I'm pregnant after stillbirth - need support

[hopejoy]

Hiya
I'm not sure if this is the right place to write...I'm 6 weeks+3. I have a daughter (age 4)had by c-section and our baby girl died inside me last year when I was 37 weeks pregnant(had a "natural" delivery). Post-mortem said no known cause.

Feel scared being pregnant again. I am also rhesus negative and have been advised to go on low dose aspirin as I had a thrombosis (a clot) in my placenta. I'm scared the aspirin will make me bleed and then I'll have to get anti D!)

Can anyone else relate to my story? Anyone else had a stillborn baby? Or taking aspirin? Or views on Anti D? I'm such a joy!!!

Hi Mckenzie

I think you must be a lovely and sensitive friend to worry so much that you are saying the right thing. I am sure this will be evident in any letter you write. As someone whose baby has died in this way I can say how I felt but I'm sure you know everyone is different. For me - I really appreciated people who wrote or got in touch - you wouldnt believe how many people did not and some collegues have never mentioned what happened to this day. Some people cant deal with babies dying and avoid the issue and avoid you. Anyway, I'm getting off track. I really appreciated contact and people who recognised my stillborn baby as a person, a little sister for my daughter and someone that we would grieve for fully. Some people, mainly older, said things like "you'll have plenty time to have more" or "oh well these things happen". I wonder if they would have said that if it had been a baby that died after birth...

Folk saying that they cared, telling me how it affected them and even that they didnt know what to say really touched me.

Hi Hopejoy - have just read this thread. Congratualations on your pregnancy. I'm really sorry you lost your baby girl last year- I haven't been through what you have and can't imagine how awful it was, so can't offer any advice, but want to offer you my support - I'm on the due January thread too and please post there at any time.

Pollyanna, thanks for your message. I will keep posting on the jan thread - I think mumsnet is a great idea!

hi Hopejoy
thanks very much for your posting and your thoguhts, they are much appreciated.
My deepest sympathy on the loss of your little girl and I hope this pregnancy will be all you wish for.

Hi I’m new to this, I have been reading other people’s posts and there’s some of them I can relate to, and really seek for some advice. In September 2018, I had a stillborn due to having the chord rapped around her neck 4 times and around her arm 2 times, I was 19 at the time, and I was told that my chord was longer than average, after this traumatic birth I then had a haemorrhage shortly afterwards and was in Hospital for a week through being anaemic. Since I have had no appointments with consultants that I was promised btw. To sit with them and discuss how they can prevent this from recurring next time.

During this time, I have now been pregnant again I am now 19 weeks and 3 days and I’m confused to what is going on? I was prescribed 75mg Aspirin at 12 weeks and told to take 2 a day up until 36 weeks, but I have been googling, and apparently it’s telling me that it can cause placental abruption, that it’s not usually recommended during pregnancy and that it could cause haemorrhages. I’m really scared, and on top of that I was told I’d be having regular growths scans and been given letters for the upcoming growth scans in the months and the scans I will be having are every month when I was told they where every 3 weeks. A lot of people are telling me their having scans weekly or every 2 weeks and when I confront my midwife on this I’m being told to speak with the consultant?

Can anyone help me please and give me some advice on what to do? And weather the Aspirin is safe to take please?

Hi @ShanRock1999 and welcome. I'm so sorry for your loss Congratulations on your new pregnancy. I'm sorry I have no advice but I just wanted to let you know that as this thread you've posted on is from 2004 you might not get many responses. If you start your own thread it might be best - I know I've read other threads where people have been taking aspirin so will have some advice x

Hi, Thank You soo much and I’m confused so my post that I’ve just posted is saying it was posted in 2004? And how would I start my own thread?

Many Thanks.x

@ShanRock1999 Sorry I didn't mean to confuse! Your post shows as being written today, but the thread/topic we are currently posting on was started in 2004. If you look at the dates the other people wrote their posts here in 2004? It's referred to as a Zombie thread as it's old and not current so people won't respond to it now. I'm in the app so can't explain for desktop - but we are in the 'pregnancy' section at the moment. If you go back to the main 'pregnancy' section and select the option 'new' in the bottom right corner of the app you should be able to start a new thread of your own. You give it a title relating to what you want to discuss and you will then be the OP (Original Poster) and people will reply directly to you and help you out where they can. I hope that helps? Sorry I'm not great at explaining! X

Hi russiandwarf,

I’ve managed to start a new thread I don’t know weather it’s in the pregnancy section but I’m getting advice from 2 other people, Thank a You for the explanation I was confused at first but I’ve managed to sort it. Thank You.💕

@ShanRock1999 Ah great 👍 It is confusing at first navigating around the site. There are so many sections! Took me a while! I find that people are happy to help if you get stuck though. Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy ❤️

Hi Russiandwarf, yes it is very confusing I do agree. Thank You for helping me when I was stuck and Thank You. 💕