some bad news today at the epu

[hotchoc]

hi again, went for a scan this morning, thinking i was about 9 weeks, the scan showed about 6 weeks or so. i was given the info on what to expect over the next few days and i have to go for another scan next monday to confirm no growth. my head is fuzz, i have read the other threads about the dating being unreliable sometimes but i feel that this pg is probably over, this waiting is ghastly. feeling sad hotchoc

Hotchoc ? sorry to hear that hon, horrible for you you can shout at me if you like for being positive in the face of adversity but please keep hope alive, you just never know. I started to bleed quiet heavily last night, DH and I were convinced that was the end of our baby and we were in pieces and hardly slept. It stopped and started a few times today. I called the EPU and they did a scan this afternoon and in spite of the bleeding, the sac is still there, bigger than last week and there are no masses or fluids in my womb. We still only have a 50/50 chance as no HB yet but they told me at the EPU that the bleeding can be caused by many things unrelated to the baby and more about you. Hang on in there, have you called your local hospital again for advice on the bleeding? I have to say, they were more worried about what the loss of blood might be doing to me and how I was feeling physically. Huge hugs x

hi all, just back from the hospital and i am sad to say i will be joining the ttc board soon. the good news is that i do not have to go into hospital for any procedures, everything has happened and cleared naturally. i knew that it was over on Wednesday by then the boobs had deflated and i had lost weight round the tum (not enough though!!!!) i had stopped feeling pregnant. the bleeding has subsided and i am feeling like a dark cloud has been lifted and i can go forward now. so glad i kept everything normal, just my way i suppose. dh very confused and seems more perplexed than me about trying again because he cannot go through a m/c again iyswim.
mrsmcjnr, it all sounds so much more promising for you and i will keep nipping back to hear how you are, maybe i will be back here soon. hope so.
thanks again for all your support and helpful comments. xhotchocx

Hotchoc ? I am so sorry that was the outcome and that you have to start again. I can appreciate why you are so relieved that it all happened naturally and I understand why you feel relief now. The not knowing is agony isn?t it?

I guess I am trying to prepare myself for being told that too. DH doesn?t think my boobs have deflated but I?m not sure, they do still hurt but I?ve lost 4 pounds in weight since Friday, normally I would be delighted but not in these circumstances.

I hope it happens for you again soon and that you can put this behind you and grow stronger from it, you sound like a really practical person so I?m sure that will help but know this too that some believe that the soul of the child you are meant to have keeps coming back to you until they are born to you so I like to believe that these angels don?t get lost, they just come back again in a different, better body

Sorry to hear your news, you are being very brave. I feel for your dh - mine too was frightened of the future in case it resulted in more bad news (which sometimes made me think he didn't want another baby). It took me a while to realise that it was really tough for him as well. He was the one giving all the support and being there through the worst times; yet nobody (family, friends or colleagues) noticed that he was going through a really bad time too. Lots of love to both of you. x