Sex during pregnancy - what's everyone up to?

[thingymaboob]

I know this is a bit of a private question but just wondering what people are doing as I feel stupidly nervous about it.

I know it's perfectly safe and I've been watching "catastrophe" and Sharon and Rob are at it constantly. We have had sex once since being pregnant at 30 weeks (this week). My DH has been wonderful and not put any pressure on at all.

I was anxious in the beginning as had a previous miscarriage, then I got hyperemesis and could do absolutely nothing for about 15 weeks, then I was under investigation for a short cervix, now I feel a bit better on some days and thought I'd give it a go but my orgasms make me contract and it's quite painful. My best friend had sex all the way through pregnancy and loved it. What are other people's experience?

@BlueButTrue I'll tag you in it so you can find it aha there's a fair few newbies on there now.
Sorry to derail the thread @thingymaboob

During previous pregnancies we had sex a lot. Felt great.
Between my dd2 and thus pregnancy I lost 4 babies to miscarriage so we didn't do very much for first few months, then the spd set in and level less sex. Now we have managed to find a comfortable and careful way so I dont get hurt. Still great sex though

Can anyone recommend a comfortable way to have sex with SPD/PGP please? 32 weeks tomorrow and starting to really struggle now

Was having it as normal till I had a heavy bleed during sex and got freaked out. Didn't go near him for s couple of weeks but getting back to normal now although I'd happily take it or leave it for a bit longer. He's got a crazy high sex drive though so two weeks was unbearable for him!!

Had baby 2 weeks ago. Up till 30 ish weeks we were having sex most days. Sometimes more than once a day. After that my sex drive completely stopped! Was maybe once a week and mainly because I felt I should make the effort! Like I said baby is now 2 weeks. Had a fab straight forward labour. No stitches or grazes. Not had sex yet. Can't be arsed! He thinks I'm still bleeding! I just want Sleep!!

I'm 29 weeks. Pre pregnancy we did it probably 3x a week and now its down to 2 on most weeks. I'm happy with that and I think DH is.

So glad to see a mix of comments. I'm 15 weeks and we haven't dtd since conception . I feel extremely guilty! Although dh is not pushy, he's mentioned it a couple of times recently and I just say 'maybe tomorrow' oops!
I have no desire and after a previous loss, I feel extremely cautious about everything.

I've been heavily bloated since bfp, my boobs feel and look disgusting and I know I've put weight on my hips and legs which is just adding to the issue. I've also avoided fake tan since pregnant and overall I feel like a washed out whale. Not attractive!!

This thread makes me feel better! After two MCs I was too scared to have sex until 24 weeks and I have always been the one with the higher drive so it’s weird and I’ve had looots of dreams 😬 and the majority have been about DH, I really miss it. As I’ve got bigger it’s been harder to cuddle because I have about a zillion pillows just holding me in place (sciatica, swollen feet etc) so I think I generally miss the physical contact more than anything. When we do have sex I feel so unattractive and cumbersome it’s hard to get in to it. It’s a really strange feeling having no confidence in bed after being together so long. DH has been fantastic though, no pressure and actually said he would rather not if it makes me uncomfortable. 38 weeks now so not much longer until we can spoon properly again! (I’m big spoon usually!)

@Hazandduck I keep having really vivid sex dreams about my DH.

No sex for us for the first 12 weeks, I was worried about miscarriage, felt sick and was tired. Then the drive returned and we have made the most of my crazy hormones. I'm 36 and we're on the final straight, so are making the most of things as the sex shop will be well and truly closed for the foreseeable future once the baby has arrived.
PS we find mornings easier, I feel more comfortable and have more energy. Spooning is good, with support for bump, and an alluring nighty to disguise the enormous bump!