10 month old DS and already pregnant again - aaargh?!!

[WanderingWanderer]

I already have a lovely 10 month old, and have just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with no 2...help! Obviously I am very thrilled and excited but also questioning my sanity! Whilst we were relaxed about 'trying' it has happened straight away so I feel rather unprepared for it all. Please tell me I am not barking mad for having two children so close together? What are the pros and cons so I am fully prepared please!!

I got pregnant when my ds was 12 months so I know how you feel. There will be moments where you can't believe how lucky you are, and there will be moments where you say, "What did I do to myself". I only have 5 1/2 weeks to find out for myself.

be careful in those later months because picking up my ds, as much as i want too, has become to painful.

Congratulations!
You will be fine! I got pregnant when DS was 6 months, and now they are two and nine months, and they absolutely adore each other. Get all the sleepless nights out of the way in one go! Good luck!

There is 18 mths between my DS's (well 2 days off from being 18mths). Yes very hard, very demanding but excellent at the same time. DS1 only learnt to fall asleep by himself at 20mths! So my evenings were hell and he'd also wake in the night!
DS2 is totally different to DS1, full of smiles and bounces. Adores DS1, laughs at him all the time, thinks he's the best thing ever.
He's just learnt to crawl 1 week before he's 8 mths, really wants to join in with DS1.
DS1 is more accepting now of DS2 and has started sharing toys with him.
DS1 is very good at going and amusing hiself for a while too.
But it is hard, especially when they're both screaming at you and you find yourself in tears screaming back at them.

There's 12 months between my 2 dses. It was very hard at first (until recently tbh) but they are so much fun now (2.6 and 1.6) and they adore each other.

14 months between mine.

They play together, they adore each other...the younger one is more advanced because he copies his big sister, they gang up on me if I can get one of them to eat their tea, the other one will.

Tis lovely.

Hard work for the first few months, but wonderful.

Best bit of advice I had: when baby cries and toddler needs sorting out at the same time, leave baby to cry..... baby knows no different, but toddler does.

Yeah it is hard, but I think it's so hard anyway with your first (IME) you don't notice it being any harder!!
And it's so rewarding x

wow thanks all, I am feeling a little bit more positive! Great advice. My husband commutes into London and is often home late so my other challenge is managing bed/bath time routines on my own - any more tips on this one??!

DS1 went from having a bath every night to having one every other night, DS2 had a bath twice a week. When I mastered that DS1 went back to having a bath almost everynight again and DS2 is having one every other night. Sometimes they go in together if I feel brave. DS1 gets in first whislt I undress DS2, pop him in the bath & wash him, take him out get him dry and dressed, pop himin his bouncer. Then wash DS1 get him out and dry & dressed. (DS1's milk warms whilst I do this) retrieve milk. take both boys upstairs. Settle DS1 with milk and I'll read him a story whilst sat on bfing DS2.

My DH works shifts so he's out from 5am-4pm or from 1pm-midnight.

Oooops I ment - whilst sat on the floor bfing DS2.

you're not mad. yes, it will be hard, but think this way:

sleepless nights and nappies all out the way in a couple of years.

they'll be at similar development stages, so won't have one demanding to go to Alton Towers while the other wants the sandpit out.

lovely little toddlers in jim jams, playing together etc.

DS is 10mths, and i am 13 wks pregnant. Like you we started 'trying', but thought it'll be a while before i would conceive as just stopped b/feeding. got pregnant immediately- not had a period since 2005!

pah
thats nothing
ds1 was only 2.5 whe ds3 was born...

bloody hell nappiesgalore- were you using the withdrawl method?!

we were using the head in the clouds, come what may (ahem) method.

we have since Tightened Security.

3 under 3 is madness i tell you. run for the hills!!!

Congratulations wanderer, lots of good advice, pop over to the due in december antenatal club - lots of people in the same situation over there!

You're not barking mad, it's lovely having 2 close together.

hello
i have 10 month old idntical twin girls and 31 weeks pregnant again with a little boy. ilove having a busy life. congrats x

nappies! My friends dd was 13months when her triplets were born

I had 3 under 3 for 3 days! There's 19 months between ds1 and dd, then 16 months between dd and ds2. Personally I like having a small gap as they have similar needs and I'm not having to juggle 3 different sets of requirements. 19 months was lovely, ds1 was just old enough to 'help' but too young to be jealous. Until she started to sit up and play more he didn't take an awful lot of notice of her! They've just started to fight and argue but they keep each other entertained without too much input from me.

The early weeks of having two are hard, but I don't think the smaller gap makes it worse. Ds1 was still having a daytime sleep when dd was born so I could catch up on sleep/housework, etc.

You'll be fine, don't worry. Make the most of your pg, it'll absolutely fly by!

My son is DS is 6 months old & I am 18 weeks pregnant!!!! Warning dont rely on exclusive bfing as contraception!!!

There's 16 months between DS1 and DS2. When DS2 was born DS1 wasn't even walking. It is fantastic though - they just adore each other and come September they will be at the same pre-school together. They are the best of friends - which is just as well as DS3 is due in June!

19 months between my two and I love it. Hard work at first but then you'll start reaping the rewards. Good luck!

My DD was 12 months when I fell pregnant again and although no 3 isn't here yet I think that the close age gap will be great on many levels.

Congratulations.

bumpey and mushforbrains Now that is brave...

My DC's are 18mths apart, i wanted them close. They adore each other and its not as bad as everyone will tell you, i found looking after a lot easier then friends who have a bigger age gap.