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Only 6 months pregnant but already look full-term.

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eyelash · 20/06/2004 19:38

Oh my god! I have just replayed some video footage of my ds2?s birthday party this afternoon and even though I am only 6 months pregnant I already look full term. I was absolutely taken aback.

I have gained about one and a half stone but was a stone overweight to start so am actually at about the recommended weight gain for full-term. I am not going to diet but from now will incorporate a daily walk and cut out the c**p from my diet. I do eat very healthily but love chocolate, etc especially when pregnant.

Please tell me I am not on my own. And I would love to be able to lean on you all for support so I don't go off the rails for the next 3 months.

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piglit · 21/06/2004 12:52

Just going off track for a mo - does anyone know if you can tell your m/w that you don't want to be weighed? I have "isses" with my weight and have not been weighed since my 12 week scan. I wasn't weighed at my last m/w appointment (she just didn't do it) and I am very anxious about being weighed this time. Of course, I am putting on weight but I am almost 25 weeks pg FFS. I don't think anything can be served (for me anyway) by being weighed and being told that e.g. I'm putting on too much. This will open a massive can of worms which I'd rather leave tightly shut until Christmas at the earliest. It's easy to say "don't look at the scales" but that isn't a relaistic option for me and besides, my weight will be put in my notes.

dinny · 21/06/2004 13:06

Piglit, yes, I'm sure you can tell your mw to not weigh you. My last pg I was weighed but they have stopped doing so in my area now (thank GOD). I found it soo stressful and unecessary.

Beansprout, agree about the comments from people. I too have suffered EDs for many years and find comments that I look large really hard to deal with. People should shut their mouths - I wouldn't dream of commenting on anyone's size, ever.

Eyelash and anyone who wants to join in - let's start a new not-pigging-out-in preg thread. What shall we call it?

motherinferior · 21/06/2004 13:13

I got told off in my first pregnancy when I told the doc I'd only put on a stone by that stage(I was about 28 weeks, I think). She reproved me that 'the average woman' only put on 'a stone and a half' throughout the whole 40 weeks, with the very clear implication that I was a huge porker who was clearly going to balloon to enormous proportions. Which was so very, very helpful. And, of course, factually WRONG.

Especially as I only DID put on about a stone and a half with that pregnancy.

Have new doctor now.

Turtle35 · 21/06/2004 13:40

This is obviously such a contentious subject.

Dinny good idea on new thread. It would be very good to be able to find support when it comes to weight issues and know that so many other woman are going through the same thing.

Can someone tell me what a "Normal" woman is?

Piglit - I didn't think m/w were supposed to weigh us anymore? it's supposed to be about the growth of the baby not the lbs we gain.

just ran into male colleague in Pret who has a new nickname for me, Fatty!! in a very loud voice infront of 100 other strangers "better stay away from the sweet stuff". Can you f.. believe some people

islandgirl · 21/06/2004 13:51

eyelash, I was also huge with my second, and from 6 months everyone assumed I was having twins! I was a stone heavier before getting pregnant the second time, and showed a lot quicker. ds2 was nearly 10lb so a lot of it was baby, and it has taken me nearly 2 years to get back to pre ds1 weight, so I wouldn't worry too much.

aloha · 21/06/2004 13:59

I really think women should be rude right back to people who say nasty, personal things to pg women. I think passive-aggressive stuff like,'your hairline's receded a bit since I last saw you' and 'Yes, I thought you'd gained weight too - your bum definitely looks better' and 'God, are you only 35? You look years older!", all delivered in that same, 'jokey' tone that your persecutors use, might be cathartic. Alternatively say, "I think that's an incredibly rude thing to say. I don't comment on your fat thighs/bald head/piggy eyes/bad breath, do I?". They really have it coming!

aloha · 21/06/2004 14:00

I meant 'bigger' not 'better' obviously

dinny · 21/06/2004 14:04

Turtle35, what a complete wanker! People never cease to astound me! Good idea, Aloha, I really may say one of those gems next time I am insulted! Grrrrr!

Islandgirl, that sounds like me! By the way, are you from an island? If so, which one? Wonder if it's the same place I am from (Scilly)?

Samcj · 21/06/2004 14:06

Can I just add, from memory I was guilty of being one of those people, God aren't you big? No offence what-so-ever was ever meant by it, in a way it was supposed to be a compliment, sort of like, as they get bigger, the closer you are to having the baby, the bigger you are the bigger the baby (?!), sort of thing. It was always so noticeable, shocking almost how much bigger they got how quickly, that it was hard not to pass comment. No offence was ever meant though, something I will try to bear in mind when I am sick of hearing it!!

piglit · 21/06/2004 14:08

Turtle - he called you Fatty? That is an absolute outrage. Can you perhaps say to him (in front of everyone) "If you ever call me Fatty or anything else like that again I'll rip your fcking eyes out". My blood is boiling on your behalf - I don't think I'd ever speak to him again. What a dckhead.

