Two miscarriages in a row

[mum267]

Hi mums,

Any advice for me please? I had a healthy baby over 2 years ago. I then had a missed mc a few months ago- baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and I found at when I was 10 weeks. I had a d&c and all went well. I had waited one period cycle and then got pregnant again only I am now mc at 6 weeks (heavy bleeding but no pain). All 3 times I conceived the month I tried but issue now seems to be with continuing the pregnancy.

Is this just a coincidence or do I need to investigate this?

Has anyone had similar experiences?
Thanks

So sorry for your losses
I had 3 miscarriages before having dc2 6 months ago. Go to your gp now and ask if they can do blood clotting and thyroid tests as they're easy to test for and easy to treat. I've heard mixed things about aspirin so I wouldn't just start taking it until you've spoken to your gp.
My problem turned out to be undiagnosed under-active thyroid and once that was sorted along came dc2 with no problems. Like you, I was lucky enough to conceive the first month of trying for all my pregnancies. Good luck - mumsnet is here for you xx

Those tests are also quick to test for - I was referred to a miscarriage clinic which took months and was no help at all in the end.

@Paranormalbouquet I know it's so mentally exhausting... I think we will feel better after having some investigations done. I did read that 1 in 4 eggs are bad, which is actually a high chance- I guess I'm learning mc is actually a very natural and sadly 'normal' part of life :(

Thanks for all the support guys, you have made me feel much better xx

It might be common but it doesn't make it any easier. My first mc was one of the absolute worst experiences of my life. Before that I thought miscarriage was something that happened to other people. for everyone on this thread

@CrowOnTheBroom thanks for the advice, will definitely look into that ... knowing it's common doesn't make it less painful... but we're not alone in this xxx

So sorry for your loss OP. Take time to look after yourself.

I had a similar experience to you although I don’t have any children - 2 miscarriages - one missed picked up at 9 weeks and another that happened spontaneously at 6 weeks 2 months after that. As with you, I fell pregnant as soon as I got my cycles back every time.

I’m now 29 weeks pregnant and fell pregnant straight off the back of the 6 week miscarriage. No bleed or anything in between. Of course nothing is ever set in stone, miscarriage experiences teach you that, and there are times I still panic that something is going to go wrong. However, this baby is perfectly healthy and wriggly and reassures me everyday he’s our rainbow. I don’t want to jinx anything (I’m sure you appreciate how much a miscarriage stays with you) but I’ve had an easy, “normal” pregnancy so far and I’m counting down the weeks until we welcome our little one into the world. Oh, and I also did absolutely nothing differently in the lead up or during this pregnancy to any of the others.

There were times where I thought about getting tested for things but I followed medical advice that our experiences were “just bad luck” and it looks like they were right. It was third time lucky for us and it really could be for you too. It’s very personal though and if you want to pay privately for testing then that would be something you certainly could look into.

All the best OP. I have everything crossed for your future x

Thanks @emvy for taking the time to share, wishing u all the best with this pregnancy! X

I hope that my post wasn’t thoughtless. I wanted to reassure you that a pregnancy can be successful after 2 consecutive miscarriages; without there being a cause for them as such, and the need for tests and treatment. It’s such a dark time and I hoped that I’d allowed a little light back in for you but I’m sorry if it ended up being more painful to read than helpful. I really do wish you all the best x

@emvy no not at all!! It honestly made me feel better and really appreciate u sharing ur story. It's so valuable to hear about all the kinds of experiences people have. Just makes you feel relaxed in a way that it's not really up to you so you should just go with the flow... am genuinely grateful to everyone sharing their stories. I wish you all strength in everything u face xx

Also an update- I went for an ultrasound this evening and confirmed that the pregnancy is terminating and there is some retained product still. As I am still bleeding I'm going to wait to see how it progresses before having it checked on the scan again... really hope the mc completes itself naturally. I had a full day of crying and overthinking it but have decided that being down is not going to benefit me in any way... I hope I have the strength to stay positive as it's not easy - my deepest sympathies with anyone struggling. Bless u all xx

@mum267 I hope it completes naturally for us both. Cramps have got very bad here over past few hours and am bleeding slightly more. I’m very keen to avoid d+c if possible.

Sorry to those going through losses. It is so hard. I found out on Friday at an early scan (9wks) that this pregnancy didn’t develop beyond 6 wks. I’ll have surgical management next week as no bleeding or pain and still strong pregnancy symptoms. This is my second MMC in 6 months- in Sep had an 11 wk scan and baby had died at 8wks. Like others, I’m finding it difficult to be hopeful for the future but really appreciate the stories of success. I am very fortunate as I have a lovely daughter who is 3.5, that pregnancy was problem free. Good luck and best wishes to everyone.

@Anxiousfeelings so sorry to hear...hope all goes smoothly for you. Tomorrow is another day and there are more chances xxx

@mum267 thanks for the wishes. I hope things go ok for you and that all completes naturally. I also can’t decide whether to take a break or try again straight away. Hope it’ll become clearer to me once all is over. There is hope though