Pregnant at 45, help please?

[DonnaLynne]

Found out in Friday that I'm 5 weeks pregnant, so 5 weeks and 3 days today. I'm 45! Thought I was menopausal! My OH has no children so he is absolutely over the moon, after a weekend of just feeling so happy and elated really I'm absolutely panicking today because I've had some mucus loss and cramping and I desperately want this baby. Anyone else had a similar experience? Anyone had a baby in their 40's? I have 3 grown up sons from a previous relationship. I know I'm extremely lucky to be pregnant at all but I want to hold on to this with every bit of me, help please ladies?

Congratulations OP, lovely story!

Blondes so pleased to hear about the arrival of your baby
(long, long term poster)

Thank you @danTDM 🤗

Hi donnalynn thank you for the reply, I'm going to be honest here, I miscarried back in 2001 I was 12wks+ according to the scan anyway.. but they couldn't even give me a reason why this happened? But everyone's not the same!! I think you'll be ok.. look at the positive side.. age has nothing to do with it as it's only a number. Tc. Please feel free to talk anytime. Xx

@Deborah70 I MC too, back in 1998, I was 10 weeks and it was between 2 of my sons, I had a bleed, had a scan, told the baby hadn't survived and told to go home and MC, I had no explanation and no support, no follow up appointment, I hope things are different these days🙁

Hi @Helbelle75 lovely to hear you have a new baby to love 💝I'm going to look into taking aspirin and thank you for your comment xx

Congratulations! My SIL gave birth at 49. For the first 5 months she had no idea she was pregnant, she thought she was going through the menopause. The baby is a happy, healthy and energetic 1 year old now, keeping SIL on her toes .

Don't dwell too much on all the negatives your hear about, while the risks are statistically higher for older mum's, the probability of having a healthy baby are far higher than not (if that makes sense ).

Aww thank you @Machine1234 that's a lovely story 😁she must have been bloody flabbergasted when she found out! I'm trying very hard to be optimistic, hearing things like this make it a bit easier 🤗

THank you @dan

Donnalynn I'm also 45 and 12 weeks +1 pregnant with my fourth! Got 3 grown up children 18, 19 and 21. I did miscarry last year at 6 weeks but so far so good this time. Had two scans already

Hi @twinkle1972 congratulations 🎉I'm so happy to be a mama again but I'm very very scared that I'll lose it, did you feel the same way? My symptoms aren't strong, sore boobs, sometimes less so, I want to feel sick and "pregnant" 😬I'm only 5 +5 and honestly can't remember how I felt in my last pregnancy which was 16 years ago! I've been to the doc today and have an appointment at the early pregnancy clinic on Monday. How are you feeling about your pregnancy? Xx

Hi donnalynne. The first trimester has been so worrying especially after the MC last year. I've also had some light bleeding hence the scans. I feel this is my last chance to be honest and am so excited yet anxious! Haven't told my kids yet either as worried about their reactions a bit. How are you today?

I feel like I'm in limbo at the moment @twinkle1972 😕I can't really put my mind to anything, everything is about the baby, feeling queasy today though which at least makes me feel like I'm pregnant, I had a walk around marks yesterday with my mum, looking at baby stuff (she's very excited) and I felt like a fraud 😬Why are you worried about telling your children? I was a bit worried too, but they were ok and I think all in all they are happy, my eldest told me that he thought I had a lot of "mama" left in me to give which I thought was lovely 😁I had a few bleeds when I was having my middle son, and I'd had a MC before him, so I know exactly what you mean, he was absolutely fine and I had an amazing birth with him, 12 weeks is a good place to get to, are you feeling a bit more at ease?

Donnalynne Yes I'm feeling a bit more relaxed now. 12+3 today, next scan on Monday 19th. Currently in Kos for a week, was booked before I got pregnant but it's actually been a nice break, home Sunday. This baby is not with my other 3 children's dad, I have a new partner, well it's been 2.5 years! Just think my daughter won't be too chuffed but think my boys will be fine. How are you feeling today?