Hear me out on this one....

[DoubleCarrick]

Ok, so I think I have a crazy idea.

I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant and so far have hated pregnancy. I had a MMC last year which was traumatic and for the first trimester of this pregnancy was tense and nervous. I suffered awfully from sickness and nausea (although not bad enough for anyone to actually be worried), aces and pains, migraines and fatigue.

The nausea and sickness has carried on and started to subside at about 24 weeks. Lack of food has meant that I've lost weight and have generally looked like shit (face looking gaunt, dark circles around my eyes).

I suffered with some pelvic pain from about 10 weeks and by 14 weeks could hardly walk around the supermarket (my chiro has massively helped with this).

So all of these things seem to be resolving and now a couple of my ribs are almost permanently painful. I'm getting agitated and irritable and it's just making me want to cry. It's waking me up in the night and I'm just so tired and frustrated.

Ok, so I think mostly that's everything. On to my thoughts...

I've been doing some reading on hypnobirthing and the book I'm reading talks about the power of positive thinking. I spoke to DH about it last night and he said that he feels I have been focusing on the negative parts. He agreed that I've not been having a great time so I know it's not all completely in my head.

This is my plan...

Does anyone want to join me on a true positive thread? Things are shit, uncomfortable and worrying, yes. However, the idea is that the more you think of the positive things, the easier things feel and potentially the better things might go (obviously this is putting medical complications aside).

I'm going to fake it until I make it. I'm going to stop the whinging about all of the hard things and if anyone asks me how I'm feeling, I'll tell them something good. I'm going to ignore the breathlessness (tested and shown to be normal) and I'm going to go for a swim/a walk to try to strengthen my lungs. I'm going to ignore any worries and anxiety and just talk about how I'm looking forward to my baby coming and think about the preparations.

This thread is going to be my little positivity haven with not a single complaint in sight.

Maybe I'm mad? It can't hurt to try.

Would anyone like to join me with some relentless positivity?

Hi. You can see from my user name that I love stuff like this. I had a miscarriage last year and freaked out about this pregnancy and had a horrid first 12 weeks as I was so scared but I've really tried to stay positive. I'm due on Wednesday and I can honestly say that since I hit 15 weeks I've enjoyed the experience.
I've always been terrified of giving birth so when I hit 30 weeks I decided to face my fear and to do hypnobirthing. I got the Maggie Howell CDs and books and I now feel so much better about it. I feel like I can trust my body to give birth and even if things don't go to plan I have the techniques to stay calm which can out be a good thing. I also listen to this youtube clip every night. It is cheesy and American but the message is starting to get through.

My positive for today is that because I've not put on too much weight during pregnancy and I've only got a fee days left I've sent DH to the chippy for our team and he'll be back any min

I would love to join in on this! I to have been a bit negative and have found other people like to tell me scare stories etc (it's my first and I'm 18 weeks) so a purely positive thread would be fab!

We are going to look at cots today as mothercare have a free mattress thing happening at the moment. I must say this feels like a big moment in the pregnancy to actually HAVE a cot! Quite excited

Macauley - how did the baby name chat go? I can't wait to start talking about that either but as we want to find out the sex we're going to wait until then

Positivisty123 - so glad hypnobirthing is working for you, all the best with labour (let us know how it goes!)

My positive thought has been about feelin baking hot on and off - the MN pregnancy app has told me it's because of making extra blood for the baby which is a nice thought (and we are saving on our heating bill although DH is freezing )

positivity sounds like it's really helped you stay positive. I hated the first 12 weeks for the same reason. It has made me feel really ungrateful but I'm not going to go there any more. I know that I still need to acknowledge my feelings but I won't dwell on them. Can't wait to hear how you get on with the birth! Do keep us updated (and only tell us the good bits )

charly I'm going to start telling people that I don't want to hear scare stories any more. I've told my Mum that I'm only going to talk about the good things and she seems to have taken it on board.

salted I had a massive hot flush the other day in the car and had the a/c on the coldest it would go at full blast. DH was freezing which was hilarious because he normally complains that I keep the car too hot! The extra blood is pretty cool - I've found that my breathing through my nose is louder and apparently it's because your blood vessels in your nose are more swollen because there's more blood.

I kid I was teaching yesterday asked me when the baby was coming. She reached out and put her hand on my belly. The baby kicked her hand but not hard enough for her to feel it unfortunately. It was such a lovely moment.

