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MenopauseMaud · 21/01/2017 16:32

I am feeling really stupid and confused....

Am 45 and went through what I assumed was peri menopause and then menopause in the last year... Blood tests confirmed peri and then my last period was in May. POAS then, just to be sure - was negative and just assumed menopause had arrived. Didn't go to doctor as was feeling really good (after HORROR peri symptoms everything just calmed down). Also important to add DH and I didn't have sex from May until September as he was posted overseas (army).

We married when I was 40.. Tried to conceive for 4 years and then when the peri started we both accepted it wasn't to be.

Anyway, last maybe 8 weeks upper abdomen has progressively grown in size and hardness making me LOOK seriously pregnant...like about six months gone. no weight gain anywhere else, no other pregnancy symptoms at all apart from this and I just stupidly assumed it was middle aged weight gain and have been trying very unsuccessfully to shift it.

So....it hasn't shifted...so tonight-just to rule it out - I POAS... A VERY old stick I found at the back of a drawer ...expired I think? And the result is below. Is that positive? How can it be positive if so? Can an expired test give a false positive? Can menopause hormones give a false positive? Can cancer? Am I just seeing an evaporation line?

Obviously need to do another (non expired) test/see a doctor ... But none of that can happen until tomorrow so I have turned to mumsnet. Honestly, I don't think i CAN be pregnant so what is going on?????

Help - is this actually possible ?
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Afreshstartplease · 23/01/2017 16:09

What a shock this must have been! Hope all is well op

FellOutOfBed2wice · 23/01/2017 16:17

Oh my God! What a thread!! Fingers crossed OP.

spencerreidswife · 23/01/2017 16:21

Hope you are ok oFlowers

Ilovewillow · 23/01/2017 16:29

Hope that it was the best news for you today!

Lovelilies · 23/01/2017 16:32

How did it go at the doctors, @MenopauseMaud?

clementineorange · 23/01/2017 16:53

Wow! Congratulations OP!

Mrs5boys · 23/01/2017 17:24

Still no news?? 😬😬😬😬

Sparrowlegs248 · 23/01/2017 17:32

Hope all is well op, what a surprise!

ShouldIBuyOrShouldIGo · 23/01/2017 17:32

How exciting Flowers Op!

2ducks2ducklings · 23/01/2017 17:40

I hope everything went ok today Flowers

tixixlixvix86 · 23/01/2017 17:46

Hoping for the result you're after! Grin

DragonMamma · 23/01/2017 17:51

Still no news?!

Bibblewanda · 23/01/2017 17:53

Op isn't obliged to update.

MenopauseMaud · 23/01/2017 17:54

Sorry for the wait - will keep it short as have been perfecting my 'deer in headlights' look all evening. Shocked doesn't even BEGIN to describe my state of mind... Not quite sure I have processed it yet.

Scan and blood tests say about 16/17 weeks (I look about 60 weeks ...but will be happy to stop having to suck it in...and also to legitimately buy some trousers that will fit - last month has been a struggle!) and all looks surprisingly well - about a gazillion tests ahead though...so I remain cautious. Loving the geriatric primgravida term....not! Will accept geriatric primadonna though.

It's funny how in retrospect the symptoms have all been there: that three week 'flu' where I was throwing up all the time; the extreme jet lag that took me 3 weeks to get over; the aversion to wine (I gave it up...now THAT was TOTALLY out of character!). I had totally accepted it wasn't going to happen and had very much made my peace with that so I wasn't really looking for any symptoms at all.

Contrast that to when we were actively ttc and my symptom spotting was so acute that if I broke a nail I would be off to google 'broken nail early pregnancy symptom'... But there was never even a late period to deal with in 4 years.

Anyway, I genuinely appreciate each and every thought on this thread - I didn't expect so many responses and I am definitely not a person who seeks attention so I will probably not be updating on this thread again... ( I did figure I owed you all this update though and thank you so much for the positive support, I hadn't spoken to anyone in real life so mumsnet has been fantastic. Thank you)

For those trying in their 40s I really really hope for success for you too x

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NetflixandBill · 23/01/2017 17:56

Congratulations!!

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 23/01/2017 17:57

FlowersFlowersFlowers!!!!!!!

thereinmadnesslies · 23/01/2017 17:57

Congratulations. Such lovely news

drinkyourmilk · 23/01/2017 17:57

Maud what fantastic news!
Many congratulations, I hope you have an easy boring pregnancy Flowers

TwentyCups · 23/01/2017 17:58

I'm so pleased for you!! Wishing you a happy pregnancy! Have you been able to tell DP yet?

BertieBotts · 23/01/2017 17:59

How amazing, what a lovely story!

DH was also a "surprise, not menopause after all!" baby :)

There will be a July babies thread in antenatal support groups (under becoming a parent in topic list) if you feel like continuing the lovely MN support without wanting to be the "star" of a thread.

blueskyinmarch · 23/01/2017 18:00

Oh that is the best update I have ever seen. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and I wish you and your family all the very best for the future.

AboutTimeIsh · 23/01/2017 18:01

Ahhhhh yeaaaaaaaahhhh!!!!
What magnificent news - best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy and wishing you all lots of happiness

heateallthebuns · 23/01/2017 18:01

Awww congratulations! What a lovely thing to happen!!!!

ShouldIBuyOrShouldIGo · 23/01/2017 18:02

Congratulations!!!!!!

ittooshallpass · 23/01/2017 18:02

Fantastic story. So pleased for you OP. Wishing you a safe and healthy pregnancy. 💐

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