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People's opinions are pissibg me off

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BalticUnicorn · 06/09/2017 20:30

I know people aren't doing it to be nasty but ffs shut up!
I tell people I'm up all night on the loo they tell me it'll be worse with the baby here

I tell people I've looked at a nursery they say make sure you look at a childminder too duh

I tell people I dont care what sex I have they tell me I want a boy due to this and that or a girl due to this and that. Gender stereotyping.

I could go on I'm going to become a selective mute I swear

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 06/09/2017 20:31

It's amazing the crap that comes out of people's mouths when they find out you're pregnant.

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BalticUnicorn · 06/09/2017 20:42

Seriously I just dont talk about it anymore its wearing. Defo not discussing names with anyone either!

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BalticUnicorn · 06/09/2017 20:47

And I'm not telling people I'm not breastfeeding either imagine!

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YorkieDorkie · 06/09/2017 20:56

Oh god there is a disease that sweeps people you know when they find out you're pregnant. They should be part of a cull.

peachgreen · 06/09/2017 21:00

Someone asked me - in front of loads of people - if my baby was planned! People will ask anything, honestly.

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BalticUnicorn · 06/09/2017 21:03

Yeah me too peach I felt like saying yeah after 18 months of hell and being on the waiting list for ivf but of course I didn't lol

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peachgreen · 06/09/2017 21:06

Hahaha I know, inwardly I was like "well we've been TTC for two and a half years and lost a baby in October, so..."

YorkieDorkie · 06/09/2017 21:14

My boss asked me that @peachgreen

It took every ounce of strength I had not to kill her.

AccrualIntentions · 06/09/2017 21:15

Someone at work also asked if it was planned. I've been married for 9 years and we'd be trying for 2 and a half Hmm

ememem84 · 06/09/2017 21:22

I will not miss this at all. 37 weeks tomorrow. Hurry up baby boy!! I'm meant to be disappointed as I should want a girl. No. I want a healthy baby.

People have offered opinions on me exercising, the food I'm eating, the fact I've had the odd glass of wine, you name it I've had an opinion on it.

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BalticUnicorn · 06/09/2017 21:29

When I told my boss I needed ivf she said I'm lucky I don't have cancer and why don't I ask them to put 6 eggs back in FFs I struggle with people no wonder I'm closed

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Thattwatoverthere · 06/09/2017 22:29

I've been asked if it's planned and have no idea what to say because it really, really wasn't. And to lie and say yes would look mad since I've been with my OH for 5 months and I'm now 18 weeks pregnant... have settled on 'happy surprise' for now.

And the touching my stomach, ffs get your hands off me Angry

cherryontopp · 06/09/2017 22:42

Oh yes ita unbelievable the shit that comes out of people's mouths when your pregnant.

Everyone's got an opinion on names, feeding, what prams, on me not finding out the sex...endless it really is.

I have to just grit my teeth and nod my head now.

Notlostjustexploring · 06/09/2017 23:06

I hear you.

I am a very happy, chilled, approachable person who loves nothing better than chatting to people, especially if they're lonely or needing a chat. I'm basically a fluffy bunny in human form. Exaggeration somewhat but you get the idea

I have never hated other people and their stupid fucking opinions so much in my life as when I was pregnant. Especially the, "you think it's bad now, wait til the baby is here" brigade. Yes, that's just what the uncomfortable, in pain, possibly depressed or anxious woman wants to hear - that it's only going to get worse. Cheers for that. And don't get me started on, "it's just hormones".

And breathe....

For the record, I had (have!) a shit sleeper, and I've yet to be more tired than during pregnancy. You can actually be comfy again! It's brilliant!

Handsfull13 · 06/09/2017 23:18

I got sick of it, I wanted a t-shirt printed with all the answers to these stupid questions. Unfortunately it doesn't stop when you have the baby, there's just a whole new set of dumbass questions and comments.

Why does everyone have an opinion of pregnancy and feel the need to tell you all about it

Babyblues14 · 06/09/2017 23:22

"I can't sleep much at night, can't get comfy"
Oh just wait til the baby comes you won't get any sleep then.
FUCK OFF!!
And don't bloody comment on my size, I know I'm fat, I'm bloody pregnant.
Only one week to go thankfully Grin
And breathe....

Expectingbsbunumber2 · 07/09/2017 06:58

I have to bute my tongue half the time. It pisses me off too!

Expectingbsbunumber2 · 07/09/2017 06:58

Bite!

ememem84 · 07/09/2017 06:59

babyblues that's a familiar one here too. Outwardly I'm just rolling my eyes a bit and smiling. Inside I'm screaming FUcK OFF and stabbing them in the face with my shoe.

Three weeks. That's all. Three weeks to go. (And only one more week at work as that seems to be where the two major culprits are...!)

TheLegendOfBeans · 07/09/2017 07:03

Some people honestly see a friend/colleague/strangers' pregnancy to spout utter shite.

I shared info and had this in my first pg.
Second time around I've said "I dunno" again and again and it usually equals a lack of bollocks being presented as "fact".

Phillipa12 · 07/09/2017 07:09

When i was pregnant with no 4 i always used to get oh are you trying for a girl whenever i went out, after numerous smiles and no just a healthy baby replies i cracked and replied with what i always wanted to say, no i have a daughter...she died, and then i walked off!

Hazandduck · 07/09/2017 08:26

I've had the "was it planned" question, it really is awkward!

We've been together ten years but got married recently when I was 7 months, and it was completely planned because I had 2 MCs last year and we were both desperate for a baby, and I knew if I didn't have the wedding plans to distract me I would be a wreck of nerves the whole pregnancy! I was completely planning to be over 20 weeks when I got married so I would be past the point of MC again. One friend asked me if we were trying before the wedding (when I was pregnant but hadn't told anyone) and when I said yes, she said "don't, if you lose that one it'll ruin your wedding." Oh thank you for that! Still makes me mad 5 months on!

People are twats to pregnant women.

Loxy4527 · 07/09/2017 08:33

I think my favourite was when I was at a small gig for my Dh's band and a male friend who had literally just found out said "I'm not being funny but should you be here? Like is this okay?" As if the baby was going to be deafened with folk and blues.

On the gender - is it so wrong that yes I'm going to find out (mainly because DH wants to) no I don't give a crap what it is and no I'm not going to tell you (especially those who prefaced it with "Oh we didn't find out and it was really special, I'd definitely keep it a surprise")

Special shout out to my midwife who told me that statistically women who don't know the gender push harder, after I'd already said that we're going to find out.

I also didn't realise that me and DH worked for bosses from 30 years ago because naturally I'm going to fall head over heels in love with my baby and never want to go back to the career that i've been working towards getting since I was a child and DH is going to find having a baby terribly boring and will definitely want to return from his pathetically short 2 weeks paternity leave early.

GlitterSparkles17 · 07/09/2017 09:11

My favourite was a lady behind the till at Tesco asking if my baby was planned or a mistake.... I was just like WTF?! why would you ask a stranger that?!

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