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no heartbeat at 12 wk scan - devestated

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Abwab · 01/02/2007 10:22

I had my 12 wk scan yesterday and sadly they were unable to find a heartbeat. It looks like the baby died at about 9 weeks and despite having morning sickness until just a couple of days ago I had a horrible gut feeling something like this would happen. I feel so sad, angry and cheated. I now have to got to clinic tomorrow for bloods etc and wait to see if they have a slot for me for a D & C but it is looking like i will have to wait until Monday. My emotions are all over the place and i'm just wandering round in a daze. Our close family and friends knew about the pregnancy and are all bring very supportive and i know we have to keep going for our DS (2.4) but we just feel so floored by it all.

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maltatheterrible · 01/02/2007 10:33

I am so sorry to read this, I miscarried a few years ago after telling family/friends and it was a horribly sad experience.
Take care of yourself, make a little time for you, DP and DS and don't be in any rush to get "over it".
I felt angry too, it just seems so unfair

MrsWednesday · 01/02/2007 10:42

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

The same thing happened to me a few years ago at my 12 week scan, it was a horrible shock.

I know there aren't any words to make you feel better. Just try and take care of yourself, and make sure you take it easy after the D&C. Thinking of you.x

StrangeTown · 01/02/2007 11:00

Oh Abwab - I'm so sorry, it's such a devasting moment, when the sonographer looks at you and says 'I'm sorry'.

I was exactly the same, emotions all over. Should be such an exciting and it completely floors you.

I think, like you I knew something was not quite right. I ended up having a d&C and everything was fine. If you do end up having one, please don't worry about the op itself.

Best wishes, take care of yourself and take some time with your family.

AnguaVonUberwald · 01/02/2007 11:23

Abwab

I am so sorry, the same thing happened to me last week, there has been some doubt about the dates but it now seems I was 8/9 weeks. we had a hearbeat the day before and then nothing the next day with heavy bleeding. I really feel for you, its horrible.

MrsMcJnr · 01/02/2007 11:26

Abwad, I am so sorry, I wish there was something I could say that would hlp

Gingerbear · 01/02/2007 11:29

I am so sorry

Peachy123 · 01/02/2007 11:31

oh u poor thing... thinking of u x x x

Biglips · 01/02/2007 11:31

im sorry to hear about this

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lulumama · 01/02/2007 11:33

very very sorry to hear that you have lost your baby...give yourself time to grieve and to heal....this must be very difficult for you x

KitKat30 · 01/02/2007 11:37

Just wanted to add my condolences - I'm so sorry for your loss

missingmywine · 01/02/2007 12:26

Abwab - so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel, the complete sadness and desperate sadness you are going through. I lost my baby @ xmas, again no heartbeat found, continued to have all the sympton until they could do the D&C 10dys later - worst 10 dys of my life. Do take care and take all the rest and support offered.

Sheraz · 01/02/2007 12:28

Exact same happened to me, terrible to have to go through. Give yourself time to grieve. The D and C was fine and all the staff where I went were so sympathetic. Best wishes.

Aslarry · 01/02/2007 12:34

Abwab - I'm very sorry about your news. I had a missed miscarriage (9+ weeks) just before Christmas and it was very upsetting, although I, like you, had a bit of niggle at the back of my mind that something wasn't quite right (I even paid for a private scan to check things). I hope your ERPC/D&C happens quickly and that you can get back to 'you' and feeling okay before too long.

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Abwab · 01/02/2007 16:21

Thank you all so so much for your support. It does bring some comfort knowing that there are people out there who understand.

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phanie · 01/02/2007 16:26

I'm so sorry for you. I know too well what you're going through. Get some rest and only talk to people when you feel it can help you.
loads of hugs

amynnixmum · 01/02/2007 16:31

Thsi happened to me with my first pregnancy. I was bleeding a little so I knew things were probably going badly but nothing prepared me for the feelings of loss and grief I felt when looking at the scan and being told the baby had died at about 9 weeks. Horrible {{{hugs}}} Hope they don't keep you waiting too long for the D&C

ejt1764 · 01/02/2007 16:49

Same thing happened to me last time around - no advice, or my story, just big hugs, and the reassurance that you will feel better eventually.

Thinking of you and yours

ejt

jellybeans · 01/02/2007 17:31

I am so sorry for your loss I recently lost a baby also and the pain is awful. Take care, you are in my thoughts xxxxxxx

Dinosaur · 01/02/2007 17:34

I am so sorry, Abwab . I had an early miscarriage between DS1 and DS2 and I too was devastated. Sending you my very good wishes.

Catbabymummy · 01/02/2007 17:34

I'm with you, know how you feel

BibiThree · 02/02/2007 09:32

So very sorry to hear your news. This happened to me too, but at 16 weeks and my baby had dies at 14 weeks.

It is a good things friends and family knew because they can support you through this. It's a long old road, but you will get through it.

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saffymum · 02/02/2007 09:52

My best wishes to you and be strong, I'm so sorry for your loss

Juicylucytoo · 02/02/2007 10:18

So sorry Abwab. It is, quite simply, devastating, there is no other way to discribe it.

Give yourself lots of time.

meanscottishbint · 02/02/2007 10:33

I am so sorry. just awful