When did you tell your work you are pregnant?

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Also just curious... if any of you had to tell work earlier than you wanted due to not feeling well or any appointments?

I had a horrible experience with my first at 12 weeks. So second time round I didn't tell until 19wks. To be honest I'd have waited longer but felt guilty, I was at a different council so my bad experience wasn't with them and I felt I was being a bit unreasonable. However, had I told my manager earlier everyone would have found out as they all have their little gossip groups, which is frustrating.

I team were really lovely about it which was the opposite of my previous team even though they'd be a person short.

Another member of our very small team just announced her pregnancy and she's only 10wks she just couldn't hold it in.

Everyone's circumstances are different. Good luck.

I have been dismissed while pregnant too, luckily I knew it would happen knowing what other employees gone through in the past. Tribunal was not an option due to costs. I'm buggered now because it's my last employer and I have no references so to speak.

I'm nearly 6 weeks and work know, they've known for at least a week now! I work in a very small team (5 of us) who all have been there with me through my past miscarriages and knew we were trying again anyway. Although it wasn't as planned! Told my manager straight away due to having early scans etc, and the person I share the office with. She then accidentally told one of the others (she thought she knew and had bought it up in conversation) and then I couldn't let the last person who I'm also probably closest to be the only one to not know!

I know anything could happen as it's so early, but to me that doesn't make a difference, as I've been there done that 4 times before and I know i wouldn't be able to cope without the support if it happens again! I also feel much more relaxed now they know. I don't feel terrible if I'm struggling to stay awake or not fully with it at times due to feeling rubbish. They all know why now and honestly it's such a relief! I know not everyone has the same support though!

I told work the first time round when I was about 14 weeks, I had just gone out of my 3 month probationary period so really didn't want to tell them any earlier! I'm 5 weeks pregnant now but won't be telling them until I've had my 12 week scan . I'm not telling anyone else into then either, only my mam and husband know 🤐

I told my big boss at about 2 months because I kept getting every bug going and was off sick as I couldn’t take any medication and thought they would wonder what the hell was going on. Got a big hug and a whoop from my lovely boss. I didn’t tell my team until later but they guessed by then.

I was around 6/8 weeks and throwing up! The running to the toilet have it away🤮

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I applied for a promotion and had my interview when I was about 12 weeks - no way I was telling them before that as I didn't want it to affect my chances. Got the job, then managed to get to about 20 weeks before I had to confess. They were fine about it thankfully.

I told my parents at 4 weeks (thanks pre-organised new year drinks!!) and my boss at 5 weeks as I work in a field that involves me visiting a lot of scientific companies so I have to get risk assessments done ASAP. Boss knows but no-one else at work does yet. Getting a viability scan at 8 weeks privately so I feel more comfortable telling the rest of my family and colleagues. Will tell everyone else at 12 week scan.

20 weeks

First time around 16 weeks, this time at 20 weeks x felt awful this pregnancy in first trimester but didn’t want to be treated any differently as was on a new project and wanted to be taken seriously.

13 weeks with DD1 and 7 weeks with DD2 due to being signed off with HG. Very understanding bosses both times thankfully.

6 weeks because we needed to plan for my future work placements with lots of night shifts and 12 hour days

I had to tell them at 4 weeks the week I returned from Mat leave it's been so hard I had a situation at work where from a risk assessment point of view I had no choice but to say something. Sort of glad they know but still scared of what they think

22 weeks because they wanted me to go work at Porton Down and I had to explain why not !

I was nearly 6 months gone before I told anyone (disguising my bump was a real challenge), mainly because I found out I was pregnant the day before starting the job, and I was scared of owning up!

I told my boss and the next boss up pretty much as soon as the pregnancy was confirmed by my GP (I didn't quite believe the three positive tests at first!). This was at around 6 weeks. I do a fairly ordinary desk job, but mentioning it early really helped with getting some flexibility around fatigue and nausea, and also with various work Christmas drinks and lunches missing which is usually frowned upon.

I am currently going through a missed miscarriage and it was easier to broach having told the two bosses about the pregnancy early - I'm getting really good support and understanding. I never thought that would mean anything in such a situation, but it does.

I think I was about 10 weeks. I would have waited longer but I had been stalling booking a flight to an industry related (boozy) conference and my boss was asking me to do it that day. Not only was I feeling sick but I’d already had an early scan due to bad pelvic pain. I couldn’t have coped with the conference feeling dreadful and trying to conceal the fact I wasn’t drinking.
It was a good thing though as he was a family man and sympathetic to the mornings I was physically sick and let me come in later to avoid the rush hour squeeze on the tube!
I say gauge what kind of boss you have.

I waited until nearly 20 weeks until I was at a wedding and someone who worked in the HR dpt for another company said to me it's important to tell them before you are showing because if they suspect and they want to move or demote you because of it they can do it quickly before they know as you're not as well protected. I'm quite small and by that point was definitely showing so everyone had guessed anyway! Thought it was advice worth mentioning though x

For my first I told my immediate supervisor when I was about 7-8 weeks only because I was new to the job, and she had only just started a couple of weeks after me so we were relatively new to each other and had been butting heads, so because I was ducking out for a lot of appointments I kind of wanted to reassure her that I wasn't looking for other jobs suddenly because she'd come on board. I officially told our big boss (and other colleagues) after the 12wk mark.

With my second (currently 37 weeks), I didn't say anything until I was 31 weeks. I'd started the job when I was about 19 weeks and it was a contract that was due to end just before Christmas so it really wouldn't have made a difference to them, except they offered to extend me longer into the new year so when I was asked how long I'd be willing to stay I kind of had to fess up and be like 'Well, you might've guessed but I'm currently pregnant, so I'm happy to stay on until XX date' kind of thing.

I'm sure they guessed I was pregnant well before the 31 weeks but with that said I don't tend to show very early, and was a good 25wks along when we had my daughters baptism and family and friends who had somehow missed the memo of #2 kept asking 'When are you going to give your daughter a little brother or sister?' and my husband had to point out that I wasn't just carrying excess baby weight but was 6 months pregnant already lol

Oh so sorry to hear StargazyDrifter :( Hope you are ok!

And gosh AshieW those questions about babies from friends and family are really annoying... but love that you made them feel awkward saying you are already 6 months pregnant haha 😂

That’s early Fia256 I think I will tell my bosses after my early Scan so will be 7w... after that weekend... obviously if all is ok...