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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Is it normal to want to kill DH in late pregnancy?

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Booboobedoo · 18/02/2007 22:15

Because I'd gladly swing for mine right now.

He's always been a sensitive, caring, fantastic partner.

But in the last few weeks he's driven me to incandescent rage.

a) I know I'm hormonal and not handling things well.
b) I know he's under pressure with his first child arriving.

But FFS I'm 38 weeks pregnant, could drop any day, and the entire house is covered in crap I'm unable to lift because he thinks DIY is more important than making the house an ok place to bring a baby back to. He leaves me in an uncleanable nightmare and goes off to his nice clean office. Every time I move I bash my foot or my bump.

This has been going on for four weeks now, and every weekend he promises he'll put all the junk into the 'nursery' (hah) so that I can get the rest of the house clean.

Every week he has a lie-in, spends an hour in the bathroom, goes to the park with the dog for an hour, comes back, spends another half-hour in the bathroom, then finally starts faffing around at about 2:30-3:00pm. He works until around 8, then says he's too knackered to move anything into the room and I'll just have to live with it for another week.

Four weeks in a row he's done this.

I finally managed to get him to move everything tonight by having a total raving melt-down: not generally the way I like to sort things out, but needs must.

He's in total bloody denial.

ARRGGGHHHHHH!

Feel better now.

Bloody men.

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LadyTophamHatt · 19/02/2007 18:10

LOLOLO just read this thread properly now.

Having just given birth 5 weeks ago I truely, hand on my heart sympathise with each and every one of you PG ladies.

Especially the overdue ones!

I have 2 crystal clear memories from my labour with DS4 (well 3 actually but the 3rd is the horrific pushing bit that I wantto foregt).
1st) Dh stroking my head/hair while I'm pushing so hard it felt like I was about to turn inside out. I absolutley detest being faffed and pampered over and the hair stroking thing was just too much. If I was in any other situation I would have stabbed DH, but instaed I told to " stop stroking my fucking head".
2nd)stupid arse DH asking me, mid-contraction, with gas and air mouth peice clamped between my teeth how much SIL Ds weighed at birth!!! I simply though "WTF are youasking me for now??" and again could have easily killed him atthe precise moment. I really didn't wantto be reminded of how much he weighed at this point because he was just a few ounces short of 12lb at birth!!

IMO and IME you'll reach the absolute pinicle of the desire to murder your DH.

LadyTophamHatt · 19/02/2007 18:12

IMO and IME you'll reach the absolute pinicle of the desire to murder your DH in the delivery room

sorry missed that bit off.....

Booboobedoo · 19/02/2007 18:44

MumInFife: a friend and I have discussed the women-only commune idea before.

But then we'd all be mad together.

LTH: your DH asked you what mid-contraction? How very, very odd.

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foxabout2pop · 19/02/2007 18:47

Boo - don't talk to me about men !!!

Booboobedoo · 19/02/2007 18:49

foxy: just saw your other post.

I've promised DH I'll only call his mobile if I'm going into labour: otherwise I'll text/call his work-phone.

Except I keep forgetting and doing it anyway. He's had kittens.

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foxabout2pop · 19/02/2007 18:52

Boo - at least yours bloody answers when you call

foxabout2pop · 19/02/2007 18:52

That was for my DH BTW, not you

foxabout2pop · 19/02/2007 19:04

DH has just got home. What shall I do with him?

Any ideas Boo? [hormonal PG woman turns into evil murderer emoticon]

Booboobedoo · 19/02/2007 19:05

Well, I've seen custardo post 'kick her in the fanjo' in response to a few questions today.

I know he doesn't have a fanjo, but I'm sure you could adjust the advice accordingly.

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foxabout2pop · 19/02/2007 19:07

evil grimace, not smile

Mistiek · 19/02/2007 19:16

lol - I think this thread is brilliant!!!!

Yes, Yes and absolutely yes it absolutely normal... I keep telling myself this so I dont go insane and actually kill DH...

He works every other weekend so I am pritty much on my own to get things done round the house. But with SPD and almost 35 weeks now I am absolutely floored and tired so all the really imprtant stuff just does not seem to get done. This weekend he was home and I made him promise he would do the 3 tiny things I needed doing and help me give our small flat a quick once over... and yet again he spent the whole blady weekend playing PC games and has anything being done! 1 out of the 3 things I really needed doing was done and thats it. He cooked dinner last night but told me to relax and that he would do the dishes and guesse what - THEY ARE STILL THERE... which means only more for me to do now!!!!! I know we get a little irrational but I honestly just dont think men think past there own noses. And then go on to make jokes with people about how its best to stay out my way!!!! I am 34 weeks preggies, as Huge as the dam titanic, have SPD, cant sleep, iron deficiency which is flooring me and grieveing the loss of my dad this last week - HOW THE HELL DO YOU THINK I AM FEELING....(breath, 2 3 4)
If they only realised that all you want is a little help with out the sulking and the moaning - is that really too much to ask?

Ok Rant over - thanks for this brilliant thread... and you are totally normal....

Muminfife · 19/02/2007 20:08

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Nikki76 · 19/02/2007 20:16

Ha ha! Great thread!!

I have a hearing problem and need to wear a hearing aid - during labour the hearing aid was making a whistling noise because it was obviously getting jostled out of my ear a little bit and causing feedback, but I had to leave it in to hear what was going on only to be told mid contraction by hubby 'oh your hearing aid keeps whistling, can't you stop it'............he's lucky he's still attached to his 'nads!!!!

rosylonginglily · 20/02/2007 08:24

When he is here and not away working or socialising my dh asks me to get up and pass him the tv remote. He fondly calls me fatty and buffalo...I'll buffalo him
Lucky for him he is physically on a different continent at the moment aswell as emotionally on a different continent the rest of the time!

dueat44 · 20/02/2007 10:15

Perhaps we could kill each other's husbands, for camouflage, a la Strangers on a Train. Or, you know, just mutilate them a little ...

Muminfife · 20/02/2007 13:53

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rosylonginglily · 20/02/2007 14:03

When I moan, my dh says it serves me right for being a horny woman and getting pregnant in the first place, nothing to do with him too of course!

Muminfife · 20/02/2007 14:25

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BirdyArms · 20/02/2007 15:04

Oooh, I like this thread - it all rings so true!!! I am 40 wks and for the last month dh has been driving me nuts. I complain about backache - he has a pain in his shoulder, I say I'm tired - he's exhausted (despite having been snoring in bed next to me whilst I lie awake all night).

Keeps promising to do jobs around the house but none of it gets done. Takes about 3 weeks to get anything into or out of the loft, ie all the baby gear. And why can't he pick anything up from the floor, ever?

Dreading what's going to happen when I go into labour - last time he refused to put down his packet of skips to rub my back - and I hate the smell of prawn cocktail crisps at the best of time! This time though I have got a lovely doula who i'm counting on to save our marriage

dueat44 · 20/02/2007 17:25

have you considered marrying the doula instead??

foxabout2pop · 20/02/2007 21:47

OMG - why don't we just chop their goolies off

onlyjoking9329 · 20/02/2007 22:15

in answer to the question, why wait til late pregnancy?

edam · 20/02/2007 22:18

why stop once you've had the baby? Still feel like that sometimes... (bless him, not tonight though, he cooked me lovely pancakes and is now washing up).

estatebabe · 20/02/2007 22:32

i haven't been pregnant for 11 years and i still wanna kill him at times!

Muminfife · 20/02/2007 23:01

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