Early scan - thought I was 7+5 but embryo only measures 5+5 - any experience?

[MrsMcJnr]

My scan today showed a very small pregnancy sac (11.4mm) in my womb by external scan and showed a yolk inside it on an internal scan. I had the scan because I've had some spotting on and off for the last 4 weeks but no proper bleeding and no pain.

I have been told either my dates are wrong or the baby is not growing. I have a 2nd scan booked in 12 days to see what has happened.

I would really welcome any similar experiences, good or bad to help me weigh this up in my head. Thank you.

Thanks for posting for me both of you, I know I said I'd keep away but every now and then I need to talk, DH is finding it easier to put it out of his mind and I try but every now and then it creeps up and makes me cry again. It didn't help that there were 2 pregnant ladies at the wedding yesterday and much as I wanted to chat to them about how they were etc, it hurt like hell to see the excitement - not that I wished them anything else, I just wanted to join them. I just feel that I have lost my secret smile, I have been trying to make myself face the negative but how on earth do you prepare yourself for that when in my heart I want to cling to this baby so much and will her to fight to carry on. It might be imagination but I feel that my symptoms have lessened and worry that the brown spotting is my baby leaving me.

Strangetown - I feel guilty saying all that when I know you must be in such a hard place at the moment, I really am so sorry that it ended that way for you and really hope that you have the chance very soon to break good news to your DH again.

Take care both of you x

hey Mrs McJ. I have everything crossed for you. I understand totally about dh's who keep their thoughts and fears to themselves - not because they dont' care, but just something stops them. Mine is the same. Usually he's fine. On some things that really matter - silence.

Also understand why you are keeping away - I've been waiting a long time and as entertaining as I find mumsnet I can just about do with posting the odd comment whilst I STILL ttc

anyway, nothing I can say will help but as I say, you're in my thoughts, as you are in the minds of tons of people on here.

I hope that next time I log on you've had some good news.

Think positive - you're proof it works

SB

Oh MrsMc, thanks for thinking of me, but seriously, concentrate on you, things must be so stressful. I'm pretty good actually, better this time round.

Other, more established pregnancies do make you feel uncertain and worry, you want to join in but don't have the confidence as this stage in your pregnancy, it's very difficult.

I really hope you get your smile back Mrs - 12 days is an age to wait, but we are all thinking of you.

Oh MrsMc, honey, I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. I cannot even begin to imagine how hard it must be, not to mention lonely. I know that I am ever the optimist, and while I can understand the need to try and prepare yourself for the negative. Do try not to give up hope.

I am really pants at knowing the right thing to say, and I know that nothing can really make you feel better anyway... I just want you to know that I am rooting for you and your bean ((hugs))

And don't feel that you have to stay away just because you said you would... As Bob Hoskins would say "It's good to talk"... come and see us on the temp buddies page if you are up to it... you can laugh at the silly things I come out with daily.

Big hugs.

MrsMc and Joandtheboys I just wanted to say that I have my fingers crossed for both of you. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just wanted to say that I am thinking of you at this time, I remember what it was like so much and there is nothing that can be done right now, but MrsMc - I really hope that in a short while that you will regain your secret smile. Take care.

i have posted for you on another thread mrs, but i understand that you are probably chossing not to look at all your normal threads.
just wanted to say that i will be thinking of you and your news will be the first thing i look for when i get back from my hols.
i really really really hope that your next scan is the happy event that your last one should have been.

greedy
xxx

Hey MrsMc - how you doing? Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you often. Even DH asked after you today. Having been through this kind of wait twice before, I can really feel for you. It is awful - on one hand you want to think positive, on the other you feel you ought to prepare yourself for the worse. Try and talk to DH - although I found my DH just refused to think anything until he knew for certain, but I so wanted to discuss different scenarios with him. I suppose that's the difference between men and women. Just remember we are all here for you, if you do need to talk to someone.

It might sound heartless and be very difficult in practice - but I threw myself into work while I was waiting. I was offered the time off work, but I just felt that I would sit around thinking too much about what might be, while at least at work, where most didn't know, I could just get on with life and get the nearest to forgetting as possible. That might sound heartless, but it was the only way I could cope during the uncertainty between scans.

I do so hope that they just got your measurements wrong - it does sound as if this has happened for many other women before. Take care. xxx

I've got a positive story - thought I was 7 weeks, scan said 5.5 weeks (bl**dy sonographer wouldn't do an internal scan at that point ). Went through the blood tests and further scan rigmarole, and all was fine, and I have a nearly 3 year old DS.

Thank you Sparklybits, I really do appreciate and feel the benefit of all the support you and the other Mnetters are giving me, frankly don?t know where I?d be without it. I?m not really looking at my usual threads but am popping on every other day or so to see what others have posted for me on this one. It?s so nice to know you all care. I am finding it easier to be positive to be honest and am willing this beanie to cling on. I feel really sick, tired and tearful today which is making my feelings harder to deal with but who knows, it might be a good sign. I really hope that you don?t have too much longer to wait for your BFP.

Strangetown, I?m so glad to hear that you are doing well in the circumstances, good for you hon Thanks for your kind words for me.

