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Overdue, I can't due this anymore

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Bluebellevergreen · 20/02/2017 13:48

Already a week overdue. I can't possibly put into words how I am feeling.
Had an argument with DH (my fault) because I am a fucking nightmate to be around.
I am building so much resentment towards this baby it is unreal.

I didnt want to be induced but I feel that this baby will never come or I will lose the plot completely by then.

I feel so mad at my body and the baby for putting me through this.

I am so angry you wouldnt believe it!

I just want him out of my body NOW

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Gallavich · 20/02/2017 16:43

Light relief?

Chinnychinnychinnychib · 20/02/2017 16:45

You realise you're going to have to do a live birth thread now, don't you?!
Don't worry too much about your mental health by the way. Everyone feels terrible/anxious/furious when they're overdue - it doesn't necessarily mean you're going downhill, honestly.

Cwtchythings · 20/02/2017 16:48

Evergreen, just popping on to say that I was induced with my first and it went very calmly and quickly, to the point I almost forget to tell people it was an induction because I forget that bit! It's not necessarily something to be very fearful about. However your baby makes an appearance I hope it is soon for you, here's some Flowers and lots of cervix opening thoughts Grin

Picklesandpies · 20/02/2017 16:49

I feel for you. I was 11 days late with dd1. I remember sitting in the bath crying the morning before the night I went into labour. I just didn't know what to do with myself. In the end dh and I drove miles away to test drive a car. The salesman's face was a picture when he asked me when I was due and the answer was '10 days ago.' He drove us back to showroom quicker than you could say 'soggy car seat'!

usernoidea · 20/02/2017 16:50

Hi op
I have bipolar and gave birth 5 months ago
I was absolutely at my lowest after a week overdue and was eventually induced (which I was totally against) BUT it was a case of needs must as I was contracting every 6 mins for 4 days before that
There's an end in sight and make use of all the support you can get. This is a mind fuck but you will get through this
Lots of luck my lovely x

Ohyesiam · 20/02/2017 16:54

Op, I s 10 days overdue, saw an acupuncturist, went into labour that evening.
Just do it! Flowers

EggInABap · 20/02/2017 17:00

Blue I'm also a week over and due to be induced on Sat. I've been crying all day- and I haven't cried at all throughout this pregnancy. I'm also suffering with excruciating piles. It honestly feels like torture right now I can barely walk, sitting is uncomfortable, standing is uncomfortable, laying is uncomfortable. But that's no reflection on how wanted this baby is. We are allowed to be pissed off and get mad. I had a second failed sweep today. I honestly thought baby would be here by now, I'm so fed up.

Hang on in there, I'm with you. Not much else we can do right?

EggInABap · 20/02/2017 17:00

Blue I'm also a week over and due to be induced on Sat. I've been crying all day- and I haven't cried at all throughout this pregnancy. I'm also suffering with excruciating piles. It honestly feels like torture right now I can barely walk, sitting is uncomfortable, standing is uncomfortable, laying is uncomfortable. But that's no reflection on how wanted this baby is. We are allowed to be pissed off and get mad. I had a second failed sweep today. I honestly thought baby would be here by now, I'm so fed up.

Hang on in there, I'm with you. Not much else we can do right?

user1475072423 · 20/02/2017 17:05

I really wanted to avoid induction too and I became very upset and anxious the more overdue I became. In the end I was induced and my baby was born 16 days past his due date and you know what? I now feel that if I was pregnant again induction wouldn't be a concern at all. The baby was and is healthy, and so am l. Good luck OP, I hope the support on this thread is a help to you.

Mumchatting · 20/02/2017 17:07

Your baby will be here soon :) I was 13 days overdue with my DD, it can be very emotional and frustrating. The more overdue I was, the more I accepted the situation - that's how it was meant to be.

alltouchedout · 20/02/2017 17:11

Oh I remember that feeling, I had ds1 at 42+1 following induction by pessary. (That pessary was the only intervention I needed, so if you're worrying that induction means it will be an intervention heavy birth, it really doesn't have to.) From due date on I basically spent all my time waiting for labour to just fecking start, by the time I was 10 days over I was either sleeping or shouting at people or crying. I totally get where you are right now!

