Shitty things people say

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"D" mother came over this afternoon. I'm 17 weeks of with baby number 4. We are all very excited. Anyway, I have a big bump...number four after all! I'm still wearing jeans I bought pre preg..although they are a wee bit tighter than they used to be. Size 10. Of course mother says in a bitchy tone "wow, you've really spread out haven't you? You must be enjoying all the food"...like fuck off!!!

Of course on the way to my antenatal app on the bus crying my eyes oit. I couldn't pull myself together!! I just don't understand why people are so nasty for the sake of it!!

Brenna24 That's a terrible thing to say. People can be so fucking cruel.

My favourite was when I told a work colleague I was pregnant and she said with disdain "oh, that's good news, is it?"

Dickhead.

Brenna

fuck me sideways that's actually the worst thing I've ever read on one of these (depressingly regular) threads.

As an aside, pregnant women (especially if you are the first in your group) are a seeming source of fascination for some. I felt like one of the primates at London Zoo for a while when I was getting peered and asked invasive as fuck questions at work.

Pregnancy = license for others to be dicks.

I got a bit upset telling people I was pregnant with baby no.3, my boss said "is this a congratulations or condolence"

This baby is our 1st boy, gets a bit old hearing "you must be so glad he's a boy"....no just happy baby is healthy.

"dh will be so happy, a son makes a man"

When I was pregnant with DS, 3 work colleagues responded with "was it planned?" Yes, that's why I'm waving around my scan photo with a big smile. And the world and his dog commented on the size of my bump - are you sure it's just one, are you sure that's the right due date, ooh I only put on 7lb with my pregnancy you don't want to put too much on etc etc etc. DS is an only because we've been unable to fall pregnant again, so now I get loads of intrusive "didn't you want someone for him to play with?" questions. Boils my piss.

I'm pregnant with DC 1 and as I am normally pretty slim I have had a noticeable bump since 14 weeks which people love to comment on. At 20 weeks one lovely lady at work said I was looking really quite stout for only 20 weeks. STOUT!!! It was very public and I was mortified.

A delivery driver was delivering a parcel and had his wife waiting the car (he often seems to bring her along for company on his delivery runs). He is normally super quick (gig economy type job, paid per delivery) but last week he hovered about after handing over my parcel which was weird, then he came out with 'my wife is wondering how long you've got to go, only you look massive' I was so stunned could only manage to say 'another 2 months' to which he replied 'really?!?! 2 months?!'

When I was 8 months pregnant with dad, my nan told me I shouldn't be buying "all these things for the baby" because the baby might be dead at birth.

I lost my last one at 14 weeks and my mother told me that she knew I would because she had a feeling.

DD!! Not dad! That'd be very weird...

Telling me what I should and shouldn't be eating... If all I can stomach is crisps that day then it's better than nothing! I spent a whole month eating fruit so I think I deserve it!
Colleagues telling me they had the 'perfect pregnancy' and complaining when I have an appointment, holiday or I've taken a day off sick. Oh sorry I can't be 'perfect' too! The 'you're going to fail as parents' from MIL. Being told I will need more than just oh at the birth, being told literally everything I'm planning on doing is wrong. Most of this is from MIL

My classic comment was a colleague who asked 'how are you doing with walking?', as if I would have somehow lost the use of my legs by being pregnant. I can't remember exactly, but don't think I was even a waddling size by then.

I got 2 that stuck out:

Boss walks in, not seen her for at least a month, I'm around 24 weeks pregnant, loudly in front of my colleagues:
"it's going to be a girl, I can just tell, you are so round, especially your face. It's so round."

My mum:
"You won't cope with labour. Ask now for a c section."

Thanks for the vote of confidence ma!

Brenna, that's a horrifying thing to say to someone, good for you blocking her everywhere and best wishes for your pregnancy.

I haven't heard any terrible comments, but my in-laws did manage to make it about them when we told them - something about how it has been hard for them that we hadn't already had a kid. I cut them off before they could say the whole thought.

"Personal feeds" is hysterical.

I had a funny positive experience the other weekend - a lady came up to me in the hardware store and told me I look just adorable. Like a doll, ha! And she didn't try to touch me :)

An old friend (not so anymore) asked who the father was 🙁 my fiance you twat!!

Some of those are awful!

