Sex during pregnancy - what's everyone up to?

[thingymaboob]

I know this is a bit of a private question but just wondering what people are doing as I feel stupidly nervous about it.

I know it's perfectly safe and I've been watching "catastrophe" and Sharon and Rob are at it constantly. We have had sex once since being pregnant at 30 weeks (this week). My DH has been wonderful and not put any pressure on at all.

I was anxious in the beginning as had a previous miscarriage, then I got hyperemesis and could do absolutely nothing for about 15 weeks, then I was under investigation for a short cervix, now I feel a bit better on some days and thought I'd give it a go but my orgasms make me contract and it's quite painful. My best friend had sex all the way through pregnancy and loved it. What are other people's experience?

37+3 here. I hadn’t had sex since 30 weeks or so.

DTD yesterday late afternoon with DH. Now in early labour

Good luck Blue
I'm 25 weeks and I have no interest in dtd sInce I got pregnant. We do it sporadically but I feel like a hippo having to roll around to get comfy.

We carried on pretty much as normal this time right to the end, apart from when nausea was bad. Had to get a little creative towards the end :o as I was very anxious about squashing the bump! And much more gentle than usual as again I was a bit paranoid.

Had baby four days ago so it'll be a good while now!

Oh I totally relate to the hippo feeling. And having to get up to pee about a million times before being ready is not exactly sexy. :o

Oh blue! How exciting! Good luck!

I only managed twice in my last pregnancy.

As a PP said when you’re pregnant and have a toddler running round it tends to be somewhat incompatible with doing the horizontal tango and very compatible with bone glowing exhaustion.

16 weeks with baby 3, tried it a couple of times in the early days but I'm placenta previa so been told it's off limits now.

Only done it twice since conception, which I felt weird about but now reading this thread I guess it's normal. I've been feeling sick so that's been why I thought, but then tonight I asked if DH wanted to do it and he said no. I guess he's lost interest. Im 12 weeks and physically look no different. Not looking good for after baby is here, that's for sure.

Pie I wouldn’t worry my lovely, lots of men just don’t want to when their partners become pregnant. It’s incredibly normal and I don’t think resembles what any future encounters after baby will involve

Thanks all for the support! I’m bricking it

@BlueButTrue that's exciting! Good luck!
@DeadDoorpost the hyperemesis doesn't help does it? My DH said he was always worried about me being sick on him.
I am feeling more horny in 3rd trimester, is that normal?

I'm 13+2 and we haven't had sex since just before we found out. I've been feeling rough and was a bit worried about bleeding or cramping. Hoping I'll feel more up to it in the next few weeks!

I’m not interested at all and feel completely unsexy. DH is struggling to get used to the infrequency so it still happens a bit but I could take it or leave it!

@thingymaboob Yeah, HG hasn't really helped but the ondansetron has been helpful for me at least. But I just haven't really had any sex drive.
If your hormones are settling down in 3rd trimester a bit it would make sense. I'd make the most of it while you can and get creative as a PP said!

Oh this thread makes me feel much better: I've found my people! 27 weeks now and between the nausea, the tiredness and now the fact that I have to heave myself around, sex has been very rare. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

In fact this is our second baby and to be honest it felt like a lot of work to have sex enough at the right time to conceive this time. And it only took two cycles...

I think for a lot of men, they are afraid they will hurt the baby or cause a bleed. I don't think it is because they find us unattractive. I find DH attractive but have no libido and agree it could be some time once dc is born depending on the birth and recovery.

12 weeks here, sixth pregnancy and hopefully fourth child, awful nausea which is a bit limiting at times but usually four or five times a week which is about our normal. Definitely rather knackered so more in the mornings or earlier evenings as by half nine I am asleep.

Dead Aha, you’re from my old HG thread!

Is that still running because I can’t find it anymore haven’t been able for about two weeks

Only a few times in the 1st trimester and about once a week since but at 37w with pelvic girdle pain and a huge bump it’s become logistically very difficult!

Same as before, around once a week. Am 24 weeks.

I'm madly horny now (23 weeks) but find myself puking every time my partner comes, and smells are really intense (not in a good way) ! We both can laugh about it but hope it stops after the pregnancy, as is not fun having to make sure I have a bucket to hand!

I'm 28 weeks with my first, we have been doing it about once a week throughout so far, pre TTC/pregnancy was probably more like 2-3 times a week. Some weeks I am much more tired than others, I've been massively lucky and not had any sickness though.

I’m 37 weeks and while he repeatedly tells me I’m beautiful and he loves me, DH has absolutely 0 sexual attraction to me right now.
We’ve not had sex since about 20 weeks when the baby gave him a kick and he was hugely put off.
My sex drive is still way up there, but I suspect I’ll be celibate until around Christmas as this rate!

In my first pregnancy I didn't have sex once from the day I got my positive, till 5 months after ds was born.

Poor dh was about ready to divorce me but I was very anxious throughout pregnancy and then had an emergency csec and ended up with all kinds of horrid infections in my tummy so that was the last thing on my mind.
Fast forward 18mo and I'm now 15 weeks pregnant with my second ad have so far avoided sex again! Opppss

I’m 24 weeks and we’ve probably done it a handful of times (if that) since conception.
I had awful morning sickness for ages and then completely lost my libido. Starting to feel like I may want it again but I’m constantly in pain with my back so I’m not really feeling it.

Also, I’ve found it really painful when we have tried. No idea why though.