DH wants to travel abroad 2 weeks before my due date - do I let him?

[Bubbinsmakesthree]

DH normally goes away with a group of friends 2-3 times a year linked to a sport they participate in.

Their next trip is around an event in France, and turns out to be 2 weeks before my due date. He'd be away for long weekend.

We have a 2 year old already, expecting DC2. First pregnancy ended in my waters going at 40+1 and 2 days in hospital before I was induced.

DH is asking my permission to go - WWYD?

[Iggi999]

What is the point in him paying the entry fee if neither of you plan for him to go??

[JacquettaWoodville]

Agree with iggy - he can make done excuse about budget and then the penny will drop once you are able to tell them

And congratulations!

[BrollySmolly]

I agree - he should just say he can't go this time.

[prettywhiteguitar]

There are so many things that can happen, you could get SPD, you could have any other pregnancy related issues or just be bloody knackered, and he thinks he can swan off. Not a farking chance in hell.

If it makes him feel better my dh didn't got to New York last year on a trip booked for work, because it was two weeks before my due date. It was hard for him, but tough titties you're both having a baby, not just you !

[Bubbinsmakesthree]

The entry cost isn't at all prohibitive, and the other costs (car transport and shared accommodation) will simply be split between the number of people who go. They're all City workers on good salaries so it's not a big financial issue for any of them.

I'm very early in the pregnancy and realistic about the possibility we won't make it, so If anything I feel more comfortable keeping options open rather than making firm decisions now, as long DH doesn't think he's got my unequivocal blessing to swan off!

[Trifleorbust]

Fair enough, OP, it's up to you.

But surely there should be no question of him going, if the pregnancy goes as you would hope it will? Not that he won't have your 'unequivocal blessing' - you need to know that he understands that he won't be going. It sounds to me like he wants to keep his options open because he believes he might go, which is confusing to me.

[smellsofelderberries]

I would ask my DH not to book it, but I am very very at everyone saying he's being selfish for even asking! I don't think that's the case at all, poor bloke was just asking a question! Sounds like you handled it perfectly. Congratulations on your pregnancy OP, I hope it's an uneventful one

[EreniTheFrog]

No. Difficult I realise to think so far in advance, but surely you don't really want to risk him missing the birth or leaving you having to scrabble around for childcare to cover appointments and hospital trips. IME he is being either very thoughtless or selfish.

[saffronwblue]

Life will offer many opportunities for weekends away. There is only one birth for your dc2. That would be a no way from me. Dh missed his cousins wedding, an hours flight away as I was 37 weeks pregnant and very anxious. I just wanted him around. Fa did not come for another week but it was the right decision for my peace of mind. Everyone understood except mil

[saffronwblue]

Fa = ds