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People's opinions are pissibg me off

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BalticUnicorn · 06/09/2017 20:30

I know people aren't doing it to be nasty but ffs shut up!
I tell people I'm up all night on the loo they tell me it'll be worse with the baby here

I tell people I've looked at a nursery they say make sure you look at a childminder too duh

I tell people I dont care what sex I have they tell me I want a boy due to this and that or a girl due to this and that. Gender stereotyping.

I could go on I'm going to become a selective mute I swear

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AccrualIntentions · 07/09/2017 09:16

Oh I forgot this one, not exactly an opinion but my mother in law wanted to know my exact due date so she could work back to figure out the date of conception. Wtf

DeadDoorpost · 07/09/2017 10:16

Accrual lol if anyone had asked me that they wouldn't have been able to work it out as my due date doesn't match up with when I actually dtd. Baby just grew pretty quick but only DH and I know when it happened not that you can physically see when the conception happens anyway but there we go.

I've had so many comments about how every time they see me I'm looking bigger that I dreamt about it the other night and got totally upset and cried in my dream. I'm starting to want to avoid people now. Because I've told my DH several times that i feel fat and not pregnant (luckily he doesn't say any of this to me. He's an angel)

AmyB1986 · 07/09/2017 11:14

I don't understand why people think they have the right to ask pregnant women these kinds of questions!

I've had all sorts too. Was it planned is the biggest one!
Gender questions, and the 'never mind' reaction when I say I'm expecting my 3rd daughter! Also 'you can try again for a boy' stfu I actually wanted a girl!
The breastfeeding saga also, yes I'm going to breastfeed and I get 'you should really try to give her a bottle, you don't want her to become too attached to your breast!'
I also get comments about how big my bump is and is it twins. Asking that question to me knowing I had preterm twins who passed away is really insensitive!
What is wrong with people?! I've stopped talking and either scowl or smile now.

Sorry you ladies have had to deal with this too but I am glad it's not just happening to me!

anotherbadusername · 07/09/2017 11:17

If people's opinions are pissing you off now, just wait until the baby is born

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BalticUnicorn · 07/09/2017 14:01

God help us all lol

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WorkingBling · 07/09/2017 14:07

Deaddoorpost I think it's more likely that the sperm was just hanging around until it was ready as i don't think in those early stages there's quick or slow growing? Based on dates, we KNOW we didn't dtd as we were babysitting what felt like half a dozen kids that night! But can only assume it was a day or two before and that sperm and egg got friendly while I was running around trying to corral small children back to bed!

Hazandduck · 08/09/2017 06:28

I had people working out our conception too haha it's so weird, and they all say it must be because of the new Fifty shades film...which I've never seen

FlyingGiraffeBox · 09/09/2017 21:38

Week off my due date and I will happily strangle the next person who looks at my bump and says 'are you SURE it's not twins?! Hahaha!'

Saz626 · 10/09/2017 10:30

I've had family tell me 'I think you should really find out what the sex is so it gives oh time to get his head around it if it's another girl before the baby gets here' emmm there's nothing to get his head around as long as it's a healthy baby!!!

When I told people I'm going to try breast feeding the response I got was 'ew really, I just think it's wrong' again that was family.

I don't know why people think these comments are ok to say.

Hazandduck · 13/09/2017 02:02

@Saz636 oh you're joking! That must annoy your OH too surely! So rude. And what do the people saying that about BF think tits are for? Jesus lol x

Jellybabie3 · 13/09/2017 07:32

First thing my boss asked when i told her i was pg was 'was this a planned thing'. Was gobsmacked. Yes this 'thing' was planned. Makes you wanna go on mat leave quicker.

user1488397844 · 13/09/2017 07:50

Not the same but I had to buy a pregnancy test when my little one was around 4months old & the cashier in Tesco said "OMG are u pregnant again? With that one already? U must be mental" I wasnt pregnant & in the middle of being treated for PND at the time so was already terrified of how I would cope without her shitty comment. People are just full of knowledge at all times!

Suzi763 · 13/09/2017 13:48

Thanks to God. I am lucky in this matter. My family didn't ask me whether baby boy or girl. They just asked for a healthy baby. But I also faced such questions in my social circle. When someone said it should be baby boy because it's your first baby. I don't know why people think so. Is it really matters if first baby is girl or boy? Many people even don't have baby. It's very very precious gift from God. I myself wished for baby girl. Girls are so sweet. My little princess is 1 year old now. She never waked up at nights. Girls are more supportive than boys. You should not listened to people. Let them say what they want. Just be relax and enjoy this time.

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