Two miscarriages in a row

[mum267]

Hi mums,

Any advice for me please? I had a healthy baby over 2 years ago. I then had a missed mc a few months ago- baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and I found at when I was 10 weeks. I had a d&c and all went well. I had waited one period cycle and then got pregnant again only I am now mc at 6 weeks (heavy bleeding but no pain). All 3 times I conceived the month I tried but issue now seems to be with continuing the pregnancy.

Is this just a coincidence or do I need to investigate this?

Has anyone had similar experiences?
Thanks

I’m in the middle of my 3rd miscarriage now (though one was before 5 weeks so not sure hospital count it) and have been referred for investigations. I think it’s normally 3 in a row or 2 if you have other risk factors (I have a suspicion of uterine scarring).

Make an appointment with your GP to discuss when it’s all over.

Hope you are ok, it’s really miserable isn’t it.

Haven't got any advice just want to say I'm sorry and hope you are ok. I am currently in bed going through my first mc 5 weeks. I would go to the doctors and ask what steps to take next. I'm going to the early pregnancy unit tomorrow my Dr told me to ring them xx

Thanks- my sympathies with you both. It is a horrible time :( May I ask how long you waited between ur mc before trying again. I too am concerned about scarring after my d&c- they told me they did mostly suction and only a tiny bit of light scraping but who knows what really happened...

I didn’t wait long, just one cycle. But I’m going to take a break now as I’m a bit broken and exhausted by it all and want to get some basic investigations first.

OP if you don't have any pain you really should get a scan to check what's going on. Not all bleeding is a miscarriage.

Of course it's not a good sign either. But you should find out for sure what's going on with this pregnancy.

So sorry to hear about your losses. It's a really tough time. I have had a similar situation. I have a 2 year old boy conceived very easily with no problems. I had a missed miscarriage in June last year (at 9 weeks, baby stopped growing at around 6), and one period and got pregnant again the next cycle, but had another missed miscarriage in September (exactly the same time as before). I had to have an ERPC for both.

They sent the tissue off for testing both times, the first one they couldn't find a reason for the miscarriage, the second was chromosomal abnormalities. The specialist said given my age (33) and the fact I already have a child it is unlikely anything is wrong, more likely to just be very very bad luck. He tested some hormone levels but he didn't recommend any further testing at that stage (I went private so would have been paying for it, I didn't want to wait until I'd had 3 miscarriages when you get referred to the NHS).

It's such a hard thing to go through. If you can afford to see a specialist and get some advice and possible tests and you think that this would make you feel better than I recommend it. I wanted to feel like I was in control (as much as you possibly can be in this situation). But you should take comfort from the fact you have conceived and carried a healthy baby....it means it's even more likely just terrible terrible luck rather than something wrong.

Thanks for sharing - it is such an ordeal- especially not knowing if it's just a coincidence or because of an underlying issue. Wishing you all the best. I want to start trying again ASAP but also wary my body may need rest. It would be great to hear some success stories- to feel like there's always hope!

Don’t give up hope. I fell pregnant with DS after 6 months ttc and then had two miscarriages in a row at the start of last year (fell pregnant each time we tried, but the pregnancies didn’t continue). I then fell pregnant again 3 weeks after the last mc and now have a 4 week old. I was offered an early scan this time as I had had 2 mcs, so when you do fall pregnant it is worth checking whether your local nhs services offer this.

Its so tough, I’m sorry. I had two MMC in a row. I am 14w pg now though, conceived two cycles after last MMC. We didn’t even wait one cycle to start trying again this time.

It generally is just terrible luck. Even with 3+ miscarriages often no cause is identified.

This time I read ‘it started with the egg’ and followed a plan from that, but obviously can’t say conclusively if it made any difference.

Thank you all, it's so comforting to hear it can happen! Have any of you considered trying baby aspirin or progesterone supplements in the future?

If you're looking for success stories I am also pregnant again! I didn't want to mention it in my post above as I wasn't sure if it would make you feel better or worse. I was prescribed progesterone pessaries, low dose aspirin and clexane injections. I didn't have any tests that indicated I needed these, but my doctor said there is evidence that they help in cases of recurrent miscarriage and that there is no harm in taking them, so i thought why not. Obviously I am not a doctor and didn't look at any research etc, I trusted him and the pregnancy is progressing well so far. But obviously speak to your own doctor if you're thinking about a plan of action for next time.

I had two miscarriages before my two kids. Just one of those things. It's awful, but it's very common. They don't usually investigate until you get to three because having two is still more likely to be nothing than something, iyswim. Totally uncomplicated 3rd and 4th pregnancies.

