Pregnant and have a 7.5 month old

[peanut2017]

Just found out I'm pregnant which I'm delighted about but am shitting myself. We had two previous losses and I hope everything will be ok.

I had a lot to drink the past week as was visiting my sister and her husband so we had a few glasses of wine every night.

So will have 2 under 16 months - anyone have this and can reassure me that we can manage?

I'm 40 next year so didn't have time to waste and we are lucky it happened so quickly but just feeling a bit anxious.

Back in work end of February and the thoughts of telling them

OMG 😲

Bump - literally

14 months between 2 of my ds's and 15 months between 2 of my dd's,
Congratulations op - you will be fine!!
Top tip would be to get the oldest into a great bedtime routine!!
And if you bf its a great time for bonding with both babies!!
Cuddles on the sofa while you bf, can't beat it!!

My two are 16 months apart, it was really hard work for the first year. I was lucky enough to have very supportive, helpful family close by and I was still exhausted all the time. The youngest is now 21 months (I'm still exhausted- she thinks sleeping is for losers!) and it is much easier. The best advice I've got is to get your older child into a good bedtime routine, it made the world of difference to me to be able to bath both girls, read them a story and just say goodnight to DD1, so I could then settle DD2. Take whatever help you are offered and get a good double buggy so you can get out of the house for a walk when you need to. You will be ok!

Looks like we both agree about bedtime!

Another one with a 16 month gap here. It was very hard at first, I have to admit. I'll be honest & say I don't really remember DS2's first year. It was worth it though, they have grown up very close. And it can't have been too bad because I had DC3 a couple of years later

Telling work was a bit awkward. I went back to work after maternity leave already five months pregnant, and went off on another maternity leave three months later. They just had to suck it up really!

Congratulations OP!

Congratulations! I'm in the same boat as you but 5 months into pregnancy so I know how scary it is and I'm still bricking it - especially when people say the hardest part is going from 0-1 child but I don't really believe them!

All I can add is that I was dreading telling work as will only be going back for 4 months but honestly they couldn't have been nicer. They have adjusted my role so I'm just working on a couple of short term projects so I don't have to pick everything up then drop it again. They accepted that things like this happen and in the grand scheme of things it's only a few months and we can pick things up properly when I return the next time (provided I'm not pregnant again haha - no that won't happen).

Congratulations! I have a dd and ds 14months apart, it is hard the first year but they are now 6 and 7 and I can honestly say its worked out great , theyre great friends and enjoy the same things at the same stages

At one stage I had a 3 year old, 1 year old and newborn!
That was fucking crazy....but we survived!!!

I returned from 1st mat leave 23 weeks pregnant with 2nd ! My work were great too, it certainly went much better than i'd thought it would

Thanks for the replies. My 7.5 month old is fairly good most nights. Generally 7pm until 5am just I don't always sleep as have insomnia.

We have a small 2 bed with no outdoor space or attic but just have to think I am one of 5 children in a 3 bed with one toilet so will just have to get on with it.

Sadly don't have much family support so that will be hard. DH family live an hour and a half away and my parents are in their 70's and not the typical grandparents type. Sisters live in the UK.

Anyway I am very thankful just trying to work it all out.

My job isn't the easiest. Very stressful role in a very busy and growing company but just have to not worry about that. My family has to come first.

Omg again

Wow icebearbreaks that sounds tough. Fair play to you. Just keep thinking how hard the first 5 months were with the baby and how do I manage it again with a toddler and no help. I can do it yeah??

19months between first 2 and 15mths between 2nd two. It's totally fine. You just get on with it. I'd advise against a quick third though if you don't like stress!

Zigzag you must be some woman. I would be happy and thankful with 2 especially as I will be 40 in April.

PEanut, thank you that's kind. But I think I'm more stupid than anything. I'm 35 week pregnant here with #4, and the others are now 4, 3, and 2. Sigh. Never learn.

Zigzag hats off to you. I hope u can cope with 2 with no real support other than my DH. Just waiting in the doctors surgery now waiting to get confirmation.

I was having mad dreams last night about telling work. Need to put that to the back of my mind and enjoy an alcohol free Christmas 🎄

Sorry that meant to say I hope I can cope with 2. You are obviously doing great

Congratulations. It's hard in the first years but in the long run, brilliant. Because my two are roughly the same age we can do so much more as a family. They are also good friends. Yes they have their sibling arguments but it's great that we all do the same things.

Thanks Pagan. Just back from doctors and it's confirmed. So thankful and scared. My first pregnancy there was fetal abnormalities and we lost the baby. Second was a missed miscarriage and then we have our gorgeous little boy. Please god everything will be ok this time

Massive congrats! No advice, just a little jealousy DS is 9 months old and I'd love another. He took five years and a lot of IVF to get so we'll see how things go for now!

14 months between my last 2 and it was so easy with them as they entertained/played/reared each other. First year was hard enough but not as hard as coping with the change in our lives after the first baby!

Congratulations.

Thanks a million for the kind words. I do feel blessed. My son will be going to a childminder end of February when he will be 10 months old. Does anyone have any advice about keeping the childminder for some days maybe at the beginning when I have the new baby? Don't want to lose his place if that makes sense

Thanks

We kept the older ones in childcare during my maternity leaves. They stayed home some days but I needed the break with the baby (especially at the beginning) and we couldn't risk losing their places.

Thanks for that. Some of the mothers I know did that - keep their other children with their childminder / crèche even for a few days a week

Watching with interest! If everything goes to plan I will have a 16 month old and newborn in Feb.

I'm so grateful to be pregnant but am starting to dread how I will cope. I also have extremely little support (family either live several hours away or work long hours. Husband works incredibly long hours. I live in the middle of nowhere and don't have many friends nearby etc).

Congratulations on your pregnancy! What an exciting time x