do people actually use the withdrawl method?

[nappyaddict]

i just came across this post when i was googling and it really made me feel quite sad for the op. this is what she said.

Hey guys, my name is Bethany and I am really new at all of this.. I just have some questions about what I've been feeling lately.. wondering if you guys could tell me what you think?? I am not good at keeping track of AF, but I know I am VERY CLOSE to starting.. within a week or two...

Feeling:
light headed and dizzy
more of an appetite than usual
I have a constant CM.. more than usual (thick, wet.. it just depends)
I am hungry in the morning (and I NEVER used to eat breakfast)
Weird cramps.. like dull, tickly pain? (don't know how to explain)
Hot flashes at night
A few break out spots
Sore under armpits, outside of BBs..
Running nose, but no cold (only on occasion.. I noticed other people had this posted under their symptoms..)
Nausea- not bad, just a queezy feeling
Constipation

I'm young, never been through this before.. my BF and I have been together over a year.. lately haven't been using protection, although we are "safe" about it.. (I know there is no SAFE.. but he never does it in me..)

that last line did it for me. i know i am no angel, i am 18 with a baby, but i was ob the pill, inever thought i couldn't get pregnant if my bf "didn't do it in me."

then after posting this i wondered if actually i was being a bit judgemental and maybe people do actually use this as a method of contraception on the grounds that if they did accidentally get pregnant it wouldn't be the end of the world?

Holy Mother of God.

May I just reassure other posters that such toe-curling 'retreats' are not usually compulsory for those interested in a catholic wedding.

Although retreat is a curiously appropriate name under the circumstances...

Well, the mechanics are the same, aren't they, if some of the ahem more torrid aspects have changed?

Have been ahem known to use it myself but only at points in my life where another baby wouldn't be appalling.

Quite the mechanics are the same, and I want to have an many different viewpoints regarding contraceptions as I can gather.

That way I can inform the kids I teach in a meaningful, relevant way.

I know the statistcs, unsderstanding the rational behind peoples choices (be they tee agers, or 30 year olds) can, to my mind, only be helpful.

lol Greensleeves

was it really worth getting married if you had to go through that?

We used it for ages- Condoms didn't really do it for us, and after I'd MC'd I agreed with the doc not to go back on the pill so my body was ready when we decided to TTC again. Never really considered the other things. It worked for us for a year or 2, although must admit, it was a million times better when we started to TTC as nothing interupts the, er, flow!

I think that anyone who is officially using condoms must be very restrained to never use the withdrawel method in combination with them.... We used that combined sort of method for ages and I never got pregnant that way - We did know that it was risky - ought to have known better really. And we must be fertile as we got pregnant by ignoring persona's advice once, and the second time in the first month of trying.

my friend had 3 kids, youngest being 5 and they had been using this method since his birth. theyre 4th child is now 18 months old and her DH has had the snip.

why would you use withdrawal when you are also using a condom?

well expatinscotland, if you are very in the mood and having good pre sex stuff going on you might go there before you have got the condom out of the draw and then when things are getting a bit more heated you might get the condom out at that point. Are was very unusual in that???? would be suprised.

Dha nd I have used this method for years. Had 2 planned pregancies and no accidents.

If I really wanted to not be pregnant ever again I would go on the pill.

i posted in reply:

all those are pregnany symptoms, but could also be other things. you need to take a test. if you can't afford one like clear blue they are only £1 in poundland, go there.

just because your boyfriend never does it in you that doesn't mean you can't get pregnant. sperm can leak out before ejaculation. if that was your method of contraception and you didn't want to have a baby you have been foolish to say the least. i suggest from now on you use an alternate method or don't have sex.

how old are you btw? surely you know that if you don't want a baby withdrawal is probably the most unreliable way of going about it?

not that horrible i reckon - they all seem to think i was very harsh though. ha ha pmsl

Greensleeves, I had to do one of those days as I was getting married in a catholic church, it was only one day and thank God they didn't give us the sex talk, just handed out leaflets. It was bad enough talking about intimate details of our life with total strangers!! And the catholic church are trying to encourage people back???

To be fair to them though, it did start some interesting conversations dh and I probably wouldn't have had before getting married, still pretty cringeworthy though!

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I got married in a Catholic church and did not have to do this.

We got married in a Franciscan monastery church, the priest who married us was a friar I think (brown hooded habit, rope around waist etc), so maybe the rules were especially stringent. It was non-negotiable though - the whole weekend, or no wedding!

Gosh, our priest was awfully relaxed. DH not catholic, so maybe that made a difference? Sex was not mentioned in our preparation at all in fact. And he knew we lived together.

Dp and i were using this method - i'm 20 weeks pregnant now
but then again i suppose we knew it wasnt really safe! so it depends on how bad it would be for you to get pg

We used it after the birth of my first. Our second followed soon after. Never again!