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How many weeks were you when you went public with your pregnancy?

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HAGI12 · 09/11/2017 08:03

When did you guys go public with your pregnancy?
Also sorry for the silly question, but when do you enter the second trimester? 13 or 14 weeks?

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Naturesbest · 09/11/2017 11:41

My first pregnancy I told my inlaws the same day I test plus my colleagues and my neighbours and the whole fucking world. I told my parents when they came to visit me from abroad at 7 weeks. I was so unbelievably naive.

My second pregnancy, I told a few people at 6 weeks and it ended in a mc.

My third pregnancy, I told my inlaws and parents at 11 weeks after the harmony test was clear and told my bosses at 12 weeks as I need time off for the dating scan and have no annual leave. I would otherwise have waited till 16 weeks. I will tell my colleagues at 14 weeks. This time I have lost the innocence which I had during my first.

cherryontopp · 09/11/2017 11:53

My parents straight away.
DPs Parents at 10 weeks
Close friends and some work colleagues at 10 weeks.

Everyone else on Facebook, 20 weeks

mindutopia · 09/11/2017 11:58

It depends what you mean by 'public.' I told my mum and one friend immediately, like the same day I got a BFP. I'd had a mc before and they had been a wonderful source of support through it, so I wanted to have them to talk with again. We told a few other friends and family members around 12-13 weeks, probably after our scan. We put it on Facebook (most friends and family don't live near us so that's the easiest way for other people to find out without us having to tell them all individually) around 14 weeks. I told work around 10-11 weeks (just my supervisor) purely because we were having a private meeting about a project and I wanted her to understand why I was planning the project the way I was (to account for my anticipated maternity leave).

ShowOfHands · 09/11/2017 11:59

Didn't tell anybody. Most people in rl noticed eventually and I only posted pictures on FB once he was born.

MutualWeirdness · 09/11/2017 12:05

My parents at 14 weeks.
PIL at 16 weeks.
Friends as I saw them from 16-21 weeks.

Later than most I suppose, from reading the previous responses, but I just wasn't ready to tell anyone before that! I was so terrified I couldn't handle people being super excited when I had mixed feelings.

MutualWeirdness · 09/11/2017 12:05

Oh, and definitely no FB 'announcement'!

Bunnyfluffy · 09/11/2017 12:14

Told our parents when we found out (4 weeks)

Had to tell boss / HR at 6 weeks due to awful sickness

Told some other friends & family between 6-12 weeks as I had to cancel plans due to sickness

Told the rest of friends & family & colleagues after 12 week scan

Didn’t make any “announcement” on Facebook etc

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 09/11/2017 12:21

1 week after giving birth .

We told parents and immediate family shortly after getting a positive test, then told a few friends who we actually saw over the next 8 months (you can't exactly hide it!) and messaged those who were struggling with infertility so they could process it and prepare themselves. Apart from that, we just didn't want to jinx things by telling the whole world.

Ttbb · 09/11/2017 12:23

After receiving clear test results so about 16 weeks.

Eilasor · 09/11/2017 13:15

The day we found out (5 weeks) with my first and I think around 16 weeks with my twins. We were over the moon about our first pregnancy that we told everyone as soon as we could. My DD was only a few weeks old when we found out we were pregnant the second time and we weren't so energetic about the announcement.

MrsMcW · 09/11/2017 13:22

I planned to wait for 12 weeks, but everyone cottoned on before then. Had to tell work around 7 weeks when I had a miscarriage scare and went to hospital in the middle of the afternoon, and most of my friends and family worked it out the moment I refused a glass of wine. It's made me worry what kind of reputation I have, that it was so extraordinary for me to stop drinking!

MegEmski · 09/11/2017 14:48

I am almost 10 weeks now. Told my parents and DH parents at 6 weeks
Brothers / best friend 7 / 8 weeks
Other family 9 weeks (had a scan with a heartbeat) and good friends I am telling now as and when I see them. Lots of visits coming up to Christmas.
Told both my bosses today as planning for 2018 headcount etc.
I'm one of those who will do facebook 'announcement' as I have lots of family and friends on there who are a long way away, but I will do that a few weeks after the 12 week scan I think.

MaryShelley1818 · 09/11/2017 15:38

Family and close friends between 5-7wks and then went 'public' after the 12wk scan.

