Miscarriage - what to do...

[BestBeastie]

I'm bleeding. Not a surprise: went to for an early scan after some spotting on Thursday and foetus measuring at just under 6 weeks when it should have been 9.

I'm just concerned as I've no idea what to expect. I remember the doctor mentioned going to A and E under some conditions but I can't remember exactly what he said (I was a bit in shock and on my own) and that's the last thing I want to do now tbh.

At the moment the bleed is relatively light, like the first day of a period, and its strongly red.I'm feeling more cramping and obviously things are starting to go somewhere now.

But I just wanted to know more about what I can expect:

how heavy should the bleeding get?
How long does this last for?
Is there anything I need to look out for - danger signals?
What should I be envisaging in terms of pain?

I know this isn't a comfortable topic but I would really appreciate any help here. It's pretty rubbish enough without the whole unknown thing thrown in.

[Novinosincebambino]

Best I'm so sorry you're going through this (and that far too many of us know exactly how you feel). You will be physically, mentally and emotionally drained so look after yourself. Your body will go back to 'normal' but it takes time and it was a killer to look at my body which showed all the signs of still being pregnant yet I felt empty. It felt like a cruel trick. Pjs and crap tv helps slightly but just allow yourself time. I hope you'll be ok and I'm sending you lots of hugs because that's what I needed.

[Spindelina]

How's it going today, best?

[arrrrghhwinehelpswithteens]

Hi Best Just checking in to see how you are doing now things have had time to settle down a bit?

How's your DS settling at school?

Big hugs and hope things are getting better for you

[BestBeastie]

Thanks for asking - I'll tentatively say I'm ok.I went for a SMM last Friday as it had been over 2 weeks and there was still a significant way to go according to EPU's scan. Couldn't prolong it any longer. Surgery went well, according to dr. And I now feel like I'm recovering rather than enduring if you see what I mean. Very tired, uncomfortable (I have bad headaches) but looking to ttc as soon as possible. This will require me scaling back on the coffee that's kept me perky over the past 2-3 weeks and, although I haven't exactly hit the bottle, I do need to stop the vino. Very boring. I'm going to the GP to get signed off this week - cannot face teaching (uni) at the moment. My boss is fine with it, but I do want to get out of pyjamas mode. So I may start back to more of a routine this week...

I've got an interview for a job I really so want on Friday. Part of me wants to cancel - I feel very vulnerable, I know I won't achieve my best and I don't want to add a work failure onto a biological one that no matter how hard I try I am still finding it difficult not to take personally. But o don't see how I can not go without making the whole situation worse really. I'm a negative thinker anyway - this isn't helping

Otherwise DS is very well and enjoying school. He's a real treat at the moment.

[Spindelina]

Glad to hear you're making progress, and that DS is doing well. Looking forward to seeing you back on the 35+ thread, when you're ready.

Go to the interview. Otherwise you'll never know.

[Gallievans]

hi Bestie hope you managed to make the interview yesterday.

Being someone who also tends to look on the negative side I can kind of see where you are coming from; but you have a DS so you CAN carry a pregnancy to term so try to focus on that rather than the miscarriages.

Nothing wrong with being in pyjamas all day if it makes you feel snuggly and helps. Just get some with flowing trousers and say you're rocking 1920's style clothes. Stick a cloche on your head and no-one is any the wiser yes I have done this myself

Hang on in there.