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some bad news today at the epu

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hotchoc · 26/02/2007 18:49

hi again, went for a scan this morning, thinking i was about 9 weeks, the scan showed about 6 weeks or so. i was given the info on what to expect over the next few days and i have to go for another scan next monday to confirm no growth. my head is fuzz, i have read the other threads about the dating being unreliable sometimes but i feel that this pg is probably over, this waiting is ghastly. feeling sad hotchoc

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MrsMar · 26/02/2007 18:52

Hello Hotchoc, so sorry to hear your news. My sister had a very similar situation, and she said the waiting was terrible. I hope you find the strength you need to face whatever may come. (((((hugs)))))

mumtogusnalbie · 26/02/2007 19:23

Hotchoc - this is an awful situation. I went through the same with my first pregnancy. I went for a 12 week scan to be told it was only the size of 6 weeks and probably a "discontinuing pregnancy". It is a really hard thing to come to terms with and not helped by my mum saying "are you sure they got it right?". For me, it felt right to accept that the pregnancy was over and after a week I went back for another acan and was booked in for a D & C the next day. I am really sorry that this is happening to you but the good news is I went on to have 2 healthy baby boys who are now 4.8 and 2.10. Do you have children already?
Please try and be strong - do whatever you have to to get through this next week and then be kind to yourself until you are ready to try again. xxxx

MrsFish · 26/02/2007 20:18

Sending you big hugs Hotchoc - so sorry to hear your news, I went for a dating scan at 12 weeks in October, the growth showed 8 weeks and 6 days and no heartbeat it is very sad but have hope for the future, I am pregnant again and awaiting my first scan on 13th March.

Lemmiwinks · 26/02/2007 23:04

I'm so sorry, hotchoc That's so stressful. Did they not get a heartbeat on the scan either? I hope you don't mind me asking.. It's really awful not knowing what to expect b/c they can't give you a definite answer until your next scan. I'm sorry I can't be of more help, but I'm thinking of you.

harpsichordcarrier · 26/02/2007 23:06

hotchoc sorry to read this
just try to be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes.
do you have anyone to support you? are you working?

plummymummy · 27/02/2007 09:06

Sorry to hear this hotchoc. Similar thing happened to me in December. Was 7 weeks and it only measured 5. Then went on to miscarry and it lasted 3 weeks. The waiting is the worst bit. I know everyone is different, but now I am ttc again and feeling much less sad. Getting that first period after the miscarriage was an important milestone. Take care of yourself. I had a major tantrum whilst going through the miscarriage. I picked up a toilet roll and threw it around the toilet a few times. Felt much better afterwards. Let yourself express what you need to xx

colditz · 27/02/2007 09:10

According to my dates with ds2 I was 8.5 weeks pregnant when I was actually only six. And I bled a lot too.

Please don't lose hope just yet. Did you see a heartbeat?

But I am so sorry you are going through this.

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hotchoc · 27/02/2007 09:15

thanks for all your kind words, mentally gearing up for a particularily large period, that's how i am thinking of it anyway. got work tomorrow and thursday, think i will go rather than sitting waiting for something to happen, they do not know i am /was pregnant but i will cross that bridge if i have to, they are all lovely at work.
there was no mention of a heartbeat at all.
i do have 2 fabulous boys already, 5 and 7 so there are a great comfort. no idea whether i will try again, need to get the next stage over first.

thanks again for the support, hotchocx

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MrsMcJnr · 27/02/2007 10:03

Oh Hotchoc, I really, really, really feel for you. I had a scan on Friday, thought I was 7+5 and was pretty clear of my dates and they told me the sac was measuring 6 weeks max. I have to go back on 7/3 but the waiting is awful isn?t it. Were they really as cut and dry with you? I?m surprised, they gave me a 50/50 chance. I really hope that it?s good news against the odds on Monday. Remember in the meantime that your body is still pregnant regardless of the condition of the foetus and all the hormones and everything are still there so be kind to yourself.

Hillbilly · 27/02/2007 10:23

Sorry to hear this Hotchoc. It's very distressing. I know that I found my ds to be great comfort after my mc last summer.
Look after yourself.

Juicylucytoo · 27/02/2007 13:54

So sorry Hocchoc. Happened to me last May. The waiting is awful. In my case I was very sure of my dates, so knew that it was over after the first scan, but still had to wait a week for another one before they would confirm it.

