Third pregnancy thread

[LeaderoftheAteam]

Hi folks,

Does anyone fancy a third pregnancy thread? I’ve had a look and couldn’t see anything similar, if there is one then please share. Thought it may be a good idea as obviously first is a bit different from third?
Age: 28
Children: 6 and 1DD’s
Pregnancy: approx 5 weeks (still bf’ing so cycle hadn’t returned)

Can I join please?

I'm almost 12 weeks pregnant with number 3. I already have DS (9) and DD (5). I have my 12 week scan on Friday.

I'm feeling ok. I'm lucky in that I don't seem to suffer from morning sickness but I have been soooooooo tired! I haven't told anyone yet apart from the grandparents. I would usually have told my siblings by now but I feel more anxious this time around. Like I am in some way pushing my luck by having a third child when I've already got two perfect healthy children. Is that really irrational? I'm 39 now so just a little bit anxious about being an 'older mum'. I'm just looking forward to having that scan and knowing everything is fine

Out of interest, is anyone here self employed? This is my first pregnancy as a self employed person and not sure what maternity benefits are available to people like me.

Can I join please? I am on the June group too.
DS3, DD1
13weeks and found out yesterday its fucking twins!!!!!
In total shock! I am huge and have been sick loads but thought that was just a 3rd baby/pregnant whilst running round after 2 thing.
Having been all cool about everything and thinking I knew my stuff I am now a total newbie all over again!

I have twins both 5 y/o ds and a 3 mos dd. I'm also interested to join. The twins obviously weren't planned but we were just blessed. Dd was much thought out as we wanted a dd.

Ah Erica891 a wise twin mum! Just what I need! I ventured on to the multiple pages yesterday but the titles were all a bit scary: why is this so hard? When will it be fun? This is awful etc!! Made my bottom lip wibble!

Can I join?

I’m 27 with 2 ds’s aged 5 and 2. I’m 20 weeks pregnant with a girl. Having some awful complications (low lying placenta, subchorionic haemorrhage and incompetent cervix) which I didn’t have with the boys. Been a completely different ride this time!

Just popping by... I'm 40+3 with DC3 & utterly fed up! I've also got a 6yo & a 4yo who I home school. It's really hard at the moment & I'm resorting to TV to entertain them far more than I'd like because I'm so exhausted. It's not been the easiest pregnancy & I'm so ready for it to be over now.

Weirdly, I'm panicking about labour more than I did with the others. Neither involved much intervention & I didn't feel the need to have any drugs either but both labours I had midwives who either were incompetent or just blatantly didn't want to be with me at home. Both times I was shouted at to push & told the baby might die... Both times they were absolutely fine & it had more to do with the MW not monitoring them properly. I hadn't realised how much those experiences had affected me until I was approaching labour this time. I've made sure that I won't be having any of the same MWs this time but there's a part of me that's seriously considering not calling anyone until I'm ready to push. It seems like the MWs that are supposed to help have always been the most stressful part of labour for me & I'd be quite happy if DC3 came faster than expected & arrived before they could get here!

SnowWhites, just seen your earlier comment about feeling movement very early on. I'm very nearly 12 weeks and I'm sure I've been feeling movement too. I assumed I must be imagining it as it seems too early but this evening I've been feeling it again and It's unmistakeable. It's about 5 weeks earlier than my second baby and about 7'weeks earlier than first baby

12 weeks scan on Friday!

I’d like to join please!
I’m 37 and I have a 5yr old DD and an 18 month old DS. Currently 5 weeks pregnant with a surprise 3rd baby. Our house is too small and our car is wrong, but we are getting our head around it and feeling like it will work out somehow!

Coffee I am also self employed but a bit clueless. I think we are entitled to maternity allowance but need to look into it more.

coffeeChocolateWine what area do you live in? I'm in the SE and they're very pro homebirth and have a lot of training in it so I was lucky. I did wait until very late to ring them though but my dd was born with the cord round her neck twice so was very glad they were there when needed.