I'm 30, yet I look very young. I was constantly given funny looks while out, especially if I was by myself.

While at work one day a customer asked me to extend a Christmas gift receipt. I said I would ask the manager as I won't be here then. When I came back he asked if I was leaving and I said no, my baby is due at Christmas.
I could have picked his jaw off the floor!
He said "my god, but your so young, your parents must be so disappointed?"
I couldn't help but laugh at him! I just smiled and gave him his receipt.
Crazy rude people!

Thank you all. Just had my next scan 9+3 and still alive. Now officially my longest surviving by 10 days.

There are some other classics in here too - "you will not cope with labour" The cheek of that one! I take it she struggled then!

I forgot another one, from the same person. She asked if I could cycle my bike, I answered yes. "Did your DOCTOR actually SAY you could?" was the reply, quite aggressively.

Brenna after all you've been through you have my full permission to uppercut anyone else that says something TOTALLY UNBELIEVABLY STOOPID.

"Don't you just LOVE being pregnant? I LOVED being pregnant!!"

Yes, I am very happy to be having my first child, but I am also hobbling on crutches due to crippling sciatica and feeling like a zombie - so no

Work colleague 1 (female): "SO ARE YOU PREGNANT???!?" (very loudly, in the middle of our shared kitchen, 2 weeks before I had even told my boss)

Work colleague 2 (female): "I knew you were pregnant when I saw you from behind because you are... wider!"

Work colleague 3 (male): "I knew you were pregnant before you said anything because you know... massive boobs!"

Work colleague 3 (male): "How long will you be with us for?" Because I'd clearly leave work and become a stay at home mum after having a baby. (Nothing wrong with staying at home with kids obviously, only with the assumption that this will definitely be the case.)

Work colleague 4 (male): "So when are you going to POP??!?"

Work colleague 5 (male): "Don't worry about working so close to your due date, I'm sure the baby will be late as all people from [insert Southern European country I'm originally from] are always late!"

More than one work colleagues: "Are you SURE you're not having twins??"

I could go on.

When I answered the door to my mother (who lives abroad) who's first words were "wow you're huge!"

No, actually mother, I'm not huge, I have a bump because I'm 7 months pregnant, I'm in a maternity size 8 so shut the eff up and THINK before you speak!!

People can be really tactless and don't realise how much their comments can hurt, especially when a lot of pregnant women have a period of difficulty getting used to their changing figure!

Wow. Some of these are just...wow.

Someone, not even a friend (well certainly not after this!) said "why didn't you figure out you were gay before having your DD?" On how many levels is this offensive?!

DH is ginger. As am I.
All pregnancies had a variation of the same comments:
What if the baby is ginger?
I'd shave the baby's head if it came out ginger.
You don't want a ginger baby.
And so on.
All The Fucking Time.
I just got to the point where I laughed openly when someone said it, then got dismissed as a rude and crazy pregnant lady! 🙄

Oh God Canary! I'm ginger too and I had this when I was having my daughter. We didn't know if we were having a boy or a girl and we're talking about names when I suggested Oliver. My sister in law said you can't use that, what if it's ginger! It really stuck with me, though she was only very young so I should make allowances.
Now though, everyone is hoping that the next one is ginger. We are a dying breed 😄
Plus, whenever my siblings have teased in the past I've reminded them that they are statistically more likely than me to have a ginger baby.

Some horrific comments here..thank God we can share and half laugh about it.

When I left my old job I was 9 weeks...on my last day I had people ask was I going on maternity leave. Then starting the new job and people knew I was expecting I got the "Oh your first?" Me saying no my fourth...then "and are they all from the same father"

Wtf!!

I've got the too ypung comments too. Im in my 30s and married...not that it matters! For people that are super bitchy I throw in that the first three were put of wedlock and this is our first legit haha

Although a friend said to me that this was our first non bastard. And "are you still preg??"

Give me strength!!!

We've had pretty awful staffing situation at my work and I was told by my line manager, after two people announced they had new jobs, that I wasn't allowed to get pregnant. This was mentioned on three separate occasions when I was 7, 9 and 10 weeks pregnant. She didn't know I was pregnant. Oh and to top it off at 13 weeks pregnant, after announcing and being off the work with hypermesis, I was given a bottle of wine for all my hard work that year...