DD was my first pregnancy - month 2 of trying.

Second pregnancy (month 1) ended in MMC at 13 weeks.
Second cycle after that I conceived again, but MC at 6 weeks.
Third cycle after that, DS (now 6mo) was conceived.

Good luck!

OP this could definitely be terribly bad luck rather than a fertility problem, especially if you have had a healthy pregnancy and are now continuing to conceive easily. It sounds like you've got plenty of eggs and your partner's sperm is probably good. In your position I would probably give myself whatever time I needed to recover and try again - from experience, I suspect this is what any responsible doctor would suggest. I hope you feel reassured that there is a decent chance you are ok.

I agree that you should probably get checked out if there is no pain. I've bled horrendously and still been pregnant.

So sorry for everyone going through such shitty times .

Hi @mum267, have you been to the EPU to confirm you're having another MC? I'm so sorry about your previous losses. I have no living DC but I've also had two MCs - v similar to you, one at 6 weeks and the other a MMC at 10 weeks and also had a D&C.

I'm currently 18+4 weeks pregnant, the only thing I did differently was take 75mg aspirin daily. I have no idea if this is what helped but I was actually advised to start taking baby aspirin at 12 weeks anyway due to risk of pre eclampsia - when I sheepishly told the consultant I'd been taking baby aspirin anyway and if it would do any harm he said absolutely not - the benefits highly outweigh any risks (however always consult your doctor, I should have but luckily got away with it!)

The NHS will investigate after 3 anyway so if this is sadly another MC then you may get some answers. Unfortunately for me there was no cause just bad luck.

Oh and there was at least 2 years between each MC, I was also worried about scarring from the D&C but although a risk with the surgery, is highly unlikely x

Thank u all so much! I feel a lot better hearing these success stories. Congratulations to you :) I did go to the EPU the first day of bleeding but got there just as it closed so they couldn't see me, was so gutted! The next day I was too depressed and lethargic to do anything and today is the weekend and my third day of continuous bleeding. Still no pain but I think it is pretty clear what is happening. I guess I should be grateful that it hasn't been painful... I think I am definitely going to look into baby aspirin on the third try. It's so lovely to hear that there is hope, I wish you all the best. Would be great to hear even more stories to keep us all ticking along. Also I forgot to mention that my previous mc abroad the doctor mentioned my ovaries seemed cystic but as I didn't have trouble conceiving she told me not to worry about it. Now obviously it looks like maybe I do have PCOS so it may even be related to that.. will investigate this further. Did anyone else have this issue?

I still just have light mostly brown blood. Just want it over with now, really want to avoid surgical management.

I had two miscarriages in a row two months in a row. I got pregnant again on the 3rd month and I’m now 16 weeks. I don’t know why I miscarried but it didn’t get investigated they said has to be 3 or more x

@Paranormalbouquet hang in there, hopefully will be over soon and you can put it behind you xx

@mum267 thank you, I’m usually very resilient but coping very badly this time to be honest.

I'm so sorry everyone to hear your stories 💜💜.
I had 2 miscarriages after a successful 1st pregnancy - one at 6 weeks complete and a missed at 9 weeks. D and C for latter. Then a successful pregnancy. I bled in my 4th pregnancy and was sure I'd miscarried at around 6 weeks so I took ibuprofen for the pain and did the housework - and the pregnancy survived so you never can tell. Each of my pregnancies took 3 or 4 cycles to conceive and I just kept on trying.

When bleeding in the 4th an obstetrician friend suggested taking aspirit 75mg daily - may help but wouldn't do any harm. I continued it.

They don't investigate til 3 in a row usually. I have consequently had a lot of thyroid problems intermittently and I wonder in retrospect if it had started then.

There is hope. Lots of hugs. It's hideous.

Oh I'm sorry. I had 3 in a row. They investigated after the 3rd but no cause found. I then had DS1 and DS2 without issue, another mc and then DS3. I'm just not very good at staying pregnant. 😢 Look after yourself and grieve as you need to, it's an emotional time and I remember feeling so bereft and useless. The Miscarriage Association has some good support.

@paranormalbouquet - you're not supposed to cope! It's awful! If it makes you feel any better when I went for scan at 6 weeks in successful pregnancy and was bleeding I cried when saw heart beat and said I knew baby was going to die so why didn't it just happen quickly.... radiographer had to quickly call a midwife to remove us to private room!!!!

With 2 miscarriages in a row you never get a break and it just goes on for ever...

Please don't give up hope - feel free to PM if I can help xx

I also found miscarriage association helpful.