I agree with Aloha that we need a really good preg put down. Perhaps, as Aloha, says we should just say "That's an incredibly rude thing to say". On reflection that's probably more mature than my suggestion of threatening physical violence....

dinny · 21/06/2004 14:13

ha ha ha, Piglit loving "I'll rip your fecking eyes out!" That's what I'd LOVE to say!

OldieMum · 21/06/2004 14:18

Those of you thinking of giving up chocolate should look at this here

aloha · 21/06/2004 14:23

I remember the black guys at work always used to say things like 'you look lovely today'. Now that's what I call an acceptable personal comment My experience was very much that black men though pregnant women looked lovely, wheras many white men found pg women embarassing or comical. Don't know why, but definitely my experience.

nikcola · 21/06/2004 14:31

dont worry eyelash i looked full term at about 3 months everyone kept asking me if i was having twins

OldieMum · 21/06/2004 14:32

I think the basic problem is a confusion about women's bodies. Media images portray as desirable women who are extremely thin. Some models are so thin that it is likely they are sub-fertile (ie cannot ovulate properly). Real women are not shaped like that and, indeed, should not be shaped like that when they are pregnant, so people get confused and threatened by the plumpness that a healthy pregnant woman displays. In the past, women's fecundity was celebrated and so pregnancy weight-gain was seen as normal and, indeed, a good thing. Maybe your black friend comes from a culture which puts a higher value on motherhood than ours does.

dinny · 21/06/2004 14:33

Agree, Aloha, black men seem to appreciate pg women more than white men. Also, have found on Tube that it is nearly ALWAYS young-ish black men who offer me their seats. Middle-aged white men always pretend not to have seen me.

OldieMum · 21/06/2004 14:34

I found young Asian men to be particularly considerate on the tube.

dinny · 21/06/2004 14:35

Oldiemum, did you read Claudia Schiffer is pg again? Would have thought she was thin enough to threaten her fertility so was quite surprised.
V interesting post, btw.

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eyelash · 21/06/2004 16:42

Turtle35 - what a w**ker.

Just had lovely day out with 2 lovely friends who both said I was glowing and how great my skin and hair looked. Talk about getting a lift .

Beansprout - very good point. Like everything else in life, people always feel they have to comment - I think I will also adopt Aloha's 'how rude' line as it is assertive but also gets the point across.

Dinny - I have had an icepop this afternoon but will do my walk tonight. I have still eaten alot less rubbish than I normally would - about one/two bars of chocolate and possibly a packet of crisps . How about we call the thread "The not pigging out in pregnancy" thread as you so eloquently put it? Are you happy to set it up?

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piglit · 21/06/2004 17:21

I'll join the new thread. I need all the help I can get!

Samcj · 21/06/2004 17:30

Oldie mum,
Did you mean the article about how chocolate is good for the baby, or am I just seeing what I want to see?!!

beansprout · 21/06/2004 20:47

No wonder it's hard for us all. We live in a society that tells us we look good in spite of, rather than because we are pregnant.

I'm finding that the people who really care about me (and db) tell me I look great/lovely etc and the rest of them are just nosey/ignorant.

I'm with Aloha and am not afraid to point out how rude i think someone is being when they just pass comment. My basic philosophy is - just because this (my bump) is sticking out, it doesn't make it any of your damn fecking business. So nuh.

sibble · 21/06/2004 21:14

eyelash - boobs are a sight for sore eyes, not much change in teh bum department but the thighs chaff when I walk about with no clothes on (now that's a particularly pleasant thought for everybody!!!) teh midwife who takes my stretch class says it is milk stores being laid down so don't worry and that's good enough for me - having said that I don't stand next to the 'girl' who still has stick like legs in her skin tight lycra jogging bottoms (me jealous!?!?!?)
and talk about not happy - sat next to a bloke at dinner on Friday night who kept telling me how beautiful I was, how beautiful pregnant women are, all glowy and round and soft looking etc etc....he was creepy....

sweetkitty · 21/06/2004 21:39

I've got the chaffing between my legs as well it's horrible if I've got a skirt on and it's a hot day I get a horrid rash .

I'm just thinking about having a healthy baby never mind the weight gain thats all that matters. I can worry about the weight later.

OldieMum · 21/06/2004 23:01

samcj - that's the one!

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