Ready ? don?t worry hon, I just cannot give up hope even if I try, this baby just means so much to us. It?s not what you say, it?s the fact that you have bothered to say it. Thank you . Not sure I feel like posting much at the mo but I promise not to stay away too long. How is everyone? Anything exciting happening?

Thank you Goingfor3. Mum03 ? thank you for your post and your thoughts.

How are you holding up Jo?

I?m doing ok thanks Fettle. You are spot on about how I?m feeling, it?s exactly that. I?m also trying to tell myself that even next Weds might not give me a conclusive answer and that there may be even more waiting. DH watched Jack and Sarah last night with tears rolling down his face, it has hit him hard how much he wants to be a Daddy and in his words, he is devastated that someone might take that away from him. I?ve been doing the same as you did, throwing myself into work but my heart isn?t really in it, luckily I am really busy and have no choice but to get on with it so that helps. I am conscious that I need RL things to cling to in case we lose the baby. How are you?

Thanks Jules99. You are right, it?s hard to think about anything else isn?t it. Hope things worked out well for you.

Mummytosteven ? nice of you to post, the positive stories always help. The sonographer got a second opinion on the internal so I don?t think I can doubt her skill but I guess the equipment could have been old. I do remember thinking it was odd that the yolk seemed to come and go like a lighthouse beam rather than staying static ? silly thing to cling to really.

Thinking of Greedy on her lovely holiday!

Morning MrsMcJnr! Glad to hear that you are managing to stay mostly positive. Is the next scan this Wednesday or next Wednesday? The waiting is so hard, isn't it? I'm presently waiting for my booking-in appointment on Monday where I am hoping they will still be able to pick up the heartbeat...

MrsMcJ...still got everything crossed for you here. Sick, tired and weepy....sounds good to me too!!

Not sure if this wll help but at my scan last week it measured 12mm so not much bigger than your 11.4 mm measurement and i wsa told that i was 7.5 weeks.

I found the waiting really hard when i was in this position last year...my mind was deffo not on my work that's for sure!! Hopefully keeping busy will help the time go (marginally) quicker for you.

Keep posting when you do need support...i found it easier to chat on here than RL.

Hello Mumpbump ? the scan?s next Weds so Beanie still has a week and a bit to prove her worth I have not heard a thing from the MW, I don?t know if the EPU keep the community MW in the loop or not but I think it sucks how they ignore you just when you need support. Hope all goes well for you on Monday and that you see that heartbeat.

In my experience, m/w and hospitals seem to operate independently so it's unlikely that the EPU has been in touch with the m/w. I guess you could always call your doctor's surgery. The other thing might be to contact a health visitor - they get involved after the baby's birth, but seem to be there to offer support generally, so they might be supportive of your situation... Not sure, but maybe worth giving it a go?

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MrsMc, I really want to wish you all the best and let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I was in a similar situation last year and the waiting is horrible so hang on in there.

As for the midwife/docs; in my case everytime I went for a scan I was sent home with a letter updating my doctor on what the outcome was. I also called the mw myself to keep her updated.

love Gill xx

Thank you all, sounds like the ball is in my court though I am yet even to be allocated a MW or given a booking in appointment. dates are to be believed and I'

All the very best!!!! Thinking of you ((hugs))

thanks for you thoughts on my thread, keep going over my dates and hoping i have it wrong. bleeding most of the time like a light period now so not holding out much hope but keeping a wee glimmer there none the less. i am thinking of you too, i know you totally understand how it feels, trying to rationalise bad news yet keep positive. let us know how it goes on 7, seems so long to wait, everything crossed for you. how are you feeling? love hotchoc x

Thanks HotChoc. Yesterday was not a good day, I felt sick and teary and anxious and I did spend a lot of time web browsing for anything to give me comfort. In particular, I was looking at the Ovusoft site because it seems in the US that they are given a lot more info and seem to have very sophistated equipment. I?m probably clutching at straws but it did seem that those sacs that were on their way out were seen to be odd shaped or collapsing at the early scans but even with such good equipment, there were still big discerepencies in the dates. Hang in there hon, I know it?s hard. x

Fingers crossed for you Mrs Mc

with some hope and prayers too. I really hope it is meant to be, but having had m/c's myself as well I now also think that hopefully they were for the best and that something worse didn't happen further along. Many people said to me at least now you know you can get pg and that didn't help at the time but in retrospect it gave answers to the unknown world of conception and pregnancy.

You are being very brave i hope the next few days go quick try to keep busy. It helps.

Thanks Uki. I keep reminding myself about nature?s amazing way to select what will make it and what won?t and whilst I would not dream of interfering with that process, I just hope it decides my baby can do it. I do understand where you are coming from about the fact that we know we can fall pregnant but like you say, it doesn?t hold much comfort until such time as you have a successful full term pregnancy does it? I know a few ladies who have no problem conceiving but just can?t carry. On a positive note, you are right though, it does mean we get past the first hurdle.

This happened to me in Dec.. Unfortumatly I lost the pregnancy before I could have the second scan. I hope it goes better for you. Try to stay positive. Everyones experiances are diffrent. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Mrs Mc
No experience but just wanted to say hi and offer a hug, the waiting is the worst part.
I really hope this turns out for you petal
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