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Casual remark by sonographer

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2bfather · 08/06/2017 20:54

At our 20 week scan today I asked the sonographer if she knew what the gender was (though we didn't necessarily want her to tell us). Her exact words were... welli thought I saw something... but I'd have to take a closer look. We were a bit out of appointment time so we said no thanks. But we are now intrigued by what she may have meant! Is "something" most likely to be a penis??

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Dede124 · 08/06/2017 21:02

'Something' could mean either or to me? Sounds like your hoping for a boy?! Haha :)

mummabearfoyrbabybears · 08/06/2017 21:12

No I don't think so. If anything a penis is harder to see at 20 weeks that a girl as the penis is very small and not really solid. A girl has three more distinct lines that is more easily seen even with the legs up. I wouldn't take anything from that. Congrats though Smile

bonzo77 · 08/06/2017 21:16

Very odd frankly. Part of the 20 week scan is to check development of the genitals (that they're forming a penis or vulva rather than hermaphroditism). I remember with my first the scan report listed all the things examined, like placental position: anterior, high, femur length: x mm, and genitals: normal.

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2bfather · 09/06/2017 00:47

Well I also would have thought they would have checked that. We did specifically ask not to be told. I just was curious to know whether she had let something slip

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DramaAlpaca · 09/06/2017 01:42

I asked the sonographer when I was having DC1 if she could see anything, even though I knew it was hospital policy not to tell. She told me she had better things to do than search around looking for willies Grin. I did wonder at the time if she was giving me a clue, and she might have been because DC1 turned out to be a boy. So maybe you were being told in code OP!

MadameJosephine · 09/06/2017 01:46

bonzo actually checking genitals is not part of the fetal anomaly screening programme so they would only be examined if the parents wanted to know fetal sex

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2bfather · 09/06/2017 05:04

Sounds like I shouldn't interpret her words either way anyway.

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mummabubs · 09/06/2017 07:23

I was just to say what MadameJosephine has just said- it's not part of the checks. Ours didn't see anything either at our request! :)

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 09/06/2017 07:30

Why did you ask what the sex what if you didn't want to know?

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2bfather · 09/06/2017 07:55

I didn't. I simply asked, out of interest, if SHE knew. I wasn't asking her to tell me the gender. But I did wonder if she had accidentally told me the answer. However from what people have been saying I don't think she did.

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ChardonnaysPrettySister · 09/06/2017 08:04

What difference would it make to you if she did know the sex?

Sorry, none of my business, I just don't understand why you would care whether she knew it.

Never mind.

randomsabreuse · 09/06/2017 08:07

In my region sexing scans are not permitted before 23 weeks and the sonographer was careful not to show that region because of the policy - DH was more interested in the fact you can ultrasound the brain in utero!

Isadora2007 · 09/06/2017 08:09

I think she gave you the correct answer to give someone who has specifically said "don't tell us"...

Unlike the dr I saw who scanned for breech presentation at 35/36 weeks and let slip he could "clearly see that's NOT the head" giving me the heads up DS was a S...

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2bfather · 09/06/2017 10:20

I asked her because I was fascinated by the process. She identified tiny blobs as specific organs and I was asking her because I was genuinely interested to know if she could see what gender my baby is.

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2bfather · 09/06/2017 10:20

By the day what is all this DH DS stuff?

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SirVixofVixHall · 09/06/2017 10:28

DH- dear/darling husband. DS - Darling Son etc etc.

NavyandWhite · 09/06/2017 10:31

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2bfather · 09/06/2017 10:35

That's what I would have thought but others have said if anything it's harder to see.

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RosePrincess87 · 09/06/2017 10:35

I had a similar experience with DC1. I waited until right at the end to ask and she basically said well it didn't look like a boy. I then paid for a private scan to find out. Paid for a private scan again this time anticipating the same experience, but sonographer was lovely this time.

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2bfather · 09/06/2017 12:36

Maybe you're just very good at spotting them?

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Lweji · 09/06/2017 12:40

saw the penis before the sonographer told me.

Me too. It was very clear.

I'm just not sure what's the point about asking anything about the sex if you don't want to know the sex. And then trying to interpret their words. It's as if you wanted to be told accidentally. :)

Just admit it. You do want to know.

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ememem84 · 09/06/2017 12:58

Ds to be was a bit of an exhibitionist. Even if we'd not wanted to find out we'd not have had a choice (other than to not look at the screen at all during the appointment). He seemed to like to flash his willy about!!

Luckily we wanted to find out if we could and weren't bothered either way!

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2bfather · 09/06/2017 15:03

If I'm honest I think I'd like a girl tbh but I'm sure I'll be happy either way.

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