Hollyhop17 · 20/02/2017 17:12

I really feel for you evergreen. I suffer from a mental health condition and having HH has made me so much worse. I really, really dont enjoy being pregnant. You are not alone. I really hope it goes well on Sunday and well done for what you have achieved so far. Please ignore hurtful messages, being pregnant is hard without throwing mental health into the mix. Hugs

Hollyhop17 · 20/02/2017 17:12

*Having HG

Notanotherpawpatrol · 20/02/2017 17:22

Blue, I started reading your post and totally understood. I don't have anything to add so was just going to click away, but after expecto's post Hmm I thought I probably should.
I had and with my first and still had pnd when I got pregnant with my 2nd (they are 14 months apart) when I got to the 37 week mark with my second I was ready for the pregnancy to be over. I needed my body back, but she made me go to 41 weeks and I hated every minute of it. Yes I resented my baby. Yes I'd even go as far to say I hated her. I just wanted the thing out of my body. I cried and cried and cried every day.
On the day of my 41 week midwife appointment, I literally burst into tears and ended up in a crumpled mess when she examined me (to give me a sweep) and said there wasn't much point. She very quickly had to explain that I was already 6cm and needed to phone the hospital and head in!
My dd2 is now 5 and I love her more than life itself. I'll be honest and say the resentment stayed for a couple of weeks after birth, but people with depression are ill, and need to recover. It's an illness. I know you live your baby and I have no doubt you will be an amazing mum. Hang in there. From a mum that knows, I wish I could come and give you the biggest hug right now, run you a bath and get you some tea and chocolate. I'm so sorry you are fighting this illness xx

Notanotherpawpatrol · 20/02/2017 17:23

Oh and about the inductions, my 1st and 3rd were inductions and were the best births! Don't fear it, it might be a good experience, don't be afraid to ask as many questions as you want :)

Lunalovepud · 20/02/2017 17:24

Gallavich that video is ace. Grin

RandomMess · 20/02/2017 17:26

Have you got an induction date booked in yet? I really found that helped, with my 3rd & 4th I had my induction date about 16 weeks as for some reason it helped having some bit of certainty!

Flowers
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Bluebellevergreen · 20/02/2017 17:37

Oh wow so many people that have been through this!
I thought I was the only one in constant tears and yes I have also screamed the "get him out now!!"

That video is good but she does not have PGP does she!

I was okish this morning then I started thinking about it then I went downhill.

I think that if I was pregnant again (never doing this again) I would just add 3 weeks to the stupid EDD.

Everything crossed for some movement here but I doubt it.

I can have a sweep on Thursday. I said I didnt want to but now I am changing my mind and will have it.

It would have been so different if he had come out by 40 weeks ☹️
Plus I went on maternity leave at 33, and I am so mad at all the time I have wasted! Already 8 weeks :-(

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Sienna9522 · 20/02/2017 17:43

Expect that was horrible! Completely no need!

Badders123 · 20/02/2017 17:47

Just to warn you...when I had my sweep (on the Monday) I was already 1cm dilated and the dr could see Ds2s hair 😀
He still didn't bloody come out til they broke my waters on the Thursday.
So...you know...it can be very favourable and still not happen
Don't panic!

GinIsIn · 20/02/2017 18:06

Just back from my second sweep - FUN!! Was meant to be being induced today but the ward was too busy.

I completely get the resentment thing - I just told my brother I am going to force this baby to become an obstetrician so he can make amends to pregnant women for his entire adult life!

I also have terrible fear and nerves - I'm fed up of being pregnant but terrified of actually being responsible for the existence of another human being!

Oh, and Expecto - ODFOD Biscuit

GinIsIn · 20/02/2017 18:07

And re sweeps - I was already 3cm dilated this afternoon so they can have good results!

Notanotherpawpatrol · 20/02/2017 18:33

With DS I had 3 sweeps and the day I was due to be induced I was already in labour when I got to the hospital! Contractions were sporadic so they put the pessary in, within 10 minutes it was out and I was on my way to delivery. (Yes I did get pregnant again after my awful expiearience with dd2....And I'm currently 31weeks pregnant again!! Shock)
Have you taken any evening primrose oil? After dd2, I was terrified of going over due again and came across the benefits of epo on the cervix. It's worth a Google even if you decide shoving a couple of tablets up your bag isn't for you!! 😂😂 (You can also take it orally, but going up as close to your cervix as possible will bring about the best results!)

Gallavich · 20/02/2017 18:42

No, she's a singer/dancer and former madonna tribute act so more blessed than most of us. She wrote elsewhere that she got horrendous pnd right after their baby was born and it took a long time to upload the video and feel ok about things. So it's light relief but also a reminder that you're not alone in having hard times Flowers

thereisnocheese · 20/02/2017 18:57

Op I went fifteen days late - yes fifteen days late with no labour signs and I feel your frustration. Talk to midwife or consultant and see what they can offer you. I had a planned section in the end as baby was enormous and I wasn't going into labour. Good luck and let us know how it goes!