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Hands off the bump!

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marieg76 · 27/03/2007 14:18

I'm 12 weeks pg with my first and am soon to start to show. My fear is that I will suddenly become public property and that people will try to touch my bump. Is this an urban myth or do strangers really actually try to touch you when you are showing?

Also put off by the idea of perves staring at my huge gazongas but that's another story!

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Mumpbump · 27/03/2007 14:20

In my last pg, the only people who touched my bump were my dad and my sister. I'm sure it's not as bad as people generally think...

hollyandtheeasterbunny · 27/03/2007 14:22

Unfortunately people do try and touch your bump (hence the title of the June antenatal thread- You Toucha My Bump I Smasha Your Face!)! It's mostly old ladies in M&S I've found! People also feel it is ok to tell you how fat you are as well!

GillL · 27/03/2007 14:28

I don't remember one person asking/trying to touch my bump during my last pg. I'm 19 weeks now and so far no one has done this. I remember my sister saying that someone at a party she went to wouldn't leave her alone. I personally wouldn't like it. Even normally I don't like people I don't know invading my personal space.

nickytwotimes · 27/03/2007 14:29

only a few close friends touched my bump, but i know people who felt they'd been molested by total strangers when they were up the duff! it also depends on what you do for a living. i do flip all. so didn't run into hoards of strangers like my nursey and shop assistant pals who were constantly touched up.

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marieg76 · 27/03/2007 14:43

I travel to work on a packed train and then a packed tube so in really close proximity to strangers. I can imagine myself going absolutely spare if anyone tried to touch me.

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ShowOfHands · 27/03/2007 14:52

I'm 33 weeks and have probably had about 6 people I don't know from Adam wander up to me and touch my bump. I step away sharpish. I don't like anybody touching me though- pregnant or not. Only DH is allowed to touch the bump. My Mum asks every time I see her but I say no. It is very lovely when people chat to you about your bump in an interested way. I have an hour's bus commute to work and get lots of lovely women chatting to me about the baby. However, expect many 'my God you're frickin' enormous aren't you' and 'oh dear some people do just look fat when pregnant' comments. Favourite so far was last week. Old woman announces 'ooh hasn't it made you fat in the face?'. I've grown used to it by now, but it hurt at first. And I'm not fat!

pinkranger · 27/03/2007 14:55

One of the young guys is toucy - feely and always trys to put his arm round you 9 in a nice way i think) but i dont like that sought of thing , the other day he touched my bump and i flipped , cant stand anyone except ds, dh and my nieces who are 7,4 touching it!!

SOH - Omg you are nearly there

ShowOfHands · 27/03/2007 14:57

That's the nicest thing anybody's said all day.

It seems ages away but it's probably not!

Mumpbump · 27/03/2007 14:57

Oh, I forgot that there is a couple with whom we are friends and they asked if they could touch my bump and I didn't mind at all because they had asked...

gigglinggoblin · 27/03/2007 15:04

if someone starts touching your bump, start stroking their stomach. they will then either get the message and stop stroking you or think you are wierd and leg it. both ways work

katybird · 27/03/2007 15:06

LOL at the huge gazongas comment! I've been trying to think of suitable put-downs but I'm stumped. I'm 32E normally so you can imagine how big they're going to get...

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marieg76 · 27/03/2007 15:20

Really it's like I am smuggling bald men in my bra - they feel huge (I was a C but am now a D)!

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Holly29 · 27/03/2007 15:56

I am SO pleased someone started this thread. I am only 14 weeks and am just starting to show really but my Mum has been driving me CRAZY asking if she can touch it the whole time and I actually feel like punching her every time she does! (pregnancy hormones is the only possible explanation obviously). I have tried explaining nicely that I just don't like it and it feels weird but she is really offended.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAArrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggh!

ShowOfHands · 27/03/2007 16:00

I quite like having boobs! Gone from a B cup to an E cup. They're hideous and veiny and covered in stretch marks, but hoist 'em up and slap a nice top on them and they're passable!

I actually feel terrible that my Mum desperately wants to feel my bump and I keep saying no. It may be a baby bump, but it's my body. Makes me feel very weird.