Interestingly, she said that my bump has "moved down" since last week. I do kinda think the baby has dropped a little as I was getting some weird sensations around where I think my cervix should be and feeling pressure in my pelvis. I'm wondering whether he's moved head down nice and early and am a little weirded out that a ten year old girl has actually noticed that the bump has dropped!

Hypnobirthing class this morning and then town with my cousin. We're planning on a nandos lunch which I am going to fully appreciate now I have my appetite back!

Oh ice cream! That's going on today's list Macauley.

Are the hypnobirth cds good?

Everyone needs exciting moments and first times, doing the nursery must be fun ☺.

Had a minor negatively thing morning, spd kicked in but dh ran me a nice bath and we had a hilarious five minutes trying to get me out!

I've got the Marie Morgan cd and I really like it. I listen to it about 3 afternoons a week (supposed to be daily) and I fall asleep almost every time without fail!

Lovely of your husband to run you a bath. I had one yesterday and had to call dh to help me out!! I've learnt that if I roll over and go onto all fours it's easier to get out. Not the most lady like and it's getting harder to roll over in the confined space of the bath but it seems to be doing the trick at the moment!

Had a really nice day shopping with my cousin yesterday. She's getting excited about the baby. She touched my bump. Weirdly, I like it when friends/family do - I feel like they're bonding with my baby.

DH gave me a back rub before bed last night (and the night before) and I slept so well all the way through until about 8.00. That's unheard of for me at the moment so I think he's done it two nights in a row because he realises it means he gets a decent sleep without me tossing and turning! I could get used to this special treatment!!

I might have to try the all fours roll, baths quite narrow though so getting stuck could be an issue- though something to make us both laugh. He is a good dh.

I'll have a look at that cd thanks for the recommendation, sleep is always good

Aw that's a lovely of your dh and definitely something he should keep up. It's great to have such support and consideration.

It's funny with bump touching isn't it? Some hate it and some love it. It's nice when it feels bonding, especially if baby wiggles while it happens.

Will have to look into getting that cd! I love all that kind of stuff especially if it helps with relaxation.

I've not had too much on this weekend. I had an emotional meltdown this morning due to all the work I think we need to do before baby arrives. Then I had another good cry about how lovely and supportive dh is being! Baby been kicking loads today which has been great and I had a good lunch out.

Tomorrow is our big nursery shop which is very exciting

So jealous of everyone getting to baby shop! Hope you all found some lovely bits. Still a long way to go for that but my main positive today is that I can say "our first midwife appointment is tomorrow!!"

DoubleCarrick - I have the same nose thing!! For the past week my nose has felt weird and I just assumed I was going to get a cold, glad that I'm not

My positive from yesterday was not having to empty the cat litter tray (I'm seeing a trend, about half of my good things are at DH's expense )

I think the cd comes with a book. Well worth it - it's been pretty eye opening

This is the book I've got
I can't find a link for the cd though, sorry.

Struggling with the positivity today but currently as I type, I'm eating a sandwich which is making baby kick like crazy. He likes his food! Every time I dish up dinner he starts kicking! I wonder if that means he'll be a hungry baby?

salted Dh as banned me from walking the dog (he's pretty big so can pull hard if he sees a cat or something) and also picking up after him. I also refuse to do the bins. I'm thankful that he has picked up the slack without a single complaint!

I'm no longer walking the dogs as even though they are small they are pullers, annoying!

I had a sneaky mac Donald's today that was my positive. My positives all revolve around food, whoops!

I also got some furniture for the babies room which has made me feel a bit more organised.
I bought a small pack of nappies too. But I just picked up a pack that said newborn and didn't realise till I got home that they were smaller than newborn.

Any positives this week?

I had my first "hormonal" day yesterday - grumpy and sad for no reason! It passed fortunately, but hearing any more positive stories would brighten my lazy Sunday afternoon

I washed the few baby gros we have so far and me and DH sorted out the spare room a bit more yesterday. Our cot is coming on Tuesday so needed to make space for it! The room seems calmer now and I can imagine it more which has made me happy :)

I'm struggling with back pain and insomnia so good to look over the weeks positives!
We bought our cot this week and got a few pressies for the baby from family. Also had a great pregnancy yoga class this week which made me so relaxed it was brilliant

Good morning all!!

I worried that the thread had died a death

maccauley pregnancy yoga is awesome. We do a lot about birthing positions and do practice contractions which is really useful. Also talk a lot about getting the baby into a good position. I really need to sort my posture out!! Have pumped my birthing ball up in preparation for that!