My ds had slap cheek a few weeks ago so I got tested last week. The doctor wants to talk to me about the results next week which doesn't sound good does it? If it was all fine, then surely the receptionist would just tell me? Although relieved, I'll be so cross if they've let me worry for a week for nothing.

@CoffeeChocolateWine I had quite a strong movement last night in bed (14 weeks tomorrow) DH was actually able to feel it at one point which he was over the moon about so at least I know I’m not imagining it now! 🙈

Fannyfan, I'm in south west London. It sounds like you have a lot going on at the moment...not what you need right now. Regarding the results, I would say that if it was something serious, they wouldn't wait a week to tell you. Maybe the tests showed up something quite minor and easy to treat (I had low iron when I was pregnant with my second so they put me on iron tablets and that was that...it could be something simple like that). But it's very natural to worry.

SnowWhites, that's amazing that your DH was able to feel it too! He must be chuffed to bits.

Hi, it's so nice to hear others having there 3rds as I'm so nervous about having my third to!
I'm 23
I have: Two boys 3 and 4
I'm 22 weeks preganant with another boy!
I don't know why but I'm more nervous being pregnant with this baby than my previous two is anyone else feeling the same ? Also is anyone else having really bad pain in ther hips!?? Mine ache every time I walk or even hurt when I'm lying on my sides

Me!

I'm 37 with two DDs (4 & 2) and I'm 20 weeks' pregnant.

Just ordered our new car as our wee hatchback won't cut the mustard!

Some days (like today) make me wonder what I was thinking.

@Fannyfanakerpants - my dd has slapped cheek this week! I'm 33 wks so risk is pretty small, but still going for a blood test to check my immunity as a precaution. Like @CoffeeChocolateWine said - hopefully if it was very urgent, they wouldn't wait a week to talk to you?

@AGnu have you thought about a home birth? Generally get experienced mws and more chance of continuity of care. Which might make a difference?

Has anyone noticed their third pregnancy symptoms seem much worse? I just feel rubbish, and at 6 weeks it’s not giving me home for the other 34. I was working full time with both the other girls but at home with DD2 now and feel like crap. Can’t face cooking any dinner either as the idea of anything with a strong smell makes me heave.

Roxx1516, yes I feel the same and can't put my finger on why. I made a comment upthread that I just feel like I'm pushing my luck having a third after 2 perfectly healthy children. I just feel more anxious this time round that something will go wrong. I'm also a bit older (39) so the age thing is playing on my mind too. I'm still pre-scan (I'm almost 12 weeks) so hopefully I'll relax a bit more after my scan on Friday.

CondimentQueen, I have days like that too. My DH and I weren't desperate for a third baby...it was one of those things we talked about on and off over a couple of years and then it got to the point where I was turning 39 and we just decided it was now or never. So we made the decision to try for 6 months and if it happened it was meant to be and if it didn't, it wasn't. I got my BFP on the 5th month and had pretty much assumed it wasn't going to happen! Now that I am pregnant, I have days where I panic and think what am I doing...especially as I've come out the other side with my other 2 and now we're diving back into the thick of it! But my 2 DC will love having another sibling and once I'm out of the newborn stage I know I will too. I'm worried about the drop in income though as I'm self employed and I think realistically I won't be able to take much time off. It will work out though.

Sorry for the essay!

Car-wise we're ok. I have a small runaround which for everyday use when my DH isn't around will be fine for ferrying the kids around. And we also have a big 4x4 on a long-term lease deal. So for now that's fine. But we do need to make changes to our house (which we've planned to for a while anyway...just a bit more imminent now!). We have a 3-bed but the kids rooms aren't big enough to share really. Plus because of the age gaps I'm not sure sharing would work out long term. I think my now 9yo DS and 5yo DD would love to share for a bit (they sleep over in each others room most nights anyway). But my DS will need his own space again soon and I'm not sure how a 6yo and a baby sharing would work out.

Anyway, we've just got planning to build into our loft and put another bedroom up there so hopefully it will be done by the time baby is born. All seems quite daunting right now though.

