Do you have a local home birth group? See if your dh will go with you to it and meet other couples who've had home births. Usually it's the dads who, once they've done it, become the biggest champions of home birth. It's usually a much more rewarding experience for them than being in hospital.
I had my first at home 5 years ago and I'm pregnant with #2 who is due any day now and am having another home birth. We're about 20 minutes from hospital as well. Honestly, it was lovely and I think it was all so much more straightforward because we were at home. I progressed quickly from PROM (waters going first with no contractions) to her being born in 11 hours, even being back to back. I was really relaxed and comfortable. Needed no pain relief other than using a TENS machine.
And importantly, I believe that being at home actually saved us from unnecessarily intervention, which could have led to a birth injury and at least quite a bit of birth trauma for me. We had an extended 2nd stage (pushing) because my dd was back to back. She turned as I pushed, which is quite normal, but it does mean it takes extra time. I pushed on and off for 4 hours. Midwives were excellent and monitored us very closely and would have transferred me in had they had any concerns about lack of progress, which they didn't really. Because I wasn't in hospital I wasn't put on the clock (which is usually hospital protocol, 2 hours max pushing with a 1st birth). They watched me and supported me and let me get on with it. And when she was turned and ready, she was born quite quickly after that. I almost certainly would have ended up with a forceps delivery in hospital, which would have not only been traumatic, but might have left me and baby with the injuries. My friend's son was in hospital and had the same sort of situation and he ended up with awful facial injuries and it was all very scary for her. So bad things can happen whether you're at hospital or at home, but sometimes avoiding unnecessary intervention can mean you avoid causing complications that can be avoided. I had lovely midwives whose judgement I trusted and I felt very well cared for. Around here, if you have a home birth, you also get a dedicated midwife who does all of your antenatal appts (at home) and then on the day, you get 2, sometimes 3 (if they bring a student) midwives all completely focused on you. You aren't sharing them with everyone else on a busy ward like you would in hospital. That means much more personal and attentive care and means they're able to monitor you carefully in case anything were to arise that needed a higher level of care. I know several mums though who have had to have an emergency transfer from a home birth and actually all of them said they were so glad they were home to start because the midwives were able to catch it before it became a serious emergency because the care ratio is so much better. That said, there's very few things home birth midwives can't handle at home. Pretty much the only thing they aren't equipped to do is perform a c-section. But if you were in hospital, you'd need to be prepped, theatre prepared and sterilised, consent forms signs, care team assembled from around the ward, etc. which takes 20-30 minutes in most cases. All that will happen while you're transferring, which shouldn't delay your care at all and because you're a transfer, you may actually get preferential access to theatre anyway, which is exactly what you want in a true emergency (which is unlikely to happen at home anyway, but it's good to know).
My dh was supportive of home birth for my first, but we went to our local home birth group and he got to talk to other parents who'd had home births and found it really reassuring. So definitely look and see what resources you have in your area.