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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

So scared about scan tomorrow.

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BibiThree · 06/03/2007 21:16

Just need to get it all out, sorry if I ramble a bit. On one hand I'm so stressed I can't wait for tomorrow to come, and on the other I never want it to come. Bit of background: I'm 16 weeks pg with twins, I have a dd who is 2.5 and 18 months ago had a missed m/c at 16 weeks. I'm having a quite a high risk pg this time, twins being mc/ma, hence the scan at 16 weeks and fortnightly from now on, but that's another story.

Up until a week ago I was mildly dreading the 16 weeks scan, but I had a healthy mix of scared and excited. As this week has progressed I've got more and more tense, am having horribly vivid and nasty anxiety dreams, terrible headaches and am just in a foul, explosive mood. Most of the time I'm convinced tomorrow is going to be a repeat of last time, and I'll be told that one or both of my babies is dead.

Last time, after about 14 weeks I felt amazing, all symptoms left me and now I know it was because I wasn't pg anymore, not because I was in the 2nd trimester. This time, although I'm having some symptoms still, I'm scared the same thing has happened or that just one baby has died. I also don't know what will happen to the live baby if one has died as they share a placenta and amniotic sac, and I'm generally just a bag of nerves.

I'm finding it so hard to believe that everything will be fine and I'll have a great scan tomorrow. I obvioulsy want that to be the case but feel so negative, like I'm preparing myself for the worst.

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Dior · 06/03/2007 21:17

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BandofMothers · 06/03/2007 21:19

I really hope everything goes well. Fingers crossed.

lissielou · 06/03/2007 21:22

good luck!

berolina · 06/03/2007 21:22

Will be thinking of you tomorrow, and I'm sorry for your previous loss. The odds really are that everything will be fine this time. I've had three mcs and you just don't go to scans full of innocent joy any more - I always go with a little bit of myself braced, prepared for the worst. Hope you have a wonderful look at your babies tomorrow.

danceswithnewboots · 06/03/2007 21:22

And from me. It sounds like all your concerns are totally understandable based on your previous experience but we instinctively do this 'fearing the worst' to prepare and protect ourselves, I'm sure everything will be fine tomorrow. Good luck and let us know.

BibiThree · 06/03/2007 21:27

Thanks guys. I know i'd be saying the very same things as you if it was my best friend in my position, it's just so hard to feel positive. Even though I had a bleed last time as an indicator, i'd bled with dd too and it had turned out to be nothing, so went into the scan not suspecting anything would be wrong at all.

I'm sorry to hear about your mcs Berolina. I didn't think I'd be strong enough to try again after one, it's amazing how - well, amazing - women are.

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maisym · 06/03/2007 21:30

I've had scary scans - be kind to yourself - make sure you're breathing normally and tell the doc/nurse how you feel. I asked the doc to tell me straight away anything. Best wishes xxx

hoxtonchick · 06/03/2007 21:33

i'll be thinking of you tomorrow b3 .

Biglips · 06/03/2007 21:36

bibi - didnt u used to be on the Oct 04 postnatal thread??

anyway congrats and fingers cross for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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BibiThree · 06/03/2007 21:47

Yes I was on Oct 04 thread, probably as BibiBoo then. I'll try to keep my chin up tomorrow and dh will be there so I won't be alone.

Will report back.
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lizziemun · 06/03/2007 22:41

Good Luck for tomorrow Bibithree.

I know what you mean about something being wrong, i had a mc June 06, and am now 14 weeks pg when i had my scan last friday i did a test in the morning just to make sure it was still positive, although like you i am still have some symtons.

Hopeitwontbebig · 07/03/2007 10:50

Good luck with your scan today BibiThree, hope it all goes well for you.

throckenholt · 07/03/2007 10:59

fingers crossed you will be told they can now see a dividing membrane between your twins - and then you can relax a bit more. Just seeing them on the scan will really help - especially if you can't feel much movement (I often couldn't feel anything even though I could see them leaping about on the scan pictures).

Come over to the \link{ www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1216&threadid=264775\twins thread} for moral support - it is for pregnant twin mums as well as the rest o fus "oldtimers".

throckenholt · 07/03/2007 11:01

oops - not sure why that didn't work first time

twins thread

MrsMcJnr · 07/03/2007 11:50

Bibithree - poor you, the waiting game is horrible and I know exactly what you mean about wanting the scan day to come and not wanting it at the same time. I only 9+3 but have a scan on Friday to assess viability, we were told last week and the one before that we had 50/50 chance. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed and will look eagerly for good news from you.

BibiThree · 07/03/2007 13:08

Fab news ladies - the sonographer found a dividing membrane and was pretty certain there was one there! Phew! It doesn't mean we're out fo the danger zone but it's one weight off my mind for the time being.

Both babies are fine and dandy, within seconds she'd said there were 2 heartbeats and the whole mood lifted, from then on it was watching my babies play - I've got wild one and a chilled one, and both look the right size etc.

Thanks for all your messages of support, reading some positive things kept me sane last night!!!

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MrsMar · 07/03/2007 13:12

Hi Bibi, that's great news about your scan. I hope all continues to go well. I've got my first scan tomorrow for my first baby, and I'm terrified that they'll find something wrong, no reason, I haven't had any symptoms, but I keep reading about missed miscarriages, and I scares the bejesus out of me, so I totally understand where your fears came from.

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throckenholt · 07/03/2007 13:15

yay - that's great news.

It is still scary being pregnant with id twins - but there are lots of us who came through unscathed. It is a real privilege having id twins

maisym · 07/03/2007 13:18

great news xxx

MrsMcJnr · 07/03/2007 14:05

So pleased for you, great news!

MrsMar - hope it goes well

MrsMar · 07/03/2007 14:06

Thanks so much for that mrsmcjnr.... I'll post tomorrow.

Dior · 07/03/2007 14:18

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Biglips · 07/03/2007 14:20

YIPPEE!!!! so made up for yer now you can relax now as youre out of danger....

have u told your dd yet? or not yet?

hoxtonchick · 07/03/2007 17:34

fab

BibiThree · 07/03/2007 21:36

I haven't stopped smiling all day.

Yes dd knows all about "her" babies and how she's going to be a BIIIIIIIIIIG sister. She's more excited by the fact that I told her she'd be nearly 3 when they came and could have a party for her birthday - now she thinks they babies are going to make her 3 and give her a party.

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