DeadDoorpost · 09/11/2017 15:48

Parents 2 days after our GBP as mothers day was that weekend.
8 weeks for siblings (easter)
12 weeks for everyone else

Although most people had an inkling because I had Hyperemesis and was so sick, but some genuinely thought I was going through a really bad medical period as I'd had a scan done to check for cancer (all clear but no idea what was causing the pain still) so some thought the sickness and weightloss was down to that and that we weren't telling people about it. They were shocked to find I was pregnant instead.

MittensIsReadyForWinter · 09/11/2017 15:49

28 weeks

giraffesareok · 09/11/2017 15:51

IVF after several attempts - so immediate families & a couple of friends (including my manager) who knew about the IVF & previous mcs, within a week of the BFP but very much in a “this is a good sign but we’re not getting our hopes up” kind of way. Progressively more hopeful updates as each scan went past!

Other friends, around 13 weeks, and got my mum to tell the rest of the family around the same time. Other work colleagues, around 18 - which still felt riskily early, but I was leaving and people were asking what I was going to do! and it’s twins so it was fairly obvious to people I met in person.

Random strangers in the street started saying “not long now” from about 21 weeks...

At 29 weeks, I talk about it to everyone I meet because it’s the main thing on my mind - but I do still feel anxious when friends & DSILs talk to their smaller kids about meeting the babies: their decision ofc, but for some reason this still feels like tempting fate. Weird, huh.

Kentnurse2015 · 09/11/2017 15:55

I had to tell parents and in-laws fairly early each time due to it being Christmas but extended family and friends waited until after our scan. Work had to be told pretty early too (around 7 weeks) due to the fact I am a nurse and am around x-rays, handle various drugs, lots of moving and handling and the fact I spend most of the latter part of my night shifts vomiting!!

SleepingStandingUp · 09/11/2017 15:57

7 weeks - about a week after I found out. Was meant to fly abroad on a working holiday and couldn't go. Refused to lie about why as it felt like tempting fate to deny him

NoParticularPattern · 09/11/2017 19:27

We told our family at about 10 weeks after an early scan due to a bleed. We lost a baby prior to this one so knew they’d want to know what was happening. We haven’t announced it to anyone else yet formally (I’m 28 weeks) but I guess people work it out eventually!! It’s quite a fun game seeing how big I get before people dare to make a comment!!

Girlbo55 · 09/11/2017 19:32

I just found out, around 6 weeks, and will have to tell parents, brother, mother in law and brother in law ASAP!
Brother in law is currently living with us - so needs to know he only has a certain amount of time with sleep haha!

Want to tell my family before anyone else and worry that they want a family holiday next year that we may not be able to commit to.

DeadButDelicious · 09/11/2017 19:36

We told our parents not long after we found out, so around the 5/6 week mark, grandparents and siblings at 12 weeks. We made no formal announcement so the vast majority of people found out when she was born and we announced her birth. I told people I knew I would see and that was about it.

user1485778793 · 09/11/2017 21:40

1st baby told people straight away as we were so excited but he died at 2 1/2 months old.
I'm now 5 weeks pregnant, my mum, brother, sil and 1 friend know. Dh has told 1 friend and his boss.

We're not telling dhs family because the relationship is so strained at the moment and they were horrible to us both during the last so I'm keeping my distance and chilling til after 20 week scan at least (hopefully they will have booked their summer holidays by then and won't be around when I'm due) lol

SugarMiceInTheRain · 09/11/2017 21:47

12 weeks with #1 & #2
8 weeks with following 2 pregnancies as had had early scans which showed hb but miscarried both of those, 5th pregnancy didn't even get as far as scan.
DC3 20 week scan (unless asked, told family though) because I was in denial after 3 miscarriages.

DueNov · 10/11/2017 08:07

I waited until gender scan at 16+3

Would have waited longer but I had an obvious bump lol

Foxedme · 10/11/2017 14:55

When pregnant with DD2 I told my teaching assistant at 8 weeks for health and safety reasons, moving heavy tables, climbing up wall displays etc... she TOLD THE WHOLE SCHOOL! I hadn't even told my family! (our working was 4 weeks later and wanted to wait until after that). I had a bitchy comment from a not v nice colleague at my wedding about why I wasn't drinking! Grrrr I learned my lesson and kept the lid on it about the next pregnancy.
I'd think carefully about who you tell but congratulations!!! Enjoy!

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