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Is my baby pink or blue?

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Jennybug17 · 28/07/2016 10:07

Hi everyone,

I am new here and wondered if anyone could tell what gender my baby is on my 13 week scan? I have a private scan booked in a few weeks but am feeling rather impatient!

Thanks

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Toocold · 28/07/2016 14:18

Edith, as someone who has literally just been referred to the foetal cardiac unit that's horrendous, I'm happy for you either way op but really didn't need to read that Edith.

Merd · 28/07/2016 14:44

Sorry - I actually did think Edith's comment in response to the OP was funny, whether it was meant sincerely or sarcastically. Thought the op took it that way too - but I'm having a shit day and I have a very black sense of humour anyway.

toocold and hope all goes well for you.

Op - girl or boy, enjoy!

WellErrr · 28/07/2016 14:57

There's absolutely NOTHING funny about heart defects in unborn babies. Anyone who finds that funny (especially in response to someone's scan picture) has got a problem.

Caken · 28/07/2016 15:02

Clearly Edith wasn't taking the piss out of babies with heart defects 🙄

OP I'd say girl!

Merd · 28/07/2016 15:10

Nope, there's nothing funny about heart defects. But there was something funny about the juxtaposition of the op and the response.

It was wrong of me to comment on it, which is why I apologised.

(And yes, of course I have problems, but that's another thread in itself!)

TerribleTwentyTwos · 28/07/2016 15:46

No matter how many times I read Ediths post, I don't see how she is being either insulting or sarcastic. I read a post that had misinterpreted the OP and was offering some comforting words and support for her.

To anyone getting annoyed at the OP for saying pink or blue, get over yourself! While it is wrong to stereotype, when questioning if it's a boy or a girl, I see nothing wrong with saying pink or blue in a lighthearted way about an unborn baby. That doesn't mean that if she had a girl that she would only dress them in pink or if she has a boy, they will only be allowed to play with you cars.

Congratulations OP on the upcoming arrival of your new bundle of joy (pink or blue, I don't know) and I hope that these comments haven't put you off Mumsnet for good. There are some genuinely helpful and lovely people on here. (Steer clear of AIBU and you should hopefully be fine)

NatashaGurdin · 28/07/2016 15:53

OP you mean sex not gender. Gender is not a polite way of saying sex it is a completely different much disputed thing.

Like TerribleTwentyTwos I don't read Edith's post as either making a joke or being sarcastic but I suppose Edith herself is the only person who can say for sure what she meant.

Only1scoop · 28/07/2016 15:54

Edith misread IMO

She meant well in her post

Toocold · 28/07/2016 16:27

Every time I have read Edith's response unfortunately I see sarcasm, and it is the lowest form of wit, whilst if it was about Donald Trump or someone equally heinous I'd probably also find it amusing but not about someone's scan picture, who is taking joy in their baby, unfortunately I wish I hadn't read this post due to what is happening to me and to pick on a pregnant woman is low in my opinion but op I wish you all the best and hope whatever you have you are overjoyed.

WellErrr · 28/07/2016 16:37

You're right toocold.

There is absolutely no way at all that that was a misunderstanding. It was a sarcastic dig.
If she had read even one line of the OP OR title she'd know what it was about.

One of the worst things I've read on here for ages and that's saying something at the moment

WellErrr · 28/07/2016 16:37

And toocold I hope everything goes well for you

Uiscebeatha85 · 28/07/2016 16:39

Edith was being passive aggressive and sarcastic, definitively didn't misread what the OP meant by blue and pink. I hate these threads myself and when people misuse gender for sex but I hate passive aggression even more. Ghastly trait to have.

DramaAlpaca · 28/07/2016 16:42

Uiscebeatha good post. I agree with you completely.

notamummy10 · 28/07/2016 16:43

Just a tip: all colours are gender neutral.

Good luck with your baby!

user1467983757 · 28/07/2016 16:45

Wow what nasty replies. Well some of them. Just takes one twat to start then the rest bullies jump on. Nice to see some kind folk here though. OP no idea I see these scans and haven't got a clue!! Hope your early scan shows you. 😊

CwtchyQ · 28/07/2016 16:45

The thing that really pisses me off about this thread is that, really, the OP said nothing wrong. Scans to find out the sex of the baby are routinely advertised as gender scans, I was asked many times if I knew the gender of my baby when I was pregnant. It's just a misuse of language, no offence is meant and it would probably have been more prudent to have been like "oh, hey OP, congratulations on your pregnancy - no biggy but did you know that people often confuse gender with sex and that in fact..."

pegomassive1 · 28/07/2016 16:45

Bet op is glad she came...welcome to mumsnet...but really... no one can determine SEX from a picture
Congratulations I hope you have a healthy and uneventful pregnancy and baby

sj257 · 28/07/2016 17:35

Bloody hell, poor OP.

It's absolutely 100% clear what she was asking from the title, never mind her post! What a shitty response. As if she'd be asking if the baby was pink or blue had she been notified of a heart problem.

WaitingForTheMan · 28/07/2016 17:36

Well it is true that people confuse gender with sex, gender is a social construct whereas your biological sex is what you are born with.
As for guessing the sex of a baby, it's usually best to ask when you have your next scan isn't it, 13 weeks is a bit early to see.

Jodie1982 · 28/07/2016 18:05

Some women are such arseholes on MN.
Sorry you got some mean responses Op. Very C##tish.

I can't see whether your baby is Blue or Pink tho. Good luck.

Vixxfacee · 28/07/2016 18:11

To the pp who wrote "all babies are pink" - are they really?

Biscuitfingers · 28/07/2016 18:24

Now that's a whole new can of worms Vixx!! I thought that when I read it

MephistoMarley · 28/07/2016 18:31

The teeth grindingly annoying thing about the op is not the misuse of gender where she means sex, but the labelling a foetus as pink or blue when it barely even has discernible sex organs yet.
But I'm a joyless feminist so I'll go suck a lemon over here and leave you to it

MagpieCursedTea · 28/07/2016 18:42

You may not agree with the stereotyping (I'm not a fan either) or the use of gender when it should be sex (I also don't like it but a lot of ultrasound clinics refer to gender scans so it's understandable that people say it) but the way some posters have spoken to the poor pregnant woman who has never used MN before and really just wanted a lighthearted chat about the sex of her unborn baby is absolutely disgusting. There are people here who should be ashamed of themselves and really need to grow up. There's disagreeing with wording then there's outright bullying.

AGruffaloCrumble · 28/07/2016 18:49

Using a fetal heart defect as the punchline of a joke is disgusting.

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