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Just to let you know, apparantly.....

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Babyblues14 · 06/06/2017 15:00

Giving birth hurts!!!! Angry

Went to have my whooping cough injection yesterday. I'm not very confident with needles. Nurse seemed OK at first chatting about bump and then she suddenly stabbed the needle in my arm. Nothing to numb it or steralize it with. No warning.Took me a bit by surprise so I moaned in a bit of pain. It bloody hurt.

Her comment was that I needed to get over it as child birth hurts a lot more than a little needle Angry

I bloody know it will hurt, as if I'm not terrified enough, I don't need the comments to go with it.
Just wanted to rant and ask what comments people make that annoy you?

Also the sleep one.

I'm tired today.

Oh just wait til the baby comes you wont have any sleep then Hmm

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starsinyourpies · 06/06/2017 15:11

Not sure I've ever had my arm numbed for an injection but she does sound a bit mean!

Pinkjellybeans · 06/06/2017 15:12

I think it's just one of those automatic phrases we seem to have built into us for when we can't be bothered to actually think of a responce. There's alot I can think of, you will always get them when having small talk, over and over again! I must admit I use them alot now too!

lilyborderterrier · 06/06/2017 15:12

How nice of her 😯 it's not that bad, my theory is that if pregnancy, childbirth and little babies was that bad, the human race would have stopped producing !
I can't say my first pregnancy was a blast, nor the birth or the first 6 months either but my 4.5 year old has just come downstairs given me a cuddle and said she loves me so I think I've coped ok !
Plus I'm 6months pregnant with our 2nd so I'm giving it another go !!!

Hope you are doing ok today x blame the horrid weather !

CowParsleyNettle · 06/06/2017 15:21

Being pregnant is worse than childbirth IMO, no one is ever in labour for 9 months.

(I found the barrage of injections I required in labour took my mind off the pain!)

lemon20 · 06/06/2017 15:25

When I was pregnant had needles after needles never had any numbing cream but severe bruising by one lady as she was rude! Plus child birth isn't that bad just feels like bad period pains! I did it natural I can assure you waxing hurts more GrinBlush

ep1987 · 06/06/2017 15:41

I'm currently 7 weeks with baby no 4. I had middle child and current youngest with zero pain relief and I CAN NOT tell you what labour feels like because the second my DC were put in my arms I forgot! I even had a PPH with DS (2nd pregnancy) and still came back for more!😂.

kingfishergreen · 06/06/2017 15:42

The competitive misery of childbirth/parenting is something you kinda have to phase-out, nod and smile and ignore.

I remember well people telling me how I'd never sleep again, never have a cup of hot coffee, never have a tidy house, never have brunch with friends, never do anything I like ever again, and you know what... it's fine.

Ditto childbirth, I had a shitty one (I'll spare you the details), but it was fine, I hardly remember it (seven months ago).

Smile, nod, ignore.

Lemondrop99 · 06/06/2017 16:15

Anybody ever wonder WHY childbirth hurts? And why you have to push something so big out of something so small? I'm mean seriously, there seems no biological reasons for it to hurt Hmm Surely, biologically, it would be better if having babies was like shelling peas as women would be more inclined to have more?!

Gooseygoosey12345 · 06/06/2017 16:37

That injection hurts... my arm ached for a week! And I've already got children...
Obviously child birth hurts but at least you're expecting it rather than being jabbed out of the blue

mortificado · 06/06/2017 16:59

Lemon I agree!
Although I'd love to just be a chicken, sneeze pop an egg out and sit on it! Grin

blue2014 · 06/06/2017 17:08

I slept better after the baby was born by the way

ethelfleda · 06/06/2017 17:57

People are wankers and I wish they'd keep their comments to themselves. Besides... your body is built to give birth (And releases hormones to help you cope apparently) it is not designed to have a needle jabbed in it 😊

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Babyblues14 · 06/06/2017 18:21

Lol agreed Ethel

I'm not scared of child birth, I'm scared of needles especially surprise ones. At least I can prepare for baby coming Grin

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ethelfleda · 06/06/2017 18:38

Plus, when you're in labour you will have plenty of support and people won't be able to do enough for you... Nobody will stand there saying "well I did tell you it would hurt" and if they do, you are quite within your rights to punch them in the throat.

Lemondrop99 · 06/06/2017 18:45

Yes mortificado! Or pop it out at the size of a jellybean and grow it in a pouch. Seriously, kangaroos have got the right idea. Humans are badly designed

jmscp2015 · 06/06/2017 18:46

I think the theory behind it was probably well meaning. Some nurses/ midwifes/ doctors just think it's better to surprise you then it's all over and done with and you're not thinking about it! Which of course is ok for some people and not for others!

But the comment.. very rude and not needed! Hmm

londonloves · 06/06/2017 19:04

My fave of this pregnancy so far... "stop crying it's harming your baby". From a midwife with a serious case of compassion failure. After being told my blood test had been lost for the third time and the wait for any perinatal mental health intervention was likely to be 15 weeks...

ethelfleda · 06/06/2017 19:06

londonloves that's horrific!! You poor thing! And here is me feeling sorry for myself after my worst comment being that I was getting a fat neck!
Hope you're feeling better now?

NapQueen · 06/06/2017 19:08

I counted no less than 26 needles in my second pregnancy, in comparison to 3 in my first. If the nurse had come out with nonsense like that to me I would have been furious! As it was second labour was a fucking breeze, he practically swam out.

Redsippycup · 06/06/2017 19:11

I wondered that lemon! Pain is a warning something is wrong, surely?!

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Babyblues14 · 06/06/2017 19:12

I feel like screaming sometimes.
Fell on some stairs a few weeks ago, went to antenatal unit just to be sure. Everything was fine but Dp decided that I shouldnt work anywhere with stairs.
I'm a carer and most people live in houses. I dont think he realized how unreasonable he was being. Just worried but it took days to talk him round. Just wish everyone would stop with advice even for a day, it never ends. And working with elderly people means they have their fair share of advice and old wives tales too Grin

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londonloves · 06/06/2017 19:25

Yes thanks Ethel, but no thanks to any input from the health service sadly. But I'm sure everything is going to be fine.
I'm pretty bird if people commenting on bump size and what I'm eating all the time but it seems to be standard :-/

ethelfleda · 06/06/2017 20:09

It seems to be standard to comment on a pregnant woman's appearance/choices like it never is for anyone else. It's odd.

ArchieStar · 06/06/2017 23:13

I had an injection to get the placenta out quicker (for whatever reason) with DD1, I squealed and said "ow!!! That hurt!!" That loudly my DM said "really? You've just given birth and it was THAT that hurt?" Needles are mean!

SecretFreebirther · 07/06/2017 00:07

I think the pain (of labour) is to give you some indication of what is about to happen so you can retreat to safety (cave? behind a bush?) away from prowling animals etc....not sure where I heard that though!

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