AIBU to think she's announced it already?!

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An old work friend has announced on Gacebook her second pregnancy. She is 5 weeks and due the end of April.
She has them gone on to say how she's already ordered her pram today and a cot/ changing unit/ etc etc.

As I suffered a miscarriage at 8 weeks (and never told anyone I was preg) I think this is so stupid.
If she is unfortunate enough to have a miscarriage (as I have found it how common they are) she is going to suffer badly having to announce it to the world and return all her new possessions.

I see it as tempting fate?

London girl - not at all. When you know a person very well you know their motivations etc. Also, read my last post about protecting yourself etc.

Oh, I totally get some people want to protect themselves. Others want support which is why I think to each their own really... Its not for us to decide what is better for other people.

You seem to think this friend of yours that you know really well is quite horrible though. I'd never talk about any of my friends they way you've spoken about her. You just don't sound like you like her.

Announcing on FB at 5 weeks is just far too early. With DS1 I 'announced' at 14 weeks but closer friends knew before this. I had s mc at 7wks prior to this. I'm now 13 wks pregnant with #2 and had the scan today. I've told friends but thinking of waiting until 20 week scan until posting on FB. A good friend recently miscarried at 15 and then 18 weeks. She never posted on FB thankfully but it's on the back of my mind.

I told quite a few people before 12 weeks in all of my pregnancies - and I have had three miscarriages. At the beginning it was because I wasn't well and it was obvious, by the last miscarriage it was because I didn't really care if people knew we'd suffered another miscarriage, it was much worse for me than it was for them, it's nothing to be ashamed of, people should talk about it more, and I appreciated the 'kid gloves' for a little while after it happened.

1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. 1 in 200 end in still birth. These figures should be talked about; it might help people seek help and reduce the 'shock' factor of it if it happens to them.

London girl - I like her normally, just not since she's been pregnant. She is on first baby, I'm on second. I find the way that you handle pregnancy and parenthood can be very divisive amongst friends who normally get on very well. I think I've realised I also really dislike Facebook as well so that's probably making me sound much worse. I should probably just delete it.