Did they give you options if the second scan is as you expect? I opted for an ERPC. You may want to wait for a natural mc.

Hope you get a pleasant surprise on Monday.

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MrsFish · 27/02/2007 17:20

I am a little surprised about people having second scans to confirm, I was told at my 12 week scan that my dates were 8+6 and that it was the end of the pregnancy even though I had no bleeding at all up to then. I went in 3 days later and had an ERPC (best way imo)

luxlife · 27/02/2007 17:43

mrfish, some cases do require second scan as what they saw wasnt a definite answer. its not all that they know for sure whats going on, which seemed to be your case.

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hotchoc · 27/02/2007 20:02

thanks for all the thoughts, been light period type bleeding since yesterday morning. I'm not feeling very positive now though I am trying hard to hope for a mistake somewhere along the line. managing to keep doing this and that to keep busy, work tomorrow so that will keep me out of trouble! good to know that so many of you have gone on to have other babies after this happening, hopefully that will be me soon, took forever to get pg this time.I have actually been ok today; the gloom and doom has just come over me!! good to express feelings here. that's it hotchocx

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MrsFish · 27/02/2007 20:46

Fingers crossed for you hotchoc xx

Luxlife - I suppose so, i guess I just thought that if they can pinpoint your dates so exactly, they would know the other stuff definitely too.

bumperlicious · 27/02/2007 20:55

Not been in your position hotchoc but thinking of you. Hope everything works out for you, and if it doesn't i hope you have all the support around you that you need.

PurpleLostPrincess · 27/02/2007 22:28

(((((hugs))))))

Juicylucytoo · 27/02/2007 22:39

Hotchoc, is the bleeding light or dark in colour?

I had light bleeding (dark in colour) in my missed mc AND my subsequent (so far successful 27wk) pregnancy at around 6 weeks. Don't want to get your hopes up, but there are other possible reasons for it. In my case I think it would be described as an implantation bleed.

MrsMcJnr · 28/02/2007 10:29

Hotchoc ? you are being incredibly brave and I?m rooting for you. I?m a big believer in the positive and that hope is getting me through the wait but I know we are all different and find different ways to cope x

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hotchoc · 01/03/2007 20:09

Hi all, sad to say i have had bright red heavy bleeding for 2 days now and i think my hope has gone.
i have been at work which may sound strange but i was glad to be occupied and normal, did not tell my colleagues.
my head is not so fuzzy now and i am starting to compute/rationalise what has happened.
just read somewhere a bath is not a good idea in my situation, what do you think of that?
sorry to be so grim - does anyone know how long this bleeding lasts and when could i try again?

mrsmcjnr, i so hope you are ok at the scan next week, let me know please, i am crossing everything still for you.

thanks for all the lovely comments. xhotchocx

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Lemmiwinks · 01/03/2007 20:53

I'm so sorry to hear that hotchoc I think being busy and trying to go about a "normal" routine can be very cathartic. The familiarity of doing every day things can be very comforting. I really hope with each day things seem a little easier. In regards to some of your questions, there's a wonderful site I found that should answer everyone of them. Here's the link www.miscarriagesupport.org.nz/health.html
I hope it's of some help to you. I just want to wish you my condolences and let you know I'm thinking of you.

plummymummy · 01/03/2007 21:31

Hotchoc - really sad to hear your news I had a hot bath but without any products in the water. I found it helped a lot. Think they say no baths due to infection risk but maybe someone else will know more. Sorry to ask, but are you convinced this is a m/c? Only be careful with hot baths just in case. My bleeding went on for 3 weeks it was not heavy beyond the first week. I hope it doesn't go on too long for you. It is so horrible

kwebek · 01/03/2007 21:39

So sorry to hear this

MrsFish · 02/03/2007 15:32

So sorry to hear this hotchoc {hugs}xx

Mumpbump · 02/03/2007 15:39

Hotchoc - sorry to hear about this... If it is a m/c, the bleeding can last for quite a while. I think someone on here bled for almost 6 weeks. I only bled for about a week the first time and only a couple of days afterwards the second time.

I don't know if a bath is good or bad if you're m/c, but it definitely isn't good if you are pg so if there is any chance at all that you might still be (ie. if you haven't passed any large clots or meaty looking lumps - sorry if tmi!) then I would avoid it until you can have your scan on Monday to confirm what is happening.

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