Birth-wise, I had a water birth with my DD and quite keen for the same again. The midwives are supportive of it. I'm not keen on the idea of a home birth for some reason. My first birth was hideous and I needed an epidural and lots of top ups and there was lots of blood. Second birth was lovely but she was born with the umbilical cord around her neck. I guess I just feel like I'm safest in a hospital.

*Sorry for the essay was meant to appear at the end of that post! Not sure why it's appeared in the middle!

I'm on my 3rd too!

Age: 29
DC: 2 DD, 2yrs and 6 months
Weeks: 6 weeks

we had planned for a third but this happened alot sooner than expected lol. hoping this time we will get a home delivery. 1st labored at home at transferred at 10cm dilated. second waters broke 37 +4 weeks and they only cover home delivery from 38-42 weeks here :( so I have my fingers crossed this time.

As for house car etc. house is fine need a new car will also possibly need a extra cot and high chair depending on how 2nd DD is doing by then. Going to be doing a lot of waiting and seeing!

Also still breastfeeding both girls so seeing whether 1stDD weans in pregnancy or ill be tandem feeding 3 eeek!

*@LeaderoftheAteam * yes although only had a few symptoms a bit nauseous but teeth are so sensitive cant really have anything sweet at all!

Oh yes, that's the other thing I'm kicking myself about...when we were in the thick of it with 2 (and DD was a bit of a nightmare!) we said NEVER AGAIN and sold all our baby stuff We have nothing and have to start from scratch again! Fortunately my brother and his wife have a 6 month old so hoping I'll get a bit of stuff from them once they're done with it!

I’m definitely more nervous this time round & ticking off each week that goes by. I feel older too (36), more tired & been more nauseous than previously.

I’m excited for the newborn stage, by the time baby is due my youngest DS will be 4 1/2 so it seems like ages ago. I hope I remember what I’m doing!

I had 2 hospital births & will be opting for the same again. Think my 2 DS’s would be scared if I had a home birth & they were there! Like another poster said there’s a certain safety of being in hospital just in case anything goes wrong.

We are lucky to have a spare room for the baby though at the moment it’s our junk/washing hanging room so will need cleaning!

We need to get a bigger car to fit all the kids car seats in. Probably will go for a 7 seater for the extra boot space!

41 years old and 34 wks. 2 dd aged 10 and 12. Finding being pg sooo much harder this time. Also really worried about my age and having such a big age gap.

Have heard that after such a big age gap between births labour can be like first time again which is another worry as first labour was much harder....

@CoffeeChocolateWine we did the same thing!!! We got rid of everything!!

That said, people have been amazing and dumped given us things that they know they are done with. All I've bought is a 2nd hand Next to me thingy and a 2nd hand pram and a new house.

@poppypopsicle our dds are 10 & 8 and I felt a bit worried about the age gap, but they are both super excited!! How are your dds feeling about the new baby?

@LeaderoftheATeam sorry to hear you are suffering more this time. I hardly have any symptoms so far but I’m only 5+6.

I’ve got a really annoying infection in my face, all around my eye is really swollen. Just got oral antibiotics today but the nurse was really cautious about prescribing them (even though the doctor said it was fine), so of course I’ve been googling and worrying. Telling myself that the risks the infection might pose are higher than the risk of taking the antibiotics, but still feel a bit sad about it.

Is anyone else not sure yet what their labour plan will be? I had a home birth with my first and it was a massive shock, so opted for hospital and epidural with my second. The epidural was amazing but I did have to hang around in hospital for ages afterwards with an enormous canula in my hand... until I’d produced enough urine to satisfy the midwives etc. And I had a pressure sore on my arse 😝 Would be nice to go home earlier, and there’s a bit of me that still hankers for a water birth, even though I know I find labour really difficult... my hospital has a great MLU down the corridor from the delivery ward, so I could always transfer if I wanted the epidural. My worry is though that unless you are really firm from the outset that you want one then you will get talked out of it / it won’t get arranged in time 🤔