RedKennedy · 27/03/2007 16:11

Ive not had too many problems with bump stroking, as I just try and swerve away from the outreaching hand. Men are worse than women I find. But its the comments that are now starting to get on my massive norks to be honest. I too am 33weeks (waves at SOH hello love!) and am rather round but its all bump. When i tell people ive still got 7 weeks of growing to do they dont believe me and ask if Im kidding. Yep, like Id fekking joke about it. Yep I cant fekking believe it too and yep I will have to get a frikkin wheelchair soon, thanks very much.

ShowOfHands · 27/03/2007 16:29

Oh you get that too RK? The 'really? 7 whole weeks? Are you sure that's even possible?' Yes, quite sure, I'm going to be the first human blimp, the BBC are very interested. Eejits.

Where the heck have you been RK? Quite a few due in Mays have been absent without permission. You don't have a... real life to get on with do you?

LilRedWG · 27/03/2007 16:31

I found men to be worse too. FIL couldn't keep away from my bump!

Hopeitwontbebig · 27/03/2007 18:04

GGGGRRRRRRRR, I'm 14 weeks and have been showing for some time (3rd baby) and I've had several friends (not close ones) just start touching and stroking my bump - FFS it's mostly fat at this stage, baby can't feel it. I wouldn't mind if they asked before doing it, but to just dive in is infuriating. Hey why stop at the bump, my boobs have gone up 3 sizes due to the pregnancy, they're mostly fat also, wanna have a feel of them too ggggggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

bumperlicious · 27/03/2007 18:08

Yep, I'm getting a lot of "you can't have long to go now" (from total strangers btw) then round eyes when I tell them that in fact I have two and a half months left to go!

Though someone did say to me today, well it looks like it all baby to me, and despite still thinking it's rude that people keep commenting on my increasing size that to me was the nicest thing anyone has said about it!

PurpleLostPrincess · 27/03/2007 20:28

Just today, I had an 'incident' in the office. We're all quite friendly at my work but I was flabbergasted when my colleague touched my tummy. I wouldn't mind but I'm quite large and I've got boobs, middle tummy, then the baby bit. I'm 14 weeks (3rd baby) and I'm only just starting to show. She was touching my middle tummy - arrrggghhhh!!!!! How embarassing to have to tell her that the baby is 'down there'!!!!

I don't think I'll mind people touching me when I get proper big as long as they ask first. I'm looking forward to getting a proper bump as I just look fat at the moment! (does anybody else find that their 'middle bit' gets bigger because everything is pushing up?).

MuminBrum · 27/03/2007 20:42

I too thought I would become public property and that I'd be fighting off would-be bump-touchers, but in fact I can't remember anyone trying to touch my bump except DP, who used to hold it firmly and say in a commanding voice "now listen! this is the voice of your dad!". I think my best friend might have had a bit of a go as well but by that time she'd had three bumps of her own and was quite unimpressed by mine. I don't think the whole "public property" thing is as bad as people make out, but maybe it's because I'm a hatchet-faced old crone and people thought I'd have their hands off it they tried it.

Eaglebird · 27/03/2007 20:47

A bloke at work once put his hand on my knee, and I growled in my best demonic voice, 'do that again and I'll punch you in the throat' . I would never normally come out with such a thing, so I don't know where those words came from. Anyway, he removed his hand pretty sharpish.
When I develop a bump I intend to say something along the same lines to anyone who dares touch it without my permission .

DonnyLass · 28/03/2007 14:14

marieg76

just you wait ... I went from a 34A to a 36DD

I KID YOU NOT

anyway -- the bump thing ... I'm afraid people do suddenly think you're a public dump for all sorts of comments ...and people do want to touch you

watch out especially for total strangers in supermarkets feeling they can engage in all sorts of conversations and ask all sorts of private questions:

-- oohhh I love babies me (weird old guy)
-- how much longer ... you're huge/tiny etcetc
-- with my first I had the most dreadful labour ... and then a horror story
-- did you conceive naturally!!!

and when they're actually born it gets worse ...

-- oh how was your labour
-- oh what a little doll dont let me near babies I love them (!)
-- how old
-- does she sleep/eat/poo well (at days!)

its like being in a goldfish bowl

haaaaaaaaaa

DonnyLass · 28/03/2007 14:20

oh and the post-preg bump vanishing thing ALSO invites comments

'oh she's x months old ... how much more weight do you need to lose then' ...

in pregnancy you tend to round up the time ... after birth you tend to round down baby's age so as people think you've shed weight in an amazing short time or don't give you a hard time about it ...

(6months on Friday -- 10lbs to go!)

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