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does anyone think this is wrong?

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nappyaddict · 17/04/2007 04:07

i have a friend at work who is pregnant and isn't sure of her dates cos she doesn't know exactly when her last period was. she thinks she is about 6 weeks. she doesn't want to wait until 12 weeks for a scan because you get more accurate dates if it is done between 7 and 10 weeks, so she is going to pretend she has had bleeding to get an earlier scan.

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maveta · 17/04/2007 04:11

Yes, I think it is wrong, she is using resources that other people actually genuinely need. She can´t be THAT far out with guessing her LMP date...

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nappyaddict · 17/04/2007 05:18

do you think there's any way she could request a scan at say 10 weeks instead? i understand quite a lot of places do the dating scan around then anyway. don't know why its 12 weeks around here. mine was actually 14, cos i couldn't get a booking in appointment until 12!

could she just ring up the hospital directly instead of going through the doctors?

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zippitippitoes · 17/04/2007 05:42

yes it is wrong. and there isn't much point anyway.

Hopeitwontbebig · 17/04/2007 11:09

Hi, I wasn't sure of my dates early on, because I'd had a 'funny' bleed in December, so wasn't sure when I'd conceived, so I didn't know whether I was 5 weeks or 9. I explained this to doc and he was happy to send me for a dating scan. I needed to know how far along I was so that I could have my Nuchal scan at the right time. Your friend doesn't need to say she has been spotting to get a scan. She should be able to ask for a dating scan. I'm slightly supersticious and never say something is wrong, incase I tempt fate. Especially where pregnancy and children are concerned. HTH x

DimpledThighs · 17/04/2007 11:10

yes i think it is wrong but I each to their own - if she can live with it fair enough - woul dhave though she would have the sensitivity to shut up about it though.

NotQuiteCockney · 17/04/2007 11:11

You can just ask for a dating scan if you're not sure. It is sensible of her to ask for a dating scan, anyway, as some later scans (particularly nuchal fold) work better if they happen in a specific fairly limited period.

Hilllary · 17/04/2007 11:12

Bleeding yes certainly, it will also go on her records too, She can get an early scan by saying she doesnt believe she is pregnant, they will do one to confirm pregnancy, but she shouldnt cry wolf as she may regret it.

Trinityrhino · 17/04/2007 11:13

totally wrong

if she says that shes has no idea od her dates they will give her a dating scan

DimpledThighs · 17/04/2007 11:23

good point Hillary

mumto3girls · 17/04/2007 11:26

I don't think she should - the EPU's round here are sooo busy trying to help people with genuine concerns...as someone who has had 5 mcs ( 4 of them being discovered after bleeding with a scan) I think she should be more aware of people's needs and the over stretched facilities.
Of course she could PAY for one herself if she's that concerned instead of lying.

PregnantGrrrl · 17/04/2007 11:28

it's not very fair on those who have had problems and also need help. In my area, there is such a shortage of sonographers you only get one 20wk scan, unless you don't know your dates or have problems. she could be holding up someone who may really be losing their baby.

and i couldn't have all the sympathy and reassurance from the staff, knowing i was lying to them.

Snarf02 · 17/04/2007 11:49

i think this is wrong i had bleeding twice early on in pg and they will not scan you til 7 wks where i live on the NHS and only if i had antoher bleed at 7 wks so in the end i paid prviately as was going out of my mind iwth worry until i saw the heartbeat at the private scan which cost £130. Was defintley worth the money but i did have a genunine reasion for having a scan on the NHS if i had not bled would not have expected one.

If she wants to she could pay privately somewhere couldnt she?

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nappyaddict · 17/04/2007 13:44

she wouldn't be able to afford to pay privately, but i will let her know if she is unsure of dates she should be able to get one anyway without lying.

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jdd0709 · 17/04/2007 16:40

I paid for an early reassurance scan and it was £75 which I don't think is excessive if she wants to know. In my opinion it is wrong to pretend at the EPU but I know a lot of people who have. Personally I don't have a huge problem with it but would never do it myself for fear of jinxing/regrets if real problems did crop up - I had a mc and ended up there for real. People who haven't experienced this don't seem to have the same compunction from what I can see. Really I think the NHS should provide earlier scans for everyone as they do in other countries but until they do I think it people should pay for private scans. To be honest if you can't afford £75 then I'm not sure you can afford to be pregnant - there will be a lot more costs before it is finished!

ash6605 · 17/04/2007 16:54

out of interest how do you go about gettig a private scan?do you then have to stay within the private sector for the rest of your maternity care?

Mumpbump · 17/04/2007 17:03

My doctor referred me for an early scan because I was unsure of my dates plus had had two m/c. But I think the main reason was dates. When does her doctor say the pg should be dated?

Hersetta · 17/04/2007 17:11

If you want a private scan, just do a bit of research on google on who in your area provides them, ring up and book one. It doesn't prevent you going NHS for the rest of your preganancy.

I had an early scan at 7+5 weeks (called a viability scan) and a nuchal at the fetal medicine centre on harley street in London - costs were £100 and then £150 for the nuchal. Not much dosh for the reassurance it brings.

Snarf02 · 17/04/2007 17:22

i had an early private viability scan because of the bleeding at 6kws and then had a nuchal fold done privately at 12 wks and then will have my next scan (22 wks) on NHS. I am having normal midwife checks on the NHS as well but these are less regularly as am on second pregnancy.

KatieandBB · 17/04/2007 17:31

she will get a guesstimate due date at her booking appt with MW.

she will undoubtedly get found out that she is lying, they won't just go "you're bleeding, not to worry!" will they?

If she was someone who needed an emergency scan and whho couldnt because someone lied to find out their dates and took the slot how would she feel?

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nappyaddict · 17/04/2007 17:57

she hasn't had a period for 3 months, except for bleeding which lasted a day last month. that's why she is unsure of her dates. she found out she was pregnant last week. when she went to the doc they asked when her lmp was. she said she was unsure but she had had that bleeding last month and then they said well in that case according to that you are 6 weeks. come back in 6 weeks for a booking in appointment to see the mw who will then organise your scan.

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nappyaddict · 17/04/2007 17:59

i should add the doctor she saw was not her usual doctor but a locum.

i happened to say she looked further gone than 6 weeks, cos she is showing already and was perhaps a few weeks further along. wish i hadn't said anything now, cos i really think lying to get a scan is wrong.

will they give her an early scan just for being unsure of dates? i thought you only got those if you were at risk of miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy?

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lulumama · 17/04/2007 18:03

if she says she is bleeding and isn't, i think that is morally wrong..EPUs struggle to see women who genuinely are bleeding or miscarrying....

she can pay to go privately, and in the end, the due date she gets will be estimated as she is not sure of her dates,as it would be if she was sure

dating scan at this stage not hugely important unless she needs a nuchal scan, in which case she should simply say she is not sure of her dates, rather than lie

bossykate · 17/04/2007 18:06

they will be able to tell she's not bleeding because they will examine her!

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nappyaddict · 17/04/2007 18:08

that's not true. i had spotting at 6 weeks and was just sent off for a scan. i didn't have an examination.

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bossykate · 17/04/2007 18:10

but at six weeks it is an internal scan, no? i've had two of them!

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