Dealing with gender disappointment advice

[Mooseboots]

Hey,

I've made an account on this site after reading some of the posts here.
I'm currently dealing with gender disappointment and have ready on multiple posts that it's completely normal and natural to feel this way and I shouldnt feel bad... but I honestly didn't expect to feel as bad as I do.
I've always pictured myself having a girl. I've even had dreams about my future daughter during pregnancy which made me 90% sure we were having a daughter.
I feel I must mention this is my first pregnancy and I've always always wanted to be a mother.
Sure enough we went for our scan last week and found our we are having a boy and I've been crying since.
People just keep telling me the same things.
"It's just your hormones!"
"Boys are easier!"
"You'll feel differently when he's here."
"You'll love him just the same!"
Which is fine and I'm happy to know it's going to get better but that doesn't really help me now.
I used to love being pregnant. I've had no issues whatsoever... no morning sickness at all. No odd cravings... only the occasional ache.
I used to rub the belly and talk to it whenever I was alone... now I won't even really acknowledge that I'm pregnant at all. The kicks that I once loved to feel are now an annoyance to me and I can't go baby shopping without getting massively emotional and having to go home.

I've read online that this is more common with people who feel they won't be able to connect with a certain gender but also with people that have experienced distress from a certain gender, whether that be emotional or physical... that's me all over. I know this is my issue but I don't know how to solve anything.
I worry that my depression is ruining the experience for my partner and I really want to work on changing my attitude towards it.

I feel absolutely terrible.
So in short... my question is...
Has anyone else gone through similar and how did you overcome it and continue enjoying the rest of the pregnancy?

Thanks a lot for your help!

[joannab1234]

Hi reading this post I have never related to anything so much I don't no if your still on mum's net but if you are did you get over it because I'm really struggling thanks

[My3boys9910]

Im a mum of 3 boys!!Each one i wished was a girl...i cried when i knew they were boys and i thought all the same sort of things...wondered how i would bond with boys...And they would leave me when they got girlfreinds ect...But when they were born omg the rush of love was unreal...My 2nd son had respitory distress at birth and was in scbu for a week...and my 3rd had late onset gbs!!And i feared he may die...or be affected by brain damage...And i cursed myself for EVER being so ungrateful a d promised myself if je survives and is healthy i will neber ever be so sellfish again...And ive obsessed over him ever since...(He is a completly healthy 2 year old now...walking talking and recovered after gbs) But guess what...im pregnant again...And that naughty pink seed is back in my brain...And i desperately hope this is a girl...its normal..and uncontrollable...if you really feel depressed and upset by this...it maybe an early pre natal depression and the gender dissapointment has set it off...but the fact you recognise it is good...And coming from an absoloute desperate daughter wanter!I honestly beleive when you see him...it will all go away...my fears came in waves...would i like his smell...would i bond...What if i hate him...and i scared myself...But i couldnt love any of them anymore nor would i change it if i could.X