Shitty things people say

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"D" mother came over this afternoon. I'm 17 weeks of with baby number 4. We are all very excited. Anyway, I have a big bump...number four after all! I'm still wearing jeans I bought pre preg..although they are a wee bit tighter than they used to be. Size 10. Of course mother says in a bitchy tone "wow, you've really spread out haven't you? You must be enjoying all the food"...like fuck off!!!

Of course on the way to my antenatal app on the bus crying my eyes oit. I couldn't pull myself together!! I just don't understand why people are so nasty for the sake of it!!

Second baby, DD1 would be 2 years old when it was born. When I told my mother the news she said "OMG! Not another one! You will ruin your figure. You will have to wear a corset". (50 years ago, not 500)

MIL to DH on announcement of this pregnancy - "You're a fucking idiot".

This baby came after the loss of twin boys so I was shocked she made the remark.

Oh, and quite famously from a work colleague - "Don't you think your body was trying to tell you something the last time? I'm only saying "

it seems like it was a joke, don't take it seriously and try to understand this is how people converse. If you let it get to you you will have a hell of a time with your kid.

Gosh blue that's awful, I've had a late loss and some of the comments suck. I'm quite angry on your behalf about that one from your colleague.

Was that reply meant for me Youare?

eastegg It annoys me as she's a total busybody.

MIL's comment hurt the most though

"Wow! You've just exploded haven't you?!"

"Is it just one baby?"

"Are you sure it's not twins?"

"How many are in there?!"

One! There is one baby! Just one!"

And the was it planned question - why sure, we've rarely passed more than hello between us but I'd love to discuss my family planning with you

"Ickle when are you going to hurry up and give dc1 a brother or sister?!"

Well ideally 9 months after yet another round of ivf

I had another lovely comment today. I was discussing with an older work colleague the things that we'd bought for the baby. I mentioned that we'd bought the pram. She asked if someone had bought it for us, and when I replied that we'd bought it ourselves she said, " oh no you didn't did you? That's very bad luck. A relative is meant to buy it for you." I laughed it off and said I didn't think I could expect a relative to fork out several hundreds of pounds. Luckily I'm not superstitious, but a comment like that could really upset some people.

'Twins! Are they natural?' None of your business and a very personal question. Customer also put her hand on my bump. Why??

'Oh you're definitely going to need an epidural. No way can you go through labour without it!' - this said to me SEVERAL times by the same work colleague whilst I was pregnant.

For god's sake, let me go into labour first. So annoying.

A family member came to visit me in Hospital after the birth of our DC and told everyone afterwards that I looked like I had gone two rounds with Mike Tyson and another round with Katie Taylor.

When I was a teenager (about 14) I was walking down the street with my then boyfriend, eating a packet of biscuits between us. His mother leaned out of the attic window and shouted at the top of her voice "I'd let BF have those if I were you RubaDub, a moment on the lips, forever on the hips!". Absolute cow bag. I wouldn't care but I was only a size 6 at the time and she was non too slim herself. I stopped eating around her eventually because she made lots of similar comments.

I had another one today from one of dm's friends...

Friend: 'do you know what you're having?'
Me: 'yes another girl 😁'
Friend: '3 girls! Never mind you can always try again for a boy!'

Face palm 😖

DH is ginger, I have brown hair, and DS1 has brown hair. When I was pregnant with DS2, I was asked by a friend if I thought he would 'escape' as DS1 had, i.e. not have ginger hair.
Now that he's here he has really blond hair. Someone asked me the other day (in front of DH), whether he belonged to either of us. Really??!

An old man I see dog walking sometimes said to me 'alright fattie' I understand he was just joking but have all manners gone out of the window.

I'm flabbergasted at the differing comments I'm getting.

At work

Friend 1:
"Oh that's right I keep forgetting you're pregnant just can't tell much yet!"

Friend 2:(from different dept but who I speak to regularly but not enough to announce pregnancy iykwim)
"What do you mean you're 5 months pregnant?! Where's the bump?"

And then there's ladies at the local shop:

Lady 1:
"Are you sure it's not twins?"

Lady 2:
"Oh my god you're big considering you're not due for another 3months!!!"

I get the strong urge to headbutt some people (not jealousy)

A friend messaged me out of the blue when I was pregnant with DS1 to say that she had thought of me because a lady she works with had just had her second miscarriage

I'm sure she meant well on some level...

Iwannapuppy - my exMIL came out with those too, along with 'Oh so it was all baby then after all...', cackle... after dc4 had arrived. Rather please she's an 'ex'.

Standing at the schoolgates waiting to pick up DS, talking with my friend and approached by one of the glam mums (you know the sort) who overheard us discussing baby's gender. I said I thought it was a girl (20 week scan yesterday confirmed this!), her quip?
"Yes I think so too - they steal your beauty, don't they?"
This is after 6 weeks of her telling me how tired I look and recommending eye cream. FFS.

Literally any comment referring to a "larger" family size.
"Are they all yours?" Etc.

My mum had four kids in six years- by choice. It was the early 90s, our house was big enough and food was cheap. She loved children and it made sense to her to have us all close together. She went back to work when I was 10. In supermarkets, on holiday, wherever we were out and about, someone would always gawk at us or make some comment. We were a happy family- all well-clothed and had some amazing times together. I couldn't imagine life without any of my siblings. So I wish some people would get over the rare occasion where someone has 4+ kids. We kind of had the last laugh though, as my siblings are all working in medicine, so FU to anyone who thinks we're draining the country!

A friend who knew I'd lost one of the twins I was carrying very early on in the pregnancy...

'are you absolutely sure there's not twins in there?'

Speechless.

@Youvegotafriendinme I can sympathise. I'm also 30 but people always think I'm younger. I always have to carry ID to buy alcohol for example.

So many patients at work (I'm a receptionist) comment on how I'm young and don't I want to live a bit more first etc? Like FUCK OFF, you've judged my age based on my appearance and have asked a very rude and personal question!

My boss walked in the door this morning and said "You aren't very fat yet are you?" I was stunned but in my head my reply was "No, but evidently you're still a c**t..."