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Income support and other benefits

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princessmumy · 25/08/2017 12:38

Hi,
I'm 19, 24 weeks pregnant and unemployed. I currently get universal credit. I was wondering if anyone got income support and could tell me how much I would be getting? So I know if it's worth it to make the switch on benefits or not

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ilovesooty · 27/08/2017 14:56

Perhaps I should elaborate on my point since you evidently still don't comprehend it.

I never said the OP should get a job at this point but she and you aren't going to be employable unless you work on your skills and address the gaps in your employment history by getting qualifications and considering work experience, training or volunteering.

user1499085914 · 27/08/2017 14:58

I've done work experience & ive actually had a lot of experience with children I've been helping bringing them up since I was 8 yes I need to do more training but like I've said once my children go to nursery I will be getting a job I don't agree with signing on your whole life at all, I want a job & op has said she has tried

TipTopTipTopClop · 27/08/2017 14:59

Like I said everyone has their own opinion don't they, people that work actually don't understand, just cos you've got a job you think it's easy to get one,& you don't even know the girls situation.

I doubt getting a job is made any easier by having two children before your 21st birthday and no father in sight, but crack on.

Good luck to both of you.

user1499085914 · 27/08/2017 15:02

Yeah well I was young, I didn't think at all but I don't regret my children, if anything they've made my life better, you don't know anyone's situation not everyone has had it easy& the father still sees them actually just cos he doesn't pay don't mean he isn't there for my babies.

ilovesooty · 27/08/2017 15:06

So if you never leave them and he doesn't contribute financially despite working what use is he?

What kind of employment are you hoping to move into?

PuckeredAhole · 27/08/2017 15:06

user you sound immature and like you don't know how real life happens. If you haven't left your children alone it's actually more detrimental not something all should strive to do. The amount of kids that go into reception having never been away from their mothers is too high.

Just admit that it's for your benefit really that you're stuck to your kids like a limpet . You would get bored and lonely without them, yet they'd probably thrive at nursery. Selfish.

user1499085914 · 27/08/2017 15:12

He is still their dad& they love him & I would like to eventually work with the elderly or children so then it's not just about earning money it's about helping as well, & it's not for my benefit actually, both of my babies are to young for nursery my eldest isn't even 2 yet& my youngest has just turned 1.

wannabestressfree · 27/08/2017 15:13

I had my children young and went to university so I could get a job that allowed me to be at home and work- teaching. User as much as I (and others on here) appreciate you want to stay at home with the children two of you created as it stands neither of you do anything practical to support them. You cannot remain state funded forever. You need to think about the bigger picture.

dowhatyouwish · 27/08/2017 15:17

Oh dear, this thread has taken a bit of a turn

user1499085914 · 27/08/2017 15:17

No i have said once they go to nursery I will be getting a job! I have no one to look after my children if I got a job now, I can't afford to pay for them to go while I work, i don't agree with being on benefits forever, they go to nursery at the age of 2 so I would be getting a job then.

wannabestressfree · 27/08/2017 15:24

But you made a point about the father not contributing and work almost being easier than the sacrifice you made by staying at home. A sacrifice you don't bankroll.

That's why posters get annoyed (me included)

ilovesooty · 27/08/2017 15:24

And all I'm saying is what you yourself said - getting a job simply isn't that easy. Couldn't your child's father make himself useful by providing some childcare to enable you to study or train once a week or so?

user1499085914 · 27/08/2017 15:30

Yes I understand why people get annoyed but it's not actually as easy as what people think, & I have no one that will do anything like that, their father comes from a family that believe if he works he shouldn't even have to give his children a cuddle if he sees them after work, he isn't going to help that's what I'm saying if no one knows the situation you can't really judge some people literally have no one

ilovesooty · 27/08/2017 15:37

I don't see why you don't set up a formal payment arrangement if he's such a waste of space. You certainly aren't going to find it easy to get employment if he won't even look after his own children.

wannabestressfree · 27/08/2017 15:37

Cms? He cannot have children and just not pay for them. You need to sort this out.

user1499085914 · 27/08/2017 15:44

Yeah but its abit more complicated then that, he would probably stop seeing his children if I done that, where I never had a dad I want my babies to have one, when their old enough to know im not going to lie to them then they can make their own decision about him, I've said about me getting a night time job but he just says he's not having them, I can't even leave them alone with him because he refuses to even change a nappy

Malark645 · 27/08/2017 15:46

I think it's more or less the same OP (uc and income support) not sure whether you could claim IS reading other comments although you need to be 29 weeks pregnant before you can claim IS anyhow. Just so you know which you probably already do once you reach 29 weeks you can also claim a sure start grant of £500. You may be able to claim milk tokens now 3.10 per week then once the baby is born it's £6 something.

TipTopTipTopClop · 27/08/2017 15:49

Are you still in a relationship with this charmer, user?

Malark645 · 27/08/2017 15:49

PPs what's your problem if others work or not and if their children's father pays child maintenance

Malark645 · 27/08/2017 15:50

Why does it matter to you tiptop? Pp please stop justifying yourself.

user1499085914 · 27/08/2017 15:53

No I'm not but at the time I was only 17& I thought I was in love it wasn't till my second was born & he wouldn't help, only brought himself & his 10 year old from a previous relationship anything

ilovesooty · 27/08/2017 15:54

User I'm sorry that you've ended up with someone so unsupportive. I hope you will be able to get some independence once the children are able to go to nursery.

SerfTerf · 27/08/2017 16:00

You switch from not being able to spell "mummy", to fairly complex sentence structure with correct SPAG and punctuation but then always leave off the final full stop?

Those are some EXTREMELY variable literacy skills you have there.

Maybe use the next few weeks to do key skills qualifications? 😉

NC1990 · 27/08/2017 16:08

Wow. Judging mothers who go back to work to pay for the children they have created rather than relying on the state to pay. I've seen it all on MN now.

wannabestressfree · 27/08/2017 16:11

If he is a lacking parent 'he won't even change a nappy' I would get the cms to assess him and not look back. Then at least he has contributed something worthwhile to their upbringing.

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