Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Flip

1 2 3

Original poster

Is it wrong to give baby the same name as their first cousin?

66 replies

Busybecca · 20/06/2017 22:30

My all time favourite name has always been Rose. I always intended to use it if I was lucky enough to have a girl. My brother and sister in law have a Rose. We live an hour apart and see each other a maximum of five times per year. Would it wrong of me to use the name too? This is my last baby and I feel like I'll always regret it if I don't use it. I don't like any longer versions like Rosalind, I just love Rose. What do you think?

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

NameChange30 · 22/06/2017 10:23

Is your DD1 older than your neice? If so why didn't you call DD1 Rose, if it's your favourite ever girl's name?

owltrousers · 22/06/2017 10:45

IMO its definitely wrong and a little bit weird. There are so many other nice names, pick one of them.

Nodowntime · 22/06/2017 10:45

The thing is, busybecca, if we were only talking about BIL and SIL getting put out, that potentially can be ignored, as their problem. Though if they WERE to ask, what, are there no other lovely names out there? - you cannot even reply that it was your all-time favourite but they pipped you to the post in your situation.

It's more about the child's feelings that you should think here now. It's annoying enough to having to be referred to by first name and surname in a classroom, because you are one of many (but given Rose's current rank in popularity it would be just unlucky and outside your control), but to consciously name a second grandchild in the family the same, for the girl growing up maybe not that great. She may end up using her middle name as her first when she's older, not unheard of in this situation, so make sure to pick something you love too!
Alternatively, she might be fine, esp. is the older Rose is really lovely and someone you can't help feeling you'd like to resemble.

Original poster

Busybecca · 22/06/2017 14:38

Her Rose is three months older than my eldest and we'd discussed names so I did resent her for using it and felt I couldn't use it three months later, nor the following year when DD2 was born but now it's my last chance to use it I'm not sure if I can give up on it. I totally wouldn't mind if they used one of my DDs names.

OP posts:

NameChange30 · 22/06/2017 14:47

Ah so you had discussed names That's why you should never discuss your chosen name or shortlist with anyone, especially not anyone who's expecting a child!

Did you tell her it was the name you'd picked or just that you were considering it?

Original poster

Busybecca · 22/06/2017 14:50

I told her it had my favourite name forever. She said she liked it but her DH hated it then they announced the birth and they'd used it.

OP posts:

Susiebabs · 22/06/2017 15:04

Rosalie?

anyadvicehelps · 22/06/2017 15:18

My DB has the same name as one of our cousins. Not at all a problem for them, or the rest of the family!

Susiebabs · 22/06/2017 15:36

Only you know your family and how they would take it. My family would think it was weird, so I wouldn't. But lots of other posters have this and it's no problem. Why not ask them? If they say they aren't comfortable with it, then you have a choice to make about whether the name or the relationship means more.

rainbowpie · 22/06/2017 15:44

I told her it had my favourite name forever. She said she liked it but her DH hated it then they announced the birth and they'd used it.

Then fuck her tbh. I'd say use it. It's a bit weird but there's no come back. You told her years ago you loved it.

NameChange30 · 22/06/2017 15:45

Such a silly thing to do though, sharing your favourite name with someone who's 3 months more pregnant than you!

HouseworkIsASin10 · 22/06/2017 15:54

Then fuck her tbh. I'd say use it. It's a bit weird but there's no come back. You told her years ago you loved it.

I agree. She knew it was your favourite name so use it.

Underparmummy · 22/06/2017 15:56

Weird. My sister in law threatened to do the same to us. I found it odd and felt sorry for PILS having two GC with the same name!

She didn't in the end.

PaintingOwls · 22/06/2017 16:14

My little cousin was named after me, it was seen as an honour. I don't mind and she was in the year below me and we ended up emigrating anyway. But in my family there are a lot of Johns and Marys etc.

Perhaps you could call her Rosalind or Rosemary and NN Rose?

Oysterbabe · 22/06/2017 18:14

Yeah it's weird and I wouldn't do it.
There are thousands of beautiful names, pick another.

Nodowntime · 22/06/2017 23:11

I told her it had my favourite name forever. She said she liked it but her DH hated it then they announced the birth and they'd used it.

That's pretty mean! Similar thing happened to DH's best friend, his GF was pregnant and told the planned name one of the good friend's(the female friend was her partner's not hers really), and they had a baby two months earlier and named her that. DH's best mate was not too pleased, but didn't think to change to a different name obviously.

In your situation SIL wouldn't be able to comment negatively, since she knew it was your plan all along and she scuppered it!
As people said upthread, also there are some variations if you liked them, Rosa, Rosalie, Rosalind, Rosanne, but ultimately if you want Rose on the birth certificate you should have it. :)

Flip

1 2 3

Swipe left for the next trending thread