I've got everything set up and now it's just a waiting game.
It didn't help getting a talk down from my mum about being able to cope financially whilst on maternity leave and that she will help out where she can through out it ... Lovely and generous offer but it didn't half make me feel like I've let her down

Fly by? no. ever since we found out sex at 20 weeks its felt like a crawl. having xmas at the start of 3rd trimester didn't help.

I remember having bad leg and nervey type pains in my hips and thighs and lower back from about week 30. in the last week or so this seems to have improved (36weeks) so perhaps is was because he was growing by a pound ever two weeks so i was stretching everything.

FirstMum that's a massively deflating conversation to have had!! I remember that well tho, I was 23 when I had DD & it wasn't brilliant, not a great situation. This time my mum is overjoyed & in fully excited granny mode 😂

I have SPD already, got a kick ass support belt going on. Hoping it eases off as he shifts his arse off my ligaments!!

I love having my DC but definitely not a fan of being pregnant and what it entails lol

I’ve just got a dull pain in my hips and around there when I stand up, walking, then the worse ever is when I’m turning in bed, that kills me. I had midwife yesterday and she said to get a support belt so need to look into getting one of those !
My mums looking forward to being a grandma I’m guessing she’s just worried, however I have took it into account! Just that talk wasn’t what I needed ☹️

Plus I’ve got my final accounting exam next week so stress levels are up to get that done and hopefully passed !!

I'm 38 weeks on Thursday and I've felt EXACTLY the same as you since Christmas.

Don't feel too bad about your hospital bag First, mine is a pile of stuff half shoved into a holdall in the corner of the bedroom - I have no motivation to sort it out properly and I'm nearly due.

Doesn't help that we bought a house in Jan and it's still not ready to move into - OH and DF are laying the laminate floor as we speak.

OP I could have written exactly your post. 31 weeks too and I feel lousy, but without being able to pinpoint exactly why. Just utterly drained I suppose and permanently blue (not proper antenatal depression or enough to see a doctor- just a bit down). I don't finish work for another 4.5 weeks and no idea how I'm going to get through it. Feel like a whale amongst all the sleek little dolphins every time I waddle over to the printer... Unintentionally, DH isn't really helping either as he's off skiing for 10 days this weekend, and then for a last boys weekend when I'm 37 weeks, whereas my social life consists of pyjamas and Netflix. And oh god I want a big glass of red wine and a really rare steak...

Whinge over...

Arghhh @smeerf, I'm really hoping it will pass, I feel so deflated. I'm debating taking a day off work to have a little break, I'm mentally drained and have spent most of the day unfocused and staring at the screen on mumsnet..
Least you're slowly getting there! You'll have a lovely new house and baby, how exciting!!!

I honestly don't know how you ladies are still working! I lost my job in November & tbh now i'm glad, every day i seem to get more & more tired. Hats off!!

First definitely take a day off - in fact MrsMcW, everyone who's still working, take a day off! You still accrue holiday time when on mat leave so who cares if you use a few days for no reason now.

Watch some stupid TV, eat comfort food and lie on the couch with a duvet. It is the only cure.

Sorry you're all feeling so fed up, but very nice to know I'm not alone. I can relate to all of your posts so much. 36+5 here and feeling like crap, have had terrible sickness and nausea throughout and still struggling. Am anaemic but the iron supplements are making me more sick and giving me diarrhea (sorry tmi). Sooo emotional and keep finding myself crying uncontrollably at anything. One more day of work before mat leave, can't come fast enough, I just wamt to hibernate til this baby arrives.

Ah I was like that for ages, I just felt really flat and not excited. You've just got to be kind to yourself - it's hormonal I suspect. Try and enjoy stuff outside of pregnancy - go out for dinner with your DH, go to the cinema, do little projects in the house - whatever you find satisfying. Your excitement will come back!

Emu yes with the hibernation!! I have decided that pregnant women should be allocated cosy caves with duvets & cushions, trashy TV & endless snacks. Then not bothered with trivial day to day stuff.

I think I was a bear in a former life

That would be wonderful mustbemad, I have zero inclination to move away from the comfort of the sofa - would love a cosy cave.

A happy time??! Being pregnant??! God no! Lol.
I think the problem for a lot of people (especially with their first) is that they expect far more from pregnancy, but in reality pregnancy is painful and headachey and almost constantly “bleh”.
Give yourself a break, pregnancy is usually a pretty miserable experience but there’s nothing wrong with you - it’s totally normal.
Currently 24 weeks with my third and you forget how shit it is almost straight away... mother nature’s way of tricking you into having another when you’re left with a lovely squishy baby! Lol

I'm starting to get this too. Baby very much wanted after 3mcs, and I had a fantastic second trimester with lots of energy and no real bump. I'm 30 weeks now and feel absolutely huge, still have another 8 weeks left of work, our house renovation is going on for another 5 weeks, and I've started waking up at 5am every day for no apparent reason so just exhausted and don't know how I'll get through the next 10 weeks - suddenly the actual baby seems so far off. And I'm sick of the dust in the house and not having a washing machine and working 12 hr days. I try to tell myself how lucky I am but wouldn't mind being knocked out for the next 2 months until it's time to give birth!

Yep I’m with you OP!! I’m due on Friday and I’m an absolute fucking delight at the moment. I’m seeing everyone on the planet have their babies early and mine is stubbornly refusing to move anywhere at all- digging my ribs is clearly far far better!! I’m being a selfish cow and I know I am- I had a couple of losses before this much wanted first baby but holy shit I just want the bloody child out now. I’m also slightly terrified that the longer the baby stays inside then the more chance it has to end badly. Like I said. Irrational is my middle name now!

Anyway enough of my whining- just signing in to let you know you are not alone!!!!

Big i'm on my third too...have yours gotten easier or worse, just out of curiousity? I think i'm being royally punished for two seamless pregnancies...and i also wonder how any woman has the balls to go on & have another baby after suffering months of morning sickness/SPD/endless fatigue!! This little boy will be my last 😂

I'm 33 weeks and cried when I was inspecting a nursery (for March 2019!!) today. For no reason other than I was impressed and overwhelmed with everything they were telling me (it was a fairly amazing nursery).

@mustbemad17 far harder! Every time. First one I used to walk miles every day, I felt like crap but still it was so easy (after hyperemisis ended). Second one no hyperemisis so I thought I was laughing, then I was radiated by SPD/heartburn and headaches that could cripple a war elephant from frigging lord of the rings.
This pregnancy is the most painful, I’m wondering if my pelvis has given up entirely and moved out or if it’s just really angry at me for carrying another child after two nearly 10pounders.

Bloody tonnes of fun this is!

OMG i'd have stopped at one 😱 I used to have much empathy for anyone with any symptoms, as i gleefully moved, ate, drank, slept however i saw fit. Clearly the karma gods are on me, i have SPD, sickness & nauseau, am so tired i can barely open my eyes some days. I reckon I stock piled my pregnancy symptoms 😂😂