It's so exciting sorting out the rooms! On Sunday we spent the whole day going through my wardrobe and getting rid of all my old clothes. We've managed to ditch a chest of drawers which has left a nice space for the crib.

I've also discovered the BEST sleeping position. I was struggling to lay on my left hand side and always seemed to end up on my back. So we've pushed the bed up against the wall and I now lean against a pillow against the wall and have a pillow in front of me. It sort of all holds me up and feels really secure. I slept really well last night and it also helped with my niggly rib.

charly what cot have you ordered? Do you have a pic? How about you macauley?

Some of this positivity is actually starting to feel genuine these days which is lovely! I think being able to eat more is really helping my energy levels and my mood

We got the mothercare Stretton - fairly cheap but turns into a bed etc after! I typoed - it's actually coming Thursday haha so can take a pic in situ soon.

That's lovely charly. We've just gone for the Chico mio cosleeper to start with still have to choose a cot for the room!

I'm loving the yoga double we also have a discussion about labour and it's really taking the fear out of it for me.

Thought about getting a co sleeper thingy but we're being given a Moses basket by my SIL so hoping it won't be too much of a pain to get them in and out for night feeds.

I've been doing pregnancy Pilates which is also good! Hoping to start Daisy birthing classes soon. I think they're a mix of yoga and hypnobirthing or something!

I am sitting nursing a perfect 10 week old baby. I hated pregnancy and once threw a hypnobirthing book across the room because it referenced the baby I had "been carrying so joyfully". I was not joyful. (I did find the hypnobirthing otherwise helpful)

The loveliest part of pregnancy is the baby. Don't beat yourself up if you're not happy now. I know I wasn't happy in pregnancy but I can't remember why at all. It all dissolves in the fuzzy love of the baby.

Carrick, what a lovely idea for a thread. It's nice to see some others from the pregnancy after MC thread here too (Hi Mac and Whatser).

I'm at 34 weeks tomorrow and whilst I'm very aware of how fortunate I've been this time to have had no problems, I have also been pretty low on gratitude / positivity. My natural sarcasm has not blended well with the hugeness / tiredness / slowness etc etc etc. You are completely right that being positive - or, at least, speaking positively - is something I can choose to do. Thank you for the inspiration for a renewed outlook in these final weeks!

I had a MMC earlier in the year and fell pregnant again quickly but have been really anxious before every scan. Had my 20 weeks yesterday and other than a low level placenta previa everything is well and we found out it's a girl :)

I'm SO much more relieved after the anomaly scan and actually feel excited rather than constantly anxious and awaiting the next scan.

Looked at prams and furniture today and my mum has bought us some lovely bits of clothing.

Fortunately I've had a really smooth pregnancy health wise though, no sickness and am sleeping well, so I really feel for you ladies who have felt poorly

charly i love the cot! You'll have to take a picture of the room when it's done! We've been given a moses basket too. Are planning on using that for downstairs and have bought a crib for the bedroom upstairs. My husband is really tall so we figure the baby will out grow the moses basket pretty quickly.

malvin so lovely to hear about your baby! Can't believe that'll be us soon!

Thanks mike. I was finding the other thread really hard as I'm naturally finding this pregnancy quite physically and emotionally difficult and all the worries were just adding to mine. I think gushing over all of the nice things is better for me than to dwell on the niggles. You're on the home stretch now!! When do you start maternity leave?

A little girl, miss. How lovely! I've had a couple of people asking whether I'm happy that I'm having a boy. I find it odd. My husband is the loveliest man I know and if my boy turns out anything similar to him I will be very blessed.

I think I was overtired last night. My rib has been aching so there were lots of tears! I went to bed just after 9 and fell almost straight to sleep. Think I was overtired from the lack of napping. Must start up the naps again

Sorry I've not posted in a while - I've been very hormonal lately and it isn't what you need on a positive thread! Wakes to Mike and Miss Clarke! I'm finding the other thread hard too as there are lots of new posters who are in the early stages and I don't feel like my bump posts at 26 - almost 27 - weeks are helpful. The early stages are really hard. I'm really glad for this thread! So, a bit of positivity: I'm almost finished Christmas shopping and, due to my obsessed I've barging hunting, I've yet to pay full price for anything . Dd is spending a couple of days with my mum as it's our half term this week and dh and I are going to Stratford for the day where he has promised me a nice lunch. My little girl is wriggling around in my tummy